Spliting holiday bill

[Lilly11a]

First ever aibu .

I have two brothers one is getting married in Malaysia I have booked a room for me and my 16 year old son for say 80 a night.

My other brother 30 wants come into room. They do a pull out bed for extra 25 a night. I m happy to sleep on this .

I said let's split the room 2/3s 1/3 So I pay 75 he pays 30 .

He thinks he only pay 25 as this is the extra but

1. The room will be more crowded
   
2. If he booked a room on his own it would still be 80 so we are both benefiting from sharing
   
3. It means I m paying more per night for my 16 year then he is
   

What do you guys think? Am I being tight?

What do you think

[Plumkettle]

YANBU. Of course you split the room 3 ways!

[SpongeBobJudgeyPants]

He is BU and a chancer.

[Kokusai]

Hes a fucking chancer.

He is making the room way more shit for you (3 people v 2 for the shower., no floor space as pull out bed) so he has to pay more than the incremental cost.

I would make him pay 1/3 the total cost AND make him sleep on the pull out bed.

Why on earth would you take the shit bed?

[kittybiscuits]

You're being fair. Tell him to get his own room!

[Justmadeperfectflapjacks]

3 way or no way. .

[StickThatInYourPipe]

Is it really worth so much aggro over a fiver? From both sides tbh

[followTheyellowbrickRoad]

Is it really worth quibbling over a £5?

[DillyDilly]

I wouldn't want to share a room with my brother - let him get his own room.

[OlennasWimple]

three way split is clearly fairest.

But agree with Stick that if the figures in your OP are correct, arguing over a fiver is not worth it

[StealthPolarBear]

Yanbu. Those are your terms and presumably if he doesn't like them he can book a room of his own

[nelipotter]

In Malaysia you can get rooms for like 5 quid - tell him to get his own if he wants to be that cheap

[spacecowboy99]

He IBU. And how unbelievably rude of him. Tell him to book his own room. Or tell him fine, but the £25 rate is literally bed only and he cannot use any of the room's other facilities such as the toilet/shower/wardrobe/TV/any tables. He is only willing to pay for the pull out bed for him and all his things to reside upon so that's all he gets.

[SummerKelly]

YANBU. And possibly the person on the crap bed should pay comparatively less.

[Sirzy]

It's a fiver!

Tell him he can have the pull out bed and he owes you a bottle of wine/meal while you are there.

There again if your going to get into an argument over a fiver is sharing with him really a good idea?

[Lostinaseaofbubbles]

How is £75/£30 2/3 1/3.

2/3 1/3 of 105 is £70/£35

[Run4Fun]

Tell him he owes 25 if he sleeps on the pullout bed or 30 if you sleep on the pullout bed.

[blackteasplease]

Why on earth would you have the pull out bed? You are the last of the three people who should have it. It would either be the person who has come into the room last or the young person who isn't paying at all.

I would tell him to book his own room tbh.

If he shares with you he pays 1/3 and knows that you are doing him a favour and acknowledges as much.

[Lilly11a]

Sums for ease guys it's around 10 a night and we are there for 9 nights. It's a 5 star and where the wedding is taking place .

Not to drip feed but he has done some work on my house to help me out (as single parent ) so my mum thinks i should let this go.
but originally he said we would half the room and he lives with his wife ( not attending) so has two incomes around the same as mine in one household

[blackteasplease]

Perhaps the person on the crap bed should be the one to pay less if anyone does, that's true.

[melj1213]

YANBU your brother has two options:

1. pay the 1/3 split of the cost to get to share the room. If his argument is that he should only pay the £25 extra bed supplement then he has to sleep on it ... if he wants a normal bed, he pays £40 (half of the original £80 room rate)
   
   
2. Get his own room and pay more than twice what you were going to charge him ... lets see how principled he is over that £5 then ...

[Sirzy]

If he has done work on your house that you wokld have had to otherwise pay for/pay more for then you certainly should pick your battles IMO

[StealthPolarBear]

A tenner a night?! Wow

[Mummmy2017]

so it's for 10 for a night?

I think i would stump up for an extra room, and leave you son and brother to share,,,,,, Charge your brother for half the room...

[acquilegiannie]

All this angst for a stupid fiver a night. I would tell him to sling his hook and go get a room of his own.

I personally would not share with anyone other than DH and if absolutely unavoidable one, I said one of the teenagers.

Otherwise it can be a disaster. Getting ready for a wedding with two adults and a child will be challenging. It's ok when it's your partner, they know when to duck out and leave you to it. LOL.

Hope you enjoy the wedding. Whatever the outcome.

[Lilly11a]

£10 a night between what I think he should pay and what he thinks so it's £90 . I paid for all the materials and fed and watered him while he was working and I m fairly sure he made money from what I gave him ( not loads but prob 150 ish)