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Trigger warning **Title edited by MNHQ** AIBU-partner watching incest porn

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Messymumof3 Tue 23-May-17 21:31:38

found our this evening that my partner has been watching mother and son porn - he says it has been going on for a few months. If makes me feel physically sick. a part of me feels that it's just fantasy and that it doesn't mean anything but another part of me just wants him to just leave . I'm disgusted that he could even watch it . I'm so upset /sick but it sure if I'm over reacting and that it was just porn .

Messymumof3 Tue 23-May-17 21:32:08

I should add that we have children together . Preschool age

pinkyredrose Tue 23-May-17 21:32:43

YANBU! Btw 'just porn'?

TheWitTank Tue 23-May-17 21:33:50

That actually makes me feel sick confused. Awful. Would be a LTB from me.

Messymumof3 Tue 23-May-17 21:34:49

What's LTB mean wittank?

endofthelinefinally Tue 23-May-17 21:35:23

Revolting.
I couldn't stay with someone like that.

Instasista Tue 23-May-17 21:35:25

That's a difficult one. I even if he stops watching it the damage is done to your relationship?

It doesn't matter what other people think about you over reacting. What do you think? Do you want to break up?

FlossyMooToo Tue 23-May-17 21:35:43

Gross. He needs to get help.

TheWitTank Tue 23-May-17 21:36:06

Sorry, is mumsnet speak -short for 'leave the bastard'. So sorry op, horrible predicament.b

Messymumof3 Tue 23-May-17 21:36:23

I know "just porn". I feel like im trying to make a lesser deal out of it even though I'm disgusted

FlossyMooToo Tue 23-May-17 21:36:24

Leave The Bastard.
LBT.

NellieFiveBellies Tue 23-May-17 21:36:48

so he gets off on watching women sexually abuse their children?

Messymumof3 Tue 23-May-17 21:37:37

We've been together for 12 years and he honestly a great husband and dad and now this has come up and I feel like I can't speak to any friends/family about it .

Instasista Tue 23-May-17 21:38:03

Sorry op I've assumed you meant mother adult son incest. You're not talking about him watching child porn are you?

Messymumof3 Tue 23-May-17 21:38:24

The videos he's watched haven't got any children in them (not that it makes it any better )

Messymumof3 Tue 23-May-17 21:39:04

Instasista--no children no .

TheWitTank Tue 23-May-17 21:40:01

I presume OP means adult incest porn and not child (age) abuse. It just turns my stomach and I know I just couldn’t look at him the same way however much it is "just" fantasy.

DJBaggySmalls Tue 23-May-17 21:40:20

How will you react when you next meet his mother.

Messymumof3 Tue 23-May-17 21:40:34

Just to clarify that there and no children involved and in the porn they aren't actually related -just really awful acting - again I know that doesn't make a difference. I'm just trying to wrap my head around why he would even watch or contemplate watching this kind of porn .

HCantThinkOfAUsername Tue 23-May-17 21:41:01

Please get rid of him, that's not normal

Instasista Tue 23-May-17 21:41:17

Blimey OP on the contrary that makes it much better! Not good but you know...better than child porn

Don't make any rash decisions. It must've been an awful
Shock

Messymumof3 Tue 23-May-17 21:41:30

Djbaggy I know . I don't even want him around our children at the moment

TheWitTank Tue 23-May-17 21:42:35

I know it's not real, but the scenario obviously turns him on which would disturb me. Even if he doesn't intend to act on it. It's just bloody disgusting isn't it.

Messymumof3 Tue 23-May-17 21:43:28

Thank you insta. This has come out of no where. I just don't know where to go from here . I did stay calm and talk to him . He said that it wasn't the storyline of the infest that turned him on just the actual porn but why keep on watching it then when there is so much other porn out there .

ImperialBlether Tue 23-May-17 21:44:13

If you look at the romance books on Kindle, you'll find tons of incest stories. I've no idea why anyone would want to read them or watch crappy actors acting them out.

It would be a dumping offence for me.

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