Don't want to make it too boring a long, but some background. Dh and I both work full time, we have 2 dc- 5 and 7. I've Ben in my job about 2 years, before that I was a teacher for a long time and left due to stress, workload etc. I was part time when I left teaching, although had been full time. I commute an hour each way.
I have a long term mental health condition that I manage pretty well with medication. But although I was fine when I started my current role, I'm exhausted. I have periods when I struggle. I have a couple of weeks off for mental health in the 2 yrs. There's recently been a change of management and work is a lot more stressful. Not so much the work, but the environment. We are heavily monitored, docked pay for lateness beyond our control (accident/cancelled train), lots of changes to policy without consultation (sickness absence, carer's leave etc)
I did lots of calculations with money and talked to Dh about part time. Obviously we would be worse off, but would offset some of it with savings in childcare, travel etc. For me it is also that the kids are exhausted a lot, I feel like they'd benefit from being picked up from school at least once a week.
Dh initially agreed, but has now backtracked. His argument is that it will scupper chances of me progressing (true), and money. We have struggled financially for a long time. We are finally in a place where we aren't living pay check to pay check, we never go in overdraft and are actually going on holiday this year (just UK cottage). I get it. But I'm so bloody tired.
He grew up poor and has always worried about money. He wants to be in a place where we are OK financially. But I just don't know if I can keep doing it. Aibu?
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WifeofUthred · 17/05/2017 07:04
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