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Weekend arrangements during possible bereavement?

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Goodgonegirl Thu 25-May-17 06:50:52

Complicated situation, but basically I still live with my ex, due to financial reasons. We have two children aged 17 and 18 who live in family home also. I am currently in another relationship (long distance) and see partner every other weekend.

The issue is that ex's father is very ill - probably only got another few days left, and children are obviously very upset. I am due to spend this weekend with partner around 150 miles away. WIBU to suggest to partner I spend this weekend at home to support the children, so I am here if their grandfather were to pass away? I am worried that partner will say they are old enough to cope on their own and that they will have their dad around, and I should be with him as we have little time together st the moment, but obviously my priority is to my children. Don't know what to do really. Advice please?

jarhead123 Thu 25-May-17 06:52:46

Yes I would support your children and if they want you around I'd stay.

Your partner should understand, if he doesn't then I'd seriously consider the relationship

Sirzy Thu 25-May-17 06:53:00

To be honest if a man was to say that to me the answer to the problem would be obvious as I would never see him again

Stay with your children. They need you.

stopfuckingshoutingatme Thu 25-May-17 06:54:17

What PP said and if he doesn't understand that's a red flag -

stopfuckingshoutingatme Thu 25-May-17 06:54:28

Sorry for you tough times

Creampastry Thu 25-May-17 06:57:54

Your children should come first of course. If your partner has an issue with it then it's a huge red flag and he will be a knob.

Tiptoethr0ughthetulips Thu 25-May-17 06:58:11

There's only one place you need to be this weekend and if your partner can't understand that then I'm afraid he'd have to jog on.

peukpokicuzo Thu 25-May-17 07:01:53

Yep if your new partner doesn't say "of course you need to be there for your kids" then that new partner is not a keeper.

Could you afford a hotel room nearby so new partner can come to you and you can still have some time together if grandpa clings on to life till Monday?

harderandharder2breathe Thu 25-May-17 07:17:24

Yanbu, and if your new partner doesn't understand then that's a massive red flag. You're a parent, your kids come first.

JakeBallardswife Thu 25-May-17 07:35:59

Prioritise your kids, easy.

PatriciaHolm Thu 25-May-17 07:39:37

How is this even a question?

If you want to stay, stay. Nothing to do with him.

DonaldStott Thu 25-May-17 07:41:48

Just to reflect what PPs have said. If it is even an issue in your boyfriends mind, then he is an absolute knob.

emmyrose2000 Thu 25-May-17 07:44:33

Your children must obviously come first in this situation. If your new partner can't understand or accept that, then he's not worth hanging onto.

TheNaze73 Thu 25-May-17 08:16:03

Children first. Every time.

He'll understand

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