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Am I weird/a shit parent?

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DrSeuss Sat 20-May-17 15:12:56

DS, just turned 6, went off on a joint Beaver/Cub trip today. Left just before nine, back around five, (excellent choice of destination by Akela, mega thanks to all leaders for giving up their day.) Just read a FB post by two of the other parents about fighting back tears as they left, worrying about them being OK "on their own" although how a bus full of kids and a half dozen or more adults is on your own I don't know.
So, is it weird that my first thought on hearing about the trip was, "Fantastic! I'll get loads done that day!" And I have got loads done. However, now I wonder if I shouldn't be a bit more "moved"?

angryladyboobs Sat 20-May-17 15:14:59

Some aren't. Some are.

I'd be one that's worried. But DP would take the day off work so we could spend the day in bed 😂

ElspethFlashman Sat 20-May-17 15:15:29

I suspect those parents just have kids who are a bit sensitive/wobbly/home bodies and the parents are worrying that the kids will be ok.

If you have a sociable child who's pretty comfortable away from home then you would react differently.

bojorojo Sat 20-May-17 15:17:33

No!!! You are perfectly correct in your feelings! A great day for DC and for you. Some parents are children themselves and do not understand child development. It is great Beavers still do this and keep thanking Akela! Your DC are learning independence and parents should value this! Ignore the studidity of the others!

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Sat 20-May-17 15:17:45

Nah, you're normal.

When DS had his Yr6 leaver's assembly parents were hanging around tissues.

Some people enjoy a good cry.

KindergartenKop Sat 20-May-17 15:20:26

I had THE BEST time as a guide. Making fires and running around unsupervised like something out of a famous five novel (We were more like 10-13yo). It was the making of me and I'd encourage my kids to take similar opportunity. Anxious parents often make anxious kids.

NavyandWhite Sat 20-May-17 15:22:17

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EweAreHere Sat 20-May-17 15:22:46

You are a good parent. I seriously question (silently) parents who agonize over letting their children go off an do things like this ... it's like they're afraid to let them actually grow up!

RJnomore1 Sat 20-May-17 15:22:47

Nah you're a great parent. Your child has the confidence to go off with others, you're willing to let him take controlled risks which will aid his development so much and most important of all you aren't making the whole thing about you.

Well done.

PaleAzureofSummer Sat 20-May-17 15:23:10

Neither of you are wrong. 6 is young so they aren't wrong, neither are you.

NavyandWhite Sat 20-May-17 15:25:49

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OlennasWimple Sat 20-May-17 15:26:13

If you're wrong, so am I

Teatimebear Sat 20-May-17 15:27:14

Do their kids not go to school?

Oysterbabe Sat 20-May-17 15:27:33

I suspect you want us to all jump in say what overprotective twits they are under the guise of questioning your own parenting. It's ok to feel anxious about leaving your children. They have allowed them to go, they aren't keeping them under lock and key. Everyone is different.

NotTheDuchessOfCambridge Sat 20-May-17 15:28:18

I'd be the same, waving the bus off with glee and she wouldn't even look back!

JennyOnAPlate Sat 20-May-17 15:28:40

God no, make the most of it! If cubs is anything like brownies they'll soon be off for a few nights at a time...I bloody love it!

BandeauSally Sat 20-May-17 15:30:53

I'll be honest, my sons' first overnight camps with beavers I was a teensy bit bawling teary. It hit me out of the blue as I am really not a helicopter parent. Maybe their DC were anxious about the trip.

firawla Sat 20-May-17 15:31:07

If it was overnight I'd understand but surely at this age they've been on school trips before, so I don't see it's a huge difference?

harderandharder2breathe Sat 20-May-17 15:32:01

As a Brownie leader, it's not just the parents if anxious children who are worked up about letting them go! Some of the worst parents for worrying have confident, sociable children.

Considering children go to school all day everyday, I'm not sure why there's so much drama about them going on a day trip with their friends!

Smartiepants79 Sat 20-May-17 15:33:47

I'm with you on this.
They are entitled to their feelings though but I'm not sure the over sharing on facebook is needed. A bit too 'look at me, aren't I a caring parent'.

witsender Sat 20-May-17 15:33:52

Everyone is different. I wouldn't be ready but would be nervous, because I have a massively anxious child who would never go without a parent would find it very hard. I would worry for them, not about me.

witsender Sat 20-May-17 15:34:08

Wouldn't be teary that should mean.

witsender Sat 20-May-17 15:35:36

I'm a great parent to tbh, in fact I am pretty awesome. I kind of resent the implication that because I have an anxious child I must somehow be lesser of a parent.

loopyloulabelle Sat 20-May-17 15:37:55

If you are wrong then I'm totally fucked. Ring social services now!

NavyandWhite Sat 20-May-17 15:38:55

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