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AIBU?

To think this takes the piss!!

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babayjane67 · 25/05/2017 14:58

Have posted about my ' best friend' before& how I'm seriously thinking of detaching myself from her.
I've known her since we were kids though she used to be horrible to me sometimes but thats kids I guess.
Other things have gone on with her in the past.she got me into drinking&I ended up being a heavy drinker but I've pretty much given it up now.she still drinks a lot.other things too.
Anyway we are due to go to a music festival the end of this month&I've been very up&down as to whether I wanna go for the reason above.
I've also had problems with depression lately.so feeling very low.
I bit the bullet yesterday&told her I can't go now as I'm not sure I can deal with the crowds.she was a bit fed up about it but said she understood&would see if her other half or someone would buy the ticket off me.
So today she texts me to say her dp is gonna go with her but that she's bought him a ticket cheaper through a work charity or something so sorry it'll save her money!told me to go ahead&sell my ticket.what pisses me off is that last yr my dp bought me 2 tickets to my fave bands concert for me&whoever I wanted to take. So I asked 'best friend' if she wanted to go&she did so came with me free of charge!she didn't pay anything for the ticket.
Aibu?is she taking the piss or am I in the wrong?
I know I'm gonna lose the money if I can't sell the ticket which my dp isn't very happy about.

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ZiggyForever · 25/05/2017 15:03

She's not obliged to buy your ticket though, is she? And you've chosen not to go, so the responsibility is on you to sell your own ticket, surely?

VolunteerAsTribute · 25/05/2017 15:06

Are you 15?

weeblueberry · 25/05/2017 15:07

Its two different scenarios isn't it? The one you gave her was a gift but this one you opted for in advance and knew you'd be paying for.

With all respect, if you're feeling a bit fragile just now, she's not being unreasonable I'm afraid.

flibberdee · 25/05/2017 15:08

Sorry YABABU. But also, I think maybe you two just aren't suited as friends anymore. And that's ok!

KindleBueno · 25/05/2017 15:08

YABU

AnnetteCurtains · 25/05/2017 15:08

I'm sorry you are feeling low at the moment but it's your ticket to sell not hers , so not her responsibility

PeppercornIsMime · 25/05/2017 15:09

Im not understanding how it's her responsibility to make sure you get the money back on a ticket you have made a choice to surrender yourself?

Surely if it were the other way around, you would be pissed off if your mate dumped you last minute AND she expects you to buy her ticket off you too,so she doesn't have the trouble of selling last minute, even though it was her choice to drop you like this....yabu

MrsTerryPratchett · 25/05/2017 15:10

From her point of view, you've bailed on her, she's had to scrabble to sort out a solution and you want her to pay for the privilege.

And your drinking is your responsibility, not hers.

Very sorry you're not feeling well at the moment, though. That sucks.

SaucyJack · 25/05/2017 15:12

You seem very keen to blame her for things that go wrong in your life that are your responsibility to deal with.

First the drinking, now this.

Perhaps you should detach from her. You don't appear to like her very much.

Dianneabbottsmathsteacher · 25/05/2017 15:14

Yes your drinking is your responsibility not hers as is your choice to not go to the concert and your financial loss to suck up not hers.

Hope you feel better soon but yabu.

muffinwaggon · 25/05/2017 15:16

You've decided not to go, you can't moan when someone doesn't want to give you money for a ticket. It's not her fault she found a cheaper ticket somewhere else.

Sirzy · 25/05/2017 15:20

Why would she pay more then she has to when she now has to pay out for a second ticket?

babayjane67 · 25/05/2017 15:22

As I've already said about the drinking I pretty much don't drink anymore.haven't done for a while now.
I know it's my responsibility to sell my ticket but what I'm saying is she could have bought mine even if it wasnt for the whole amount it's worth rather than saying sorry I've bought one for 40 quid now!

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muffinwaggon · 25/05/2017 15:27

Well you should have said 'hey, sorry I won't be able to come now. Would you like to buy my ticket for discount price someone else to go with you?' To make it clear that she could have the ticket cheaper?

AnnieAnoniMouse · 25/05/2017 15:28

The decent thing for her to have done would have been to say to you 'I can get DP a ticket for £40. Do you want me to buy yours for that or would you prefer to try to sell it for more?''

But you need to bear in mind that you let her down by pulling out.

babayjane67 · 25/05/2017 15:31

Yes muffin maybe I should have said something along those lines. I don't know.
She asked how much I wanted i said just face value.

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muffinwaggon · 25/05/2017 15:33

I didn't mean to sound horrible then btw x

babayjane67 · 25/05/2017 15:36

Yes I know Annie.thank you for the understanding.
Our friendship hasn't been that great for a while now.don't keep in touch much etc.don't know why I booked this really except that I usually love things like this.
My heads all over the place about it all really.

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babayjane67 · 25/05/2017 15:36

Thanks muffin

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Andylion · 25/05/2017 15:51

The decent thing for her to have done would have been to say to you 'I can get DP a ticket for £40. Do you want me to buy yours for that or would you prefer to try to sell it for more?''

But you need to bear in mind that you let her down by pulling out.

^^ This.

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