Advanced search ask you what are your curfew times are for your teens?

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Bigglassofwineplease Fri 19-May-17 21:45:10

What time do your 14, 15 and 16 year olds have to be home by in the evening? Need some feedback.....

ThePinkOcelot Fri 19-May-17 21:48:03

My dd (15) is in at 10 on a Friday night. Earlier through the week. That's probably early to some, but I like her in.

Bigglassofwineplease Fri 19-May-17 21:49:15

Yeah, 10pm here but it's dark now. Don't like it but all his friends are out too. Some stay out til 11pm....what are they doing til then?

Clayhead Fri 19-May-17 21:55:08

10pm here, earlier in the week.

Stoneagemum Fri 19-May-17 21:55:25

12pm for ds from 15, he was always back earlier but had the longest walk home out of his group of friends so midnight was my cut off to worry but never happened. He is now 17 and knows to tell me if it will be after 12 so I don't worry although there is no curfew now.

friendlessfred Fri 19-May-17 21:56:56

No set time, we discuss it before they go out as it depends who they are out with and where they are going. If they want me to collect them then it's 10pm if I am working the next day.

skippy67 Fri 19-May-17 21:58:20

1130ish at weekends, 10 on weekdays. 16yo dd. She doesn't go out much though on weekdays. She likes her bed too much!

onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad Fri 19-May-17 22:01:35

We had 9.30 from 15 -16
From age 16 it was:
1030 On week-days
1130 at weekends
He's now nearly 17 and we've agreed 11pm with an occasional midnight at weekends.
He keeps stretching it though!

Bigglassofwineplease Fri 19-May-17 22:02:40

Struggling with darkness/safety.....can't relax until they are home. I know I can trust them but not sure how I can be more chilled. Daren't have my bigglassofwine these days in case I get a random 'can you pick me up' call....

UnicornMadeOfPinkGlitter Fri 19-May-17 22:06:00

I feel mean now.
Ds2 is 15 and doesn't go out in the week as he plays various sports and likes to go running or to the gym if he's not training.

Friday and Saturday he has to be in by 8.30-9. He's a sensible boy and hates hanging around the park or streets and has never complained. I might be a bit more lenient and say 9.30. 10 seems so late as we're often in bed by then. blush

BadToTheBone Fri 19-May-17 22:11:45

Friday and Saturday, 10pm if just out and about or 11pm if he's at a mates house.
15 yo ds

Westray Fri 19-May-17 22:14:25

One of the hardest times for parenting, how long to make the leash...

I have a 19 year old and a 17 year old. I live in a very safe area, but it's a bit of a walk from the bus stop along a dark winding road.

Much easier when they were 4 years old and tucked up in bed by 7pm on a Friday night.

tabithaa Fri 19-May-17 22:18:27

My mum had me in at 9:30 - 10pm when I was 16! I hated it, now I think I could be the same, lol.

OhTheRoses Fri 19-May-17 22:18:45

Sunday to Thursday after school activities unless planned and agreed in advance. Because they have school the following morning and probably homework. Up to 18 or the end of sixth form. Fridays and Saturdays they have had freedom providing we have known where they are and who they are with. a,bit

Bigglassofwineplease Fri 19-May-17 22:21:28

I enjoyed the younger years so much. From 10 I've found it challenging....and now as older teens....worrying. They know right from wrong but you never know what could happen. I need to find distractions whilst they are out....but I feel all my weekends aren't my case I am needed...

UterusUterusGhali Fri 19-May-17 22:23:41

15yo 2100-2200 on non school night but she has to wear high vis and she's only walking home through the village.

Maybe later if being driven home from a party.

She has a grey reflective waistcoat she wears over her coat and a high vis bag cover for when she has a rucksack.

Bigglassofwineplease Fri 19-May-17 22:25:50

confusedMine aren't allowed out on a school night unless it's a bday or at least I only have to worry during the holidays and weekends

PandaG Fri 19-May-17 22:27:33

DS 17 - rarely out during the week, unless at the youth group.he helps at or babysitting, but no curfew as such, he is home at a sensible time, say 10 if with mates, may be a bit later if babysitting but he gets a lift home. He is at the occasional party at weekends, and has to be home for midnight.
Dd is 15, again she is only out at organised activities during the week, latest of which is explorer scouts, she has a lift home and is usually in by 9.40. She doesn't go out at weekends yet particularly, but if she was invited to a birthday party or similar we would probably pick her up by 11.

Funnyfarmer Fri 19-May-17 22:32:02

When dd turned 16. There was no set rules. She hardly ever goes out on a school night. If she does it's just to a friend's house and is never no later than 8. And that's rare.
Weekends and holidays. Usual no later than 10. Any later than that she will usually stay at the friends she's at.
If it's a party or a some other kind of event. She can be out later than midnight. That's only happen twice and she's always come back with friends or brought home by an appropriate adult.
Before 16 she's always had strict rules in place.
She 1st started to play out when she was 6. In time was 7.00. At 9 it went up to 7.30
12 it went up to 8.00. By the time she was 15 it went up to 9:30. Barring special occasion

Bigglassofwineplease Fri 19-May-17 22:33:50

I guess I should only start to worry when they don't stick to the curfew....

I went out for a rare meal with my bf and ds called me mid bottle to say could I pick him up. I couldn't and felt so guilty for being a bad mother. Luckily one if the other parents picked him up with their ds and dropped him off. I have to have a life occasionally too though....argh!

Westray Fri 19-May-17 22:36:30

THings change so quickly at this age though,

My teens don't go out much, but things change so quickly.
At 15 you can curfew and agree times, just a short one or two years later then it's a whole different ball game.
By 18 you can't set a curfew really.

It's the keeping up with the rapid maturity that is difficult.
Kids are young for such a long time, then they develop into adults over just a few short years.
That's the bit that's hard to straddle.

Bigglassofwineplease Fri 19-May-17 22:39:33

I feel like I am slowly turning into a hotel....and have to be on point as soon as I am needed at a moments to achieve balance for the good of all who live in the house....

Bigglassofwineplease Fri 19-May-17 22:41:02

Oh, I've just realised that I've defined the word 'parent' !!

Stoneagemum Fri 19-May-17 22:43:38

I don't drive, I don't know if this has affected my teen in anyway but he has always known that although mum will always help, I would not just be there. I would be a bus/taxi away so had to take responsibility for himself. He knows that I would always pay for a cab on arrival as long as it came from a reasonable distance, but rescuing would take time and hasn't ever needed either. Whether this be just good luck, or his knowledge that mum couldn't just swoop in I will never know.

Westray Fri 19-May-17 22:43:49

OP it's the drinking that pisses me off too!!

OH and I work hard all week, he is often away or working late and we hardly get any time to catch up and even have a conversation.
I work until 3pm Saturday too, and it's literally the only night we can take some time to ourselves.
Ideally we like to sit and drink some wine, have a light meal and chat.
But Saturday ( like tomorrow) my 17 yo DD is going to a party, probably with flimsy clothes on and uncomfortable shoes.

So one of us doesn't drink, and leaves us feeling resentful or me a bad mother if I do drink, but it's no fun drinking alone, and defeats the purpose of the evening- leaving OH and I a fortnight without a decent conversation.
Tomorrow the plan is to ask a friend to stay the night here so they can walk with each other( I'll tell her to take pumps in her bag).
Otherwise it's me picking her up at midnight.

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