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shandyhands Mon 15-May-17 13:02:46

My 3 year old is due to start nursey soon, just for a couple hours and up until now I thought I would be able to choose how many days she does, just spoke to nursey (they're part of the local school she will probably go to) and they said it's 5 days a week or nothing basically. Honestly had no idea she would have to go everyday and am not happy with it, we do a lot of stuff together I'm a sahm and we're out everyday doing all sorts and am really upset at losing this time with her, thought i could get her in 2 or 3 days a week and it would be good for her but everyday seems too much for her and honestly me too, so wwyd? Pull her out or send her in everyday to see how she goes? I don't want her to miss out but I really think it's too much

would love some other opinions having a lot of trouble deciding what to do

RedHelenB Mon 15-May-17 13:04:52

I gave my children 5 mornings a week when they were about to be 4 in readiness for school. Before that they had a couple of sessions at pre school a week. H TH.

greenkite0 Mon 15-May-17 13:06:35

It's only about 4 hours every day. Its so good for the children and trust me the time flies! My son who is 3 next month has been in nursery (pre school) for a year and it was the best choice I ever made. He goes 4 hours 4 days a week. I love hearing what he gets up to and to be honest I love having my independence back

NataliaOsipova Mon 15-May-17 13:06:48

If it's a school nursery, then it will be every day as it's a very structured, school-type environment. You could look at a Preschool if you don't want that; they follow the same EYFS curriculum, but it's a bit less formal and with a wider range of ages.

firawla Mon 15-May-17 13:09:13

You can choose a different nursery? One of mine did school nursery like that, 5 days a week about 3 hours a day, but my others I used different local nurseries and one did 2.5 days and the other did 3 days, so we kept some time free. Have a look and visit some to see what you think of them? But if not, if you can get morning place in school it still leaves you free the rest of the day.

dementedpixie Mon 15-May-17 13:10:28

Mine just did 5 mornings a week. We did stuff in the afternoon.

Ecureuil Mon 15-May-17 13:11:27

Are there any other pre schools around?
Mine is 3.5 and she does 15 hours (2 days 9-3 and one day 9-12) but we could have done less... she started doing 2 mornings a week 9-12 then increased.

Soubriquet Mon 15-May-17 13:11:52

My 2 year old does 5 days a week at 3 hours a day,

Took a bit of adjusting but he settled in nicely

Allthewaves Mon 15-May-17 13:13:27

Yep standard if u want a funded preschool place. Mine do 9-11.30

Allthewaves Mon 15-May-17 13:14:19

You want to look at daycares if u want somthing different

witsender Mon 15-May-17 13:14:53

You don't have to do it at all, 3 is very little. Are there any other places? Near me most of them let you use your 15 hours however there is space.

Allthewaves Mon 15-May-17 13:15:17

All check school criteria. Our prechool is a feeder to main scool and they get priority places

liz70 Mon 15-May-17 13:16:31

If it is a standard LA nursery then yes, I think the 5 mornings p/w is standard, and non negotiable, I'm afraid, unless someone else can correct me otherwise. If you think that's too much for your DD just now then you could always delay sending her until she's a bit older. It's your choice if you're able to and are happy to continue to keep her at home with you. My DD3 didn't start nursery until she was four and a half. She's nearly eight now and doing just fine at primary school. It really is your shout.

runloganrun101 Mon 15-May-17 13:17:59

Just do it. 5 half days won't prevent you from doing stuff and if it gives your kid prioritiy with the school later then it's a positive

TheGoodWife16 Mon 15-May-17 13:18:16

Mine did 3 sessions a week aged 2-3, then 5 sessions a week aged 3-4. They were a mixture of mornings and afternoons and it was the school nursery. Towards the end of her final year there, they incorporated lunch breaks in the main school hall to acclimatise them which made the morning sessions 45 minutes longer. It was hugely beneficial to her and we planned our activities around nursery.

InDubiousBattle Mon 15-May-17 13:18:58

It's the same at our local school nureery, they have to go 5 days either mornings or afternoons and they were allocated so you couldn't chose mornings or afternoons you're told which you're getting. I decided not to send ds and he goes to a lovely pre school instead.

ILoveMyMonkey Mon 15-May-17 13:19:23

Pretty normal for a school based setting. My son attends school nursery, 3 hours every morning (no lunch club so we eat together).

You could see it as time to get your cleaning, food shop, dinner prep done so you can have the afternoons completely free to spend together.

He loves going and can't wait to start reception in September, it's been a good start to school for him.

shandyhands Mon 15-May-17 13:20:35

Thanks everyone you all know far more about it then me, I thought I could choose her days haha, had no idea, now looking at other ones in the area for more flexibility, hopefully can find something that would suit us better

Enidblyton1 Mon 15-May-17 13:25:58

How many hours a day? 9-3?
I'm surprised they stipulate full time. Haven't heard of that before. I know a number of children in reception class who don't do full time school until they turn 5.
Does the nursery offer 30 free hours from September? Ie. You won't have to pay them very much for your full time place? If so, you could sign up for the full time place and then pick your DD up every day at lunchtime or even keep them at home on certain days. I don't think they can do anything about that. When my DD was in nursery people frequently keep their children off nursery when they are 'tired'.
Of course, you may not be prepared to do this if you have to pay. In that scenario I would look for a different nursery.

Waggamamma Mon 15-May-17 13:26:56

Yes, school nursery is 5 days, if you don't take all 5 days then it leaves the space empty the rest of the week and staff etc still need to be paid. At our local school nursery the morning is session is 8:30-11:30am so it would still leave you the reast of the day to do things with your dd. The afternoon session is 12:30-3:30pm which is a bit of a pain! But it's free!

Or you could look at a charity/church pre-school where you can choose your days (you need to pay for this in my area as they don't accept free hours, here it's £6 for 9:30-11:30).

Or look at a privtae day nursery where you should also be able to pick your hours/days. This is what we use as we both work, it's £27 for half day or £50 for full day.

greenkite0 Mon 15-May-17 13:28:23

Honestly? You don't need one that is more flexible. Yeah they might be "small" but they need that time away to be able to grow, learn indepence and play with others. My son has got skills from nursery that I could never have given to him. He has so much speech from going, listens to instructions, has learnt about hygiene. They get so much from it and for the 4 hours they are there it really isn't much

Themoonhatesthestars Mon 15-May-17 13:32:37

Are you in Scotland? My (Scottish) school nursery is the same, seems our LA is one of the few that doesn't let you choose from hearing other people. If she's only starting next term (Aug) I assume she'll be starting P1 in 2019. She doesn't have to go to school nursery it's just an option available to you so she could maybe just go in her pre-school year at aged 4 next year if you want her to socialise and make friends before school. Also, if it's your free place they can't force you to send her every day so if you want the odd day off you just phone and say but they really do frown on you consistently not putting your child in on certain days like every Thursday & Friday.

However if you really want her to go 2/3 days, you could call the council and argue it out with them as I do know someone who has done that and has her kids in school nursery two days and private two days. It was a faff but she did manage it, I think they were more annoyed about the financial side than the attendance.

MaroonPencil Mon 15-May-17 13:36:46

Op, I would not have wanted my three year olds to attend Nursery five days a week either. Nothing against anyone who does, but I wanted to spend time with them while I could. They both did two days on the days that I worked from home, the oldest one 9.30ish until about 3.45pm the younger one 8.30ish to about 1.30, I can't remember now.

Private nurseries are much more flexible than maintained/ school nurseries. Round this way there aren't really any school nurseries anyway, but I know my friends in London all use the school nurseries.

BaggyCheeks Mon 15-May-17 13:38:53

It will depend on the School. I'm in Scotland and DS's (school attached) nursery are flexible in that while he has a 5 day place, they're not bothered if he's not there every single day so long as we let them know if we're keeping him off, and even that is a courtesy. Below compulsory school age they don't have to go at all. As it turned out, DS has ended up going most days anyway - he loves it and I've got quite used to having a couple of hours in the afternoon for just me and DD(2) - but I know that if we want to have a day out or whatever, it's no big deal to miss it.

ahatlikeprincessmarina Mon 15-May-17 13:39:07

If you're not ready, you're not ready. 3 is teeny and people on here telling you that several hours' separation from her every day IS WHAT YOU WANT can go and chase themselves, quite frankly. Go with your instinct.

(Sorry, not much help on the finding alternatives front! grin)

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