'Bring a bottle' still acceptable?

[digitdisaster]

Adult's 50th party at ours. Afternoon 'do in garden. Family and friends. We'll provide food and some drinks. Is this ok on invite or not anymore?

Cheers

[PurpleDaisies]

Of course!

[Trifleorbust]

Why wouldn't it be? Sounds lovely.

[KingJoffreysRestingCuntface]

If it's a BBQ type thing I expect people will anyway.

[SheSaidHeSaid]

I always say this when I hold a party.

[MrsStinkey]

I would put it on and I wouldn't be offended if I got an invite with BYOB. Far cheaper than having to buy drinks from a bar at a party in a hall or something and also far cheaper than going for a meal where you pay your share and for drinks!

[mslevine86]

Yep! I usually say 'there will be some wine/beers etc but bring what you like to drink'

[Queenofthebrae]

I'd say it's absolutely fine to say BYOB. To be honest I'd never dream of attending a party at someone's home without taking at least a couple of bottles of wine / fizz.

[digitdisaster]

Cool. We always do take with but I was just doing invite and thought, ooooo, I wonder if this would be seen as a bit, ummm, cheeky?!

Will leave as is!

[ShatnersBassoon]

Yes, it's what people would expect at a barbecue party. You won't need to put it on the invitation.

[Crunchyside]

Personally I prefer "BYOB" - bring your own bottle - to me that implies if you want to drink, bring your own... Whereas "bring a bottle" sound a bit like you must contribute a drink to the party even if you're teetotal/designated driver/pregnant/not a heavy drinker etc.

That's just my interpretation though and I totally wouldn't be offended if I saw "bring a bottle" on an invite

[kel1493]

Sorry but I can not stand hosts asking people to bring drinks to parties or gatherings of any sort.
To me it screams tight.
Hosts provides all IMO

[Tiptoethr0ughthetulips]

Absolutely, I always bring a bottle regardless of whether I'm asked or not. Alcohol is expensive.

[987flowers]

To me it screams tight.
Hosts provides all IMO

I don't get this attitude. My friends would rather contribute and enjoy a good evening than never be invited as I don't have the money to provide all the drinks for a lot of people. We have great gatherings (for varieties of reasons) and would be sad if they stopped just because a friend won't provide it all.

[ShatnersBassoon]

Kel1493, would you take a couple of bottles along to a barbecue party if it wasn't requested on the invitation?

[SimonsPies]

Get many invitations Kel?

[coldflange]

I don't state it on invitations, nor do my friends
It's just the rule to take a bottle /box of beer/spirit of choice anyway.

[FelixtheMouse]

Always bring a bottle. Unless it's a black tie event.

[Doilooklikeatourist]

If it's an invitation to a friends , then I wouldn't dream of turning up empty handed
Probably bring a bottle of red and a bottle of white 🍷

[BillyButtfuck]

Funnily enough I just received a Facebook invite for a friends house warming BBQ.

No problems at all with this!

[susanboozan]

I'd be stunned NOT to see this on a BBQ outdoors/home event invite TBH.

But most people unless they are stinge personified would bring a bevvie anyway.

[29Palms]

kel1493
What if there's nothing provided that you like to drink?

I'd far rather bring something I like than gamble on there being something on offer that suits my taste.

[OhTheRoses]

I think if you invite friends to a party, especially when you are a grown up 50, you provide sufficient refreshments. If guests bring gifts that's up to them but shouldn't be a prerequisite.

[GoneGirl]

I wouldn't dream of asking my friends or family to bring anything to a party or gathering I'm hosting. But I know that most would and I always do if I'm the guest. I don't need to be told.

I'm sorry OP but I do think it goes against the spirit of hosting.

Having said that, it may be a cultural thing. I'm 2nd generation British and there is food and drink to feed the five thousand at our family gatherings

[PigletWasPoohsFriend]

Absolutely. Nothing wrong with it at all.

[RortyCrankle]

The last special occasion party I hosted, I provided all food and drink and it would never have occurred to me to ask people to bring their own bottle, nor did they.

It's totally different to having a barbecue for no particular reason, when I would expect people to bring their own.