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To want our DS to sleep in our room forever and ever and ever ....

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blue2014 Fri 19-May-17 13:02:37

Ok, I know I am BU (probably)

He's only 6 months and we have agreed to keep him in with us (crib next to bed) til he is one. But i think this might be entirely for me because I'm so so so smitten with him 💕.

I'm also already worrying and a little sad that in 6 months he won't be asleep at the side of me when I wake up but will instead be approximately 15 footsteps away in the next room confused

I'm clearly a tad crazy. Please tell me why I should be moving him into his own room (or tell me not too, that's what my heart wants you to say!)

HerculesMulligan Fri 19-May-17 13:04:39

I kept my PFB DS in with us until he was about 18 months old. He has a room of his own, I just didn't want to wake up without him there. He made the transition without any problems when we eventually did it.

MrsChopper Fri 19-May-17 13:05:53

DS is still in our room because when he outgrew his moses basket at mearly 6 months I couldn't let him sleep in a bedroom on his own. I had a bit of a (hormonal) meltdown. So DP moved DS' big cotbed into our room. I luffs him.

paap1975 Fri 19-May-17 13:06:08

You and your DP are going to need some intimacy at some point

arbrighton Fri 19-May-17 13:06:27

You have to do it sometime, or are you intending to have him along side til you he is 18? wink

He'll probably start the awake babbles soon, which might be a bit less relaxing. And at this stage, you can teach them to self settle etc and hopefully then be good sleepers

PenguinsAreAce Fri 19-May-17 13:07:44

YANBU. 3 out of 4 of our children slept in our room until they were 2. I remember moving the eldest out at 7 months and hated it. They are all perfectly normal children who have their own rooms now. Do whatever suits you.

Every other room in the house is available for sex whilst they are tiny...

kel1493 Fri 19-May-17 13:08:11

Not at all. We only moved our son into his own room because we wanted to put him in a toddler bed, so he had to be in his own room (else we would have to move all our stuff from dressing table and such). So we put him in his own room in his cot when he was 16 months, then in his bed at 17 months.
I didn't want to. But I knew I had to.

woodfornuts Fri 19-May-17 13:08:12

Lots of parents keep the child in with them. Do what you want.

I would never have put mine in a room all alone at 6 months. That rule is for parents sex lives and not in my view the best thing for babies.

number1wang Fri 19-May-17 13:08:20

I missed DC so much after transition to own room at 7 months but my goodness I slept so much better. Probably better overall for me and OH too smile. DC slept really well too - I know this because I kept waking up for nights and nights only to see peaceful baby chilling out on the monitor. Whatever you choose to do will be fine.

Dianneabbottsmathsteacher Fri 19-May-17 13:09:13

Well my 26 and 28 year old sons arnt still in our room. grin

Still you have a bit to go yet op. Enjoy it while you can it flies by

Kennethnoisewater Fri 19-May-17 13:09:18

On holiday in Italy a few years ago we were chatting to an Italian couple and their 16 year old son, it transpired that the boy had slept in his parent bed until he was 14.....14 years that is, not 14 months.....shock

MooMooCat Fri 19-May-17 13:09:52

All mine slept in my room until they were between 18 months and 2 years.

GreenHairDontCare Fri 19-May-17 13:09:54

DS2 is five and a half and despite having a beautiful bedroom of his very own, has spent almost every night since he was born tucked up between me and DH.

It's lovely.

muminthecity Fri 19-May-17 13:10:25

Do you have to set a limit on what age he can stay in with you until? My DD moved into her own room when she was 4, just before she started school. She shared my bed until then and it was fine, we loved it. Had no problems moving her when we did.

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff Fri 19-May-17 13:10:45

We had DD in our room till 18 or 19 mos but we just found that as she became a toddler, her sleep got lighter and she was more easily disturbed by us. There was just a natural point when it made more sense for us all if she was in her own room.

stitchglitched Fri 19-May-17 13:11:38

My 2 year old shows no sign of leaving my bed anytime soon, and my 8 year old co slept til he was much older and still does occasionally. See how you feel in 6 months, if you aren't ready then don't do it.

NewStateswoman Fri 19-May-17 13:12:02

wood shock

People put their children into their own rooms so they can back to constant shagging? Don't be ridiculous.

I had to move DS because DH's snoring kept him awake. And DD has loved her own dark quiet space since she was tiny.

Fuck off with your nonsense. confused

elevenclips Fri 19-May-17 13:12:58

Do what you want op, my kids love coming for a sleepover with me when dh is away for work. Aged 9&11 years old.

Blimey01 Fri 19-May-17 13:13:11

There's no time limit. Every family is different so do it when you think it the right time.
My DS was 3 when he moved into his own room. DD abit earlier.

MagicTractor Fri 19-May-17 13:14:40

I've got either a 6 year old boy or a 4 year old boy in with me most nights. 😬

blueberryporridge Fri 19-May-17 13:14:52

If you want to keep your baby in with you for longer, that is absolutely fine. Both of mine stayed in with us for much, much longer than 6 months. I think mine were happier being in with us - they are both very good sleepers and there have never been any problems getting them to go to bed at night whatsoever. I was happier with them in with me too and slept better because of that. As for, ahem,other considerations, I am sure you have other rooms in your house!

BandeauSally Fri 19-May-17 13:16:32

My 8 year old is still in with me hmm grin

liz70 Fri 19-May-17 13:17:29

My rule with DDs 1 and 2 was when they could safely get themselves out of a bed and toddle into our room, they were ready to go into their own room, so about 14 to 18 months. With DD3 it was slightly different as she was happy to stay in a sleeping bag in a cot until she was near three, and by this time DH and I had moved to a sofa bed in the living room, so we used a monitor. Most times she'd happily sit or lie awake until we fetched her. Six months does seem tiny to be in a room alone IMO.

flapjackfairy Fri 19-May-17 13:17:36

Just wanted to depress you by telling you it doesnt get any easier!
I mourned the passing of every phase and this week there were heartwrenching moments as youngest dd who is 17 has been on her first date! I am now officially redundant and the last few weeks she has become increasingly independant and has gone from wanting to go everywhere with me to not even saying goodbye whilst racing out the door.
You know it has to happen but by god it hurts to realise that you are no longer the centre of their world!
How i long for my little girls back !

flapjackfairy Fri 19-May-17 13:18:17

Sorry derailed a bit there! Feeling a bit sorry for myself !

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