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To ask how I can live up to my predecessor

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onesupplied Fri 26-May-17 17:36:47

I just started a new job two weeks ago. The job is tough, but I'm learning and enjoying it.

The main problem is that my colleagues are all in love with my predecessor. Not necessarily in a work sense but socially they seem a little obsessed with her.
Examples; they talk about her social media updates constantly. She's started dating a colleague and even meetings are consumed with talk of how their relationship is going. They still all go out together.

I want to fit in and build a social life here but I don't see how I can possibly compete! She obviously has a reputation for being the wild, crazy fun one and ironically I would've been described this way previously but am trying to present a more professional image in this job as it's a step up.

I'm wondering if I should just let it all out but really I know trying to compete is a bad idea.

Should I just wait this out or be concerned?

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Fri 26-May-17 17:40:28

You don't need to compete.

Be you. You're awesome.

Give it time and they can get to know you.

Gottagetmoving Fri 26-May-17 17:42:10

You have replaced her in her job, not in your colleagues social lives or as their friend.
You should not be 'competing' with her. You are not her! Do your job and be yourself. If they like you then over time they will be interested in you too.
Carry on trying to compete and they will give you a wide berth.

ChocolateDigestiveAddict Fri 26-May-17 18:39:43

They all sound a bit weirdly obsessed with her! Personally I wouldn't want to be involved with any of them, I'd just be professional and friendly but wouldn't want to socialise in a cliquey group infatuated with their queen bee!

DomJolyNurse Fri 26-May-17 18:45:46

Don't compete. There is room for both of you. You are doing the job she was doing before but not replacing "her". Just do your best and get stuck in to learning the new job. I'd stay professional and definitely don't try and find fault with her, it isnt her fault they are infatuated!

StarkintheSouth Fri 26-May-17 20:00:21

I've been in a similar position and it was quite demoralising at first. But it did force me to prove myself and in time I forged great relationships with my colleagues and felt much better about everything. It is really tough all you can do is hang in there and show them what you're made of!

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