My ex wife and I have a 3 year old child. We separated shortly after the birth as she would become aggressive doing rows, of which thee were many. The last straw was when she swung a mug at my head. I don't for a second think that she would ever hurt our child, ever.
I have had our child every weekend without fail and have always done the collecting/dropping off. My child and I have a very good relationship, we're very close. I offered to have our child 5 days a week a few months ago as ex told me she was struggling but she refused.
I had always assumed ex was a good mother, even though she has made some bad choices in the past re. ex boyfriends and drugs. I thought that was a distant memory.
She got together with a new boyfriend about 18 months ago. I wanted to meet him and did ask if I could as he was being left alone with our child but she said I was being controlling and refused to even give me his name.
I started to worry a few months ago when a stranger contacted me to say my ex was using drugs. To cut a long story short I didn't return my child to her for two weeks as I was concerned for her welfare after hearing some unsettling things. I eventually did against my better judgement as she said she would be staying with her parents 300 miles away, away from her problems here where we live.
I then sought legal advice and was told to contact SS. SS said there had been a case open for a year regarding my child, which I wasn't told about at ex wife request (apparently I would react badly and jump to conclusions according to SS report). Her boyfriend was selling drugs from the house, violently attacked her numerous times in front of my child, went to prison and was using drugs in the house. He is not allowed da round his own children as has refused to have a SS risk assessment yet ex was leaving him alone with my child.
Ex was warned by SS to stay away from this man or risk losing her child but lied to and manipulated them and the police and continued as relationship with him. There have now been three social services reports made regarding my child whilst I was blissfully unaware of any of this.
She has now left the boyfriend and decided she wants to live near her parents, 300 miles away from me. She is refusing contact as she thinks I will not return our child to her. She is accusing me of emotional abuse via her solicitor yet I have a huge amount of messages from her being abusive towards me and consistency lying about our child's welfare. She has mental health issues and I'm terrified she will enter into another inappropriate relationship.
I am applying for full residency but I'm scared she's going to phase me out of our child's life. Any advice was be much appreciated, thanks.
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Blint · 25/05/2017 21:48
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