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Am I overreacting?

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ThouShallNotPass Sat 20-May-17 13:14:58

10yo DD just arrived home from a sleepover. As we're in a rural village the kids walk to each other' houses so she was supposed to be walking home today.
She excitedly told me how cool it was riding in the back of a van. shock
Apparently the dad had given her a lift home in the back of his work's van (think big builder's white van)
No seat so definitely no seatbelt and it's also full of building materials. AIBU to be quite annoyed by this? I know it was a favour and all and I'm a bit OTT in the fact that she has a car seat in our car even though she's plenty big enough to not need one by law, but really? That was my baby girl in there!

I'm not going to say anything to the parents and no, there'll be no 101 logging or calls to SS about what they do with their kids, grin, And I've told DD to politely decline next time or phone me for a lift if necessary.

Just tell me I'm overreacting and it's not really the big deal I feel. blush

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Sat 20-May-17 13:17:06

Nah, that's not safe.

If there was an accident no one would know she was there.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Sat 20-May-17 13:17:26

I know what you mean and I'd probably feel the same. On the other hand we used to do this sort of thing as kids routinely, and it's a shame everything is so, what, serious?, now. I bet she had a ball.

anotherpoisonprince Sat 20-May-17 13:18:47

For me you are being a bit OTT. But I was a child in the 70s and such modes of transporting children was common.
I'm fully expecting lots of other posters to disagree very strongly.

Pepsi13max Sat 20-May-17 13:20:09

On the fence with this. But yeah I'd probably be a little annoyed but keep it to myself.

One year we went on holiday as a family of four in my Dad's van, I was 15 at the time. It was a 5 hour drive away and me and DSis sat on deckchairs nailed to the floor in the back of the van, we thought it was a hoot at the time.

Scoobydoobydont Sat 20-May-17 13:21:35

If she was going to walk home it's obviously not far.

She enjoyed it and came home excited, no harm done. I couldn't be getting upset about it to be honest. If he had taken her an hour down a motorway and some a roads you might have a point

Rubyslippers7780 Sat 20-May-17 13:21:51

It is not safe and I wouldn't be happy either but it happened once.
I remember 10 kids in a car and fighting to get in the boot! Great fun but stupid and glad it is not allowed now.

TheMasterNotMargarita Sat 20-May-17 13:23:23

As a one off I wouldn't stress over it.
But now she knows to politely refuse.
All good.

ThouShallNotPass Sat 20-May-17 13:37:52

Yeah I agree about the fact we did it as kids. I recall doing somersaults across the back seats or sitting on someone's lap when going for a drive, BUT, I also remember babies being held by smoking mums who just brushed the fallen ash off the baby's blanket... we know better these days right?

And yes, it's not far walking but unfortunately it is further by car being that you can't use the shortcut across the fields/through the housing estate. We have a very busy village road with lorries speeding through it all the time (village on a huge A road that's the only route without a very lengthy back track to alternative roads)

Sorry. I'm doing that irritating thing:

Replies: YES!
OP: No but... but... "

Okay. Yes IABU. I won't be letting her do it again though.

TheManeEvent Sat 20-May-17 14:18:50

I wouldn't have liked it either but I think at 10 your DD should have been taught to deal with this herself.

We used to live in South Africa where the nicest of parents didn't think anything of drink driving and/or not bothering with seat belts etc. I made sure my D.C. Knew they weren't allowed to go in a car with a drink driver or if they didn't have seat belts.
I reminded them of it often. The number of people who die in road traffic accidents in SA is horrendous.

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