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To have told this woman that the world doesn't revolve around her kid?

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FatFacedDog · 21/05/2017 16:21

Sat on a plane, window seat. In front of me, a kid aged about 5/6. The way the windows were placed I had one slightly behind me (which I would have to crank my neck to look through) and one in front of me which I could see through perfectly.

Long flight.

As the plane starts driving towards runway the kid in front decides to close all the shutters of the windows he can reach meaning the one in front of him and the one behind him (mine!). I didn't say anything at this point as I a) assumed his mother would as that wasn't his window to prat about with and b) the staff would ensure all shutters were up for takeoff anyway.

So the staff walk down the aisle and see "my" window with the shutter down and tell ME sternly to do the shutter up as has been requested already. I said "I didn't put it down!" And hastily push it back up. With this the kid spins around and says "hey! I want that closed!" So I said nicely "well it has to be open I'm afraid". His useless mother paying no attention. He reaches behind him to close it and I stop him and say "no! It's to remain open!".

At this point he whines to his mother that I keep opening the "curtain" when he wants it shut so she said "you can close it when we start flying". It was my window!!!

So once up in the air he spins around, gives me the look and slams the shutter down. REALLY irritated at this point I open it back up and say "I'm sorry, I'm keeping my shutter open for now". He screams and shouts at his mother that the horrible lady behind won't let him shut the curtains. She turns around and says "sorry, he really likes them closed". I say "well he can close his shutter but this one is mine and I like them open". She gasped dramatically and said "are you serious? He's a child!".

Now I'm proper fuming at this point and said "well maybe this is a great opportunity to teach him about respecting those around him". He snaps back "what do you mean by that??" And I say "that the world doesn't revolve around him!".

Now sensing the whole thing was snowballing I say "look, im sorry but it's a long flight and I'm claustrophobic, I can't sit for 7 hours with my shutter closed".

She spun back in her chair and snapped at the kid "just leave it open, some people are just selfish!".

SO wibu??? DH seems to think so!

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cowgirlsareforever · 21/05/2017 16:22

Well done you. Stupid bloody mother.

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LedaP · 21/05/2017 16:24

Yanbu

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Msqueen33 · 21/05/2017 16:24

Er no! He's not a toddler. I have two kids 7,4 with autism and my youngest has very little understanding but I wouldn't let her mess about with a window on a plane especially if someone had made it clear they wanted it up.

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juneybean · 21/05/2017 16:25

Why didn't she sit by the window if he was so troubled by it! Also I tend to pay for a window seat so I'd be unimpressed too!

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Aridane · 21/05/2017 16:25

Good for you

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isawahatonce · 21/05/2017 16:26

Honestly, you was in the right. He needs to learn at some point that he can't expect everyone else to cater to his wishes.

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MaryShelley1818 · 21/05/2017 16:26

YAdefinitelyNBU!

I'd be mortified to have my child behave like that.

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Fluffypinkpyjamas · 21/05/2017 16:27

YWNBU he was being a brat and the mother was hopeless. Well done and exactly what I would have done though a lot less politely

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antimatter · 21/05/2017 16:28

problem with her and her son is that they will never even consider that they may be selfish sometimes

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TurnipCake · 21/05/2017 16:28

YANBU for standing up to the entitled numpty

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blue2014 · 21/05/2017 16:28

I started and thought I would say you were BU (and I'm a soft touch) but no, you really weren't. I know he's a kid but he can't always have his way

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RebootYourEngine · 21/05/2017 16:28

The mother was a twat and her child is going to end up being a very unhappy spoilt brat if he continues to think that he can get his own way.

Well done you for calling her on it.

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FatFacedDog · 21/05/2017 16:28

I'm normally quite placid but I'm not a fan of flying at the best of times and I dislike bratty kids even more!

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Shockers · 21/05/2017 16:29

I like to sit by the window so I can look out. I'd be irritated if someone took it upon themselves to close my blind, but I'd quickly go from irritated to very cross in the situation you described!

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KoalaDownUnder · 21/05/2017 16:30

YANBU. What the fuck was she on?!

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kali110 · 21/05/2017 16:31

Yanbu at all

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FlapAttack88 · 21/05/2017 16:31

Well done you. I would hAve lost my shit haha.at the mum not the kid. Glad she gave in in the end but still that was really rude to accuse you of being selfish!!

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MrsELM21 · 21/05/2017 16:31

🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

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Mumzypopz · 21/05/2017 16:32

She is going to have a hard time bringing him up if she can't stop him getting what he wants all the time.

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TroysMammy · 21/05/2017 16:32

Round of applause for you and well done. People like this need to be told. You may well have saved him from being an entitled brat but I doubt it though.

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broodynmoody · 21/05/2017 16:33

Go OP. I would have done the same but a lot loss politely. If i had heard her say some people are selfish, I wouldn't have been to let it go on that point, i would have to retort back with some put down. No wonder hea a little shit with a mother who just indulges him.

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tabithaa · 21/05/2017 16:33

Well done! Nothing worse than a cheeky child and a parent that allows it.

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HoldBackTheRain · 21/05/2017 16:34

Some of the threads in AIBU are so obvious, like this one. Of course YWNBU, I really wonder if people post stuff like this for the virtual brownie points?

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Orangecake123 · 21/05/2017 16:35

100% not being unreasonable.

Well done for staying so polite.

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MrsSthe3rd · 21/05/2017 16:38

I have a child with various additional needs. However, I'm still teaching them that we all have to give & take and respect each other.

YA absolutely NOT BU!!

Poor child will end up a little delight with a parent with that attitude.

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