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Queenofthestress Fri 19-May-17 21:01:43

Every single day during drop off I get the dirtiest looks because I play with DC1 during the wait for the doors to open, half the time it's not even playing, it's catching him before he shoots out the door and is off before I can even turn dc2's pushchair around to run after him.
They know he's SN as they're in the same group and have heard me and his teacher talking about appointments or its come up in conversation yet I'm still getting dirty looks as if to say how dare you play with your child

Would it be unreasonable to tell them to bugger off with their shitty looks?

DonkeyOaty Fri 19-May-17 21:04:50

Yes unreasonable. Dazzling smile them to death instead.

yellowox Fri 19-May-17 21:06:16

Why would anyone give you dirty looks for playing with your child? Maybe it's the morning and they are just tired/grumpy. I wouldn't say anything

Wolfiefan Fri 19-May-17 21:07:19

Someone is looking at you and you want to tell them to fuck off?! confused
What on earth are you doing that makes you think they are shooting you filthy looks? hmm

user76895432 Fri 19-May-17 21:08:29

I mean this in the nicest possible way but are you sure they're giving you 'dirty looks'? What does that even mean? I have never come across anyone who would give the tiniest toss about a mother entertaining her own child in a nursery playground or wherever. I might well look stressed or distracted myself but that's my default morning face and nothing to do with anyone else!

Underthemoonlight Fri 19-May-17 21:09:00

Maybe they suffer from resting bitch face

Msqueen33 Fri 19-May-17 21:11:15

I arrive later as my dd has Sen and hates waiting. I also feel judged as she has my old iPhone to watch videos on whilst we wait as she can't stay still like most four year olds.

Queenofthestress Fri 19-May-17 21:12:57

It's the afternoon drop off, and I'm literally either playing peekaboo with him or pointing out what the letters on the wall say, occasionally I have to catch him if he tries to do a runner,
when they're full on staring and scowling it's hard to think it's not a dirty look, generally this is whilst their own dc is clinging to their leg jabbering away at them

Queenofthestress Fri 19-May-17 21:14:16

Well I say dirty look but I mean scowling at me

Wolfiefan Fri 19-May-17 21:14:28

Staring doesn't equal a dirty look?
You are behaving differently to them and they look. I can't see the problem.

MrsTerryPratchett Fri 19-May-17 21:14:38

Why would they object to you playing?

DonkeyOaty Fri 19-May-17 21:16:35

Try to take no notice.
You're not wearing your own judgy face at drop off btw, are you?

Highalert Fri 19-May-17 21:16:40

Why do you think they are scowling at you? Are you ok?

user76895432 Fri 19-May-17 21:17:41

I'm not trying to be mean OP but it sounds a bit like you might be overly sensitive about this. Are you ok generally?

DorotheaHomeAlone Fri 19-May-17 21:18:07

What you're doing sounds totally normal. I'm not sure why you think you might get dirty looks for it. Your description of their kids is a touch rude though.

Queenofthestress Fri 19-May-17 21:18:09

He can get a bit loud, we wait in a small corridor type room, I do tell him to use his indoor voice so looking back it could be that
They're not just staring, they're full on scowling at me

melj1213 Fri 19-May-17 21:21:40

He can get a bit loud, we wait in a small corridor type room,

Well there you go then, you have a reason why they might be glaring at you. If you let your child "get loud" in an enclosed, indoor space, on a daily basis then they are going to glare, especially if ti seems you are encouraging it.

PoorYorick Fri 19-May-17 21:21:40

I really, really doubt mothers are giving you the stink eye for playing with your child while you wait for nursery to open.

AppleOfMyEye10 Fri 19-May-17 21:22:05

Why on earth would they even care what you are doing with your child?? They probably are just glancing over. And you think all the mums are conspiring together to give you 'dirty looks?'
Along with your aggressive reaction to wanting to swear them, I think it's just all in your head.

user76895432 Fri 19-May-17 21:23:22

So a whole group of mums -not just one or two- spend the whole time before the doors open staring and scowling at you? Every day?

It sounds unlikely TBH.

enjoyingscience Fri 19-May-17 21:24:30

Unless you are coming across as a 'loud parent' (oh look timmy! We know those numbers in mandarin, don't we! Timmy! It's the letter Q! Q for quinoa and quiescent. Tell everyone what quiescent means now Timmy...), they really probably aren't staring at you.

I'm usually all kinds of pissed off in the morning, and couldn't give the tiniest fuck what other parents are up to.

Ecureuil Fri 19-May-17 21:25:50

This seems really strange... why would anyone scowl at someone for playing with their child?? Are you sure there isn't something else going in?
Everyone talks to/plays with their children at DD's pre school drop off. I've never noticed any scowls!

Shesaysso Fri 19-May-17 21:25:51

Maybe they think you're 'performance parenting' and they find it annoying.

Queenofthestress Fri 19-May-17 21:26:57

In all honestly, drop off and pick up are probably one of the hardest parts of my day, hell just getting him to school unless it's in a pushchair is bloody awful, he bolts when off reins but won't walk on them, I've had to put him back in a pushchair to keep him safe as he's got no sense of danger and i hate it, it took me a year to get him walking using physio, he'd scream through doing the exercises so looking at it I'm definitely being oversensitive
Stressed, exhausted and oversensitive sounds about right

Ecureuil Fri 19-May-17 21:27:18

I'm still getting dirty looks as if to say how dare you play with your child

I don't get it. SN or not, I just can't imagine anyone taking offence to someone playing with their child.

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