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callmehannahbaker Sun 21-May-17 19:35:50

All of the time.

Constantly.

I can't stop, I feel I'm breaking her.

Cristiane Sun 21-May-17 19:37:17

It is ok to cry
How old is she?
Is it just the two of you at home?
Why are you crying?

ScrumpyBetty Sun 21-May-17 19:38:33

Do you have anyone you can talk to about things, a family member or a friend?

bigchris Sun 21-May-17 19:39:17

Have you seen your gp?

callmehannahbaker Sun 21-May-17 19:43:50

Sorry, she's nearly 7, I'm on an array of meds, been in and out of psych units for a while. I have just been discharged from the mental health system and suddenly feel alone.

UnbornMortificado Sun 21-May-17 19:55:55

That sounds tough, do you feel like you could still use some support?

I know MH is stretched to breaking point at the minute but in the past children's services have managed to get me some respite (DD looked after one day a week) when I wasn't "Ill enough" for MH services to take me on.

ComingUpTrumps Sun 21-May-17 19:56:48

flowersflowers for you Hannah. Could you talk to your GP about how you're feeling?

TheRealPooTroll Sun 21-May-17 20:00:25

Obviously that's going to be tough for you and your dd. Do you have any support?

Digestive28 Sun 21-May-17 20:02:03

It's fine to cry but maybe see if you can speak to the school nurse or get her in touch with young carers groups locally just so she has somewhere to take and process it all with others who understand. That, and seeing you working actively on recovery for yourself will help. Good luck

anotherpoisonprince Sun 21-May-17 20:05:34

Do you have a telephone number for your local MH crisis team?
If not would you like me to find it for you?
flowers
This will pass x

Marmalade85 Sun 21-May-17 20:12:37

I can imagine it would be quite distressing to see your mother crying all the time. Do you tell her why you're crying?

DeadGood Sun 21-May-17 20:18:09

You need more support, speak to your MH team/GP and family. Probably the school too?

callmehannahbaker Sun 21-May-17 20:22:02

I've spoken to my gp and they've upped my meds.

I've spoken to dd's school who are aware of our my issues.

I tell her it's because of mummy's poorly head. It is so unfair on her.

tissuesosoft Sun 21-May-17 20:23:44

Does DD fit the criteria as a young career? Might be worth contacting some relevant charities, they may be able to provide support for her and in turn helps you too

tissuesosoft Sun 21-May-17 20:28:47

Sorry, typo- *carer

ScrumpyBetty Sun 21-May-17 20:32:14

Try ringing Samaritans when you feel alone flowers they can be helpful

callmehannahbaker Sun 21-May-17 20:34:38

What are the criteria for a young career?

callmehannahbaker Sun 21-May-17 20:34:51

*carer

user24688 Sun 21-May-17 20:34:57

My child sees me cry a lot and comforts me but I always feel so awful afterwards
Don't beat yourself up we all have down times
Xx

tissuesosoft Sun 21-May-17 20:37:01

A couple of links-
www.nhs.uk/Conditions/social-care-and-support-guide/Pages/young-carers-rights.aspx

carers.org/about-us/about-young-carers

You sound like a lovely mum flowers

SmileEachDay Sun 21-May-17 20:42:51

Are you unreasonable to cry? No. You can't help that.

Will it be difficult and potentially damaging for your DD? Yes, lovely, it could be - as you know.

You say that the GP and school know - what are they doing with that information? It's a situation that should have the school referring you and your daughter to support agencies.

callmehannahbaker Sun 21-May-17 21:21:22

DD wouldn't qualify as a carer from those links-I do everything in the house and fully care for her-she is in no way helping me out at home (she barely agrees to dress herself most of the time).

I think I'll try book an appt with her teacher to make sure she's getting more support at school.

AliceTown Sun 21-May-17 21:25:19

Do you have access to any talking therapies? Does she?

I think it's important that children see us processing our emotions, but it's important that they see us managing our emotions and it doesn't sound like you have the support you both need right now. I think it's admirable that you have both noticed this and are asking about it, particularly on AIBU!

callmehannahbaker Sun 21-May-17 21:31:44

I've been in the system years and have had so much help, it's only since being discharged a few weeks ago I've realised I don't have the immediate go to now and I'm feeling swamped and lost.

Dd's school have been great and she used to have one to one sessions with a nurse there to make sure she was coping-she says she is fine now and it's ok that I cry as I tell her it's just my head and not for any real reason of sadness. I just wish I could not put her in the position for it to be ok or not.

callmehannahbaker Tue 23-May-17 17:09:26

My mum's now had a go at me about the fact DD knows we have no money.

I should just give her up

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