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'Bring a bottle' still acceptable?

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digitdisaster Mon 15-May-17 20:43:52

Adult's 50th party at ours. Afternoon 'do in garden. Family and friends. We'll provide food and some drinks. Is this ok on invite or not anymore?

Cheers

PurpleDaisies Mon 15-May-17 20:44:40

Of course!

Trifleorbust Mon 15-May-17 20:44:40

Why wouldn't it be? Sounds lovely.

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Mon 15-May-17 20:45:44

If it's a BBQ type thing I expect people will anyway.

SheSaidHeSaid Mon 15-May-17 20:45:56

I always say this when I hold a party.

MrsStinkey Mon 15-May-17 20:46:30

I would put it on and I wouldn't be offended if I got an invite with BYOB. Far cheaper than having to buy drinks from a bar at a party in a hall or something and also far cheaper than going for a meal where you pay your share and for drinks!

mslevine86 Mon 15-May-17 20:46:44

Yep! I usually say 'there will be some wine/beers etc but bring what you like to drink'

Queenofthebrae Mon 15-May-17 20:46:55

I'd say it's absolutely fine to say BYOB. To be honest I'd never dream of attending a party at someone's home without taking at least a couple of bottles of wine / fizz.

digitdisaster Mon 15-May-17 20:47:41

Cool. We always do take with but I was just doing invite and thought, ooooo, I wonder if this would be seen as a bit, ummm, cheeky?!

Will leave as is!

ShatnersBassoon Mon 15-May-17 20:47:53

Yes, it's what people would expect at a barbecue party. You won't need to put it on the invitation.

Crunchyside Mon 15-May-17 20:47:57

Personally I prefer "BYOB" - bring your own bottle - to me that implies if you want to drink, bring your own... Whereas "bring a bottle" sound a bit like you must contribute a drink to the party even if you're teetotal/designated driver/pregnant/not a heavy drinker etc.

That's just my interpretation though and I totally wouldn't be offended if I saw "bring a bottle" on an invite smile

kel1493 Mon 15-May-17 20:48:02

Sorry but I can not stand hosts asking people to bring drinks to parties or gatherings of any sort.
To me it screams tight.
Hosts provides all IMO

Tiptoethr0ughthetulips Mon 15-May-17 20:48:30

Absolutely, I always bring a bottle regardless of whether I'm asked or not. Alcohol is expensive.

987flowers Mon 15-May-17 20:52:06

*To me it screams tight.
Hosts provides all IMO*

I don't get this attitude. My friends would rather contribute and enjoy a good evening than never be invited as I don't have the money to provide all the drinks for a lot of people. We have great gatherings (for varieties of reasons) and would be sad if they stopped just because a friend won't provide it all.

ShatnersBassoon Mon 15-May-17 20:54:44

Kel1493, would you take a couple of bottles along to a barbecue party if it wasn't requested on the invitation?

SimonsPies Mon 15-May-17 20:57:13

Get many invitations Kel?

coldflange Mon 15-May-17 20:58:52

I don't state it on invitations, nor do my friends
It's just the rule to take a bottle /box of beer/spirit of choice anyway.

FelixtheMouse Mon 15-May-17 21:00:45

Always bring a bottle. Unless it's a black tie event.

Doilooklikeatourist Mon 15-May-17 21:18:37

If it's an invitation to a friends , then I wouldn't dream of turning up empty handed
Probably bring a bottle of red and a bottle of white 🍷

BillyButtfuck Mon 15-May-17 21:18:40

Funnily enough I just received a Facebook invite for a friends house warming BBQ.

No problems at all with this!

susanboozan Mon 15-May-17 21:21:44

I'd be stunned NOT to see this on a BBQ outdoors/home event invite TBH.

But most people unless they are stinge personified would bring a bevvie anyway.

29Palms Mon 15-May-17 21:24:06

kel1493
What if there's nothing provided that you like to drink?

I'd far rather bring something I like than gamble on there being something on offer that suits my taste.

OhTheRoses Mon 15-May-17 21:26:37

I think if you invite friends to a party, especially when you are a grown up 50, you provide sufficient refreshments. If guests bring gifts that's up to them but shouldn't be a prerequisite.

GoneGirl Mon 15-May-17 21:27:16

I wouldn't dream of asking my friends or family to bring anything to a party or gathering I'm hosting. But I know that most would and I always do if I'm the guest. I don't need to be told.

I'm sorry OP but I do think it goes against the spirit of hosting.

Having said that, it may be a cultural thing. I'm 2nd generation British and there is food and drink to feed the five thousand at our family gatherings grin

PigletWasPoohsFriend Mon 15-May-17 21:29:04

Absolutely. Nothing wrong with it at all.

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