I feel almost petty for putting this on here (especially with what's happened in the UK recently) but I'm clueless on what to do to help myself.
As I'm writing this my neighbours music is pounding the walls like it has been since half 11 this morning, which is likely to continue into the the early years meaning my children can't sleep. The smoke from his lidless BBQ is starting to invade the house like it does most breakfasts, lunches and dinners whenever a hint of sunshine is in the sky. Meaning I have to choose between a smokey house for hours or a hot one. It's the music I can't stand the most. I live in fear in my own house that my children will be kept up until the early hours once again due to the music. The pounding bass gives me headaches and the drunken stumbling around the house, the fights in the street and the shouting outside makes me on edge. We've tried speaking to them but they often pretend they can't understand us and become aggressive (as the music comes with them being drunk)
We're on a new build on the help to buy in a sort of link detached house, we were sold the dream that we would live in peace by only being attached by one bedroom and a garage. But to me it feels like the biggest regret ever, we were renting a lovely (quiet) house before renting near my favourite school in the area. To get our foot on the housing ladder, by the pushing of my parents who paid 80% of our deposit for us (which i know we're are extremely lucky for) It's because of that kindness I feel stuck.
I've explained to said parents about how living here makes me feel, I live in fear of this house which has left me with daily headaches, I've been told I'm stressed and depressed and need to try improve my situations. But said parents make me feel guilty about wanting to leave, as they helped us. They tell me they didn't help me and DH for us to leave so quickly (we've lived here nearly 2 years) and it would be a downgrade if we moved from here to a semi. As without the help to buy we can just afford a semi. But I'm fearful it will be just the same as here?
I'm crying whilst writing this, i feel so petty and pathetic to be so stressed and upset over this, when so many people dream to buy. I'm starting to feel so trapped, I try to think of ways to stay out and away from this house. My parents make me feel guilty for wanting to leave but I just want to be happy in a home. Me and DH have even talked about renting again so we can save for a detached and live peacefully whilst doing so.
So, yeah. I guess I'm looking to know if I am being unreasonable in wanting to go or if my parents are right. As well as what would you do in this situation.
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MindTalks · 25/05/2017 16:56
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