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Yes you are lucky. Well done

Honeydragon thank fuck for that

Bully for you 🙄

Oh ignore the PA replies, you're absolutely right op.

And this morning I feel like my dp is the biggest one in the world.

I know what you mean, but many posters only come here to ask for advice when their DH/DP is being a twat so it's doesn't really represent RL.

And there are lots of equally bad female partners out there too, but we don't hear anywhere near as much about them, for very obvious reasons. And we all know pretty much everyone in the world will talk about negative stuff more often than positive stuff both on real life and on forums. If you have a bad experience with a company, you tell far more people than if you had a good one.

BlueDaBaDee Have you tried not being a cunt?

Lovely, cheers. I just think threads like these are so unnecessary. Somebody wouldn't post 'oh every time I'm on mumsnet I see people who are so poor/ stupid/ lonely, I'm so lucky I'm rich/ clever/ loved'.

But thanks for calling me a cunt. I've just escaped from the grasp of one of the men OP is talking about. He's still threatening to kill me this morning. Probably because I'm a cunt. Thanks for adding to the abuse, hope it's made you feel good. 😘

If you think MN is a representation of real life then you really should stay off of the internet.

Take it in context though OP. The vast majority of posts about DP's are when there's an issue rather than just to say how great things are.

Plenty of twats on here too. (Not on this thread, just in general. Starting with that prick who has nothing better to do than bump zombie threads because it thinks it annoys people and that pleases it for some reason it really should look into!)

BlueDaBaDee

What is it you're trying to say? That this should be a safe space so you aren't triggered.

I suspect that the OP didn't begin this just to make you feel bad but your 'bully for you' (and subsequent post) was entirely to make the OP feel bad. That is cuntish.

Blue it's absolutely fantastic that you've got away from the abuse. Well done, but your post was passive aggressive and unless you've had an empathy bypass you knew that when you posted it. I have nothing but admiration for women who escape abusive relationships, I've done it myself. I don't think that gives me the right to suck the joy from other people.

What is it you're trying to say? That this should be a safe space so you aren't triggered.

I'm not triggered 😂 I just thought the post was a little self congratulating and unnecessary. If you disagree, fine. I guess I just don't expect to be called a cunt by a random presumably adult stranger on the internet.

And I'm damn sure the poster of such a cheer thread didn't expect such a cuntish response.

Don't act like one then.

In America they say there are more horses' asses than horses.

Yes there are, but those of us who have lovely partners and husbands aren't likely to start threads saying that. You're only hearing the bad stuff.

I don't see anything self congratulatory in the post. I see an expression of gratitude. So is no one allowed to be happy now because other people may not be?

I think it's very very important that we have threads that show that normal respectful positive relationships do happen and not just ones where men are twats.

I also think there's a difference between posting on an existing thread about twattery to say how wonderful your dh is and a thread like this.

I agree OP - I think it's good to be grateful for what we've got. I've been very lucky with my life and that's not being smug, it's being grateful. Although there was a time when I might have swapped the youngest DC for a cat.

I see both sides really. I understand why this post is annoying but there is a benefit in trying to show people that it's perfectly possible to have a nice partner.

Sty the OP should not be regarded as "lucky" to not have a twat of a DH/DP. It should be the norm for everyone everywhere. Sadly it's not and recognising that as lucky says something quite sad about the expectations of both men and women.