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Helpmeoutpleasee Mon 15-May-17 10:20:44

Annoying housemate has a cough which she won't go to doctors for. She has been off work for a week (this is a separate issue - she is constantly off work...) and splutters/coughs loudly and everywhere, not covering her mouth. It's driving me up the wall

bangbangprettypretty Mon 15-May-17 10:21:49

The doctor can't do anything for coughs.

Earplugs? All you can do is ask her to pipe down really.

harderandharder2breathe Mon 15-May-17 10:23:48

Most people don't go to the doctors for a cough, there's nothing they can do for a viral cough.

Earplugs for you

PamplemousseRouge Mon 15-May-17 10:24:17

Could you tell her how you feel about it?

user94567433 Mon 15-May-17 10:25:06

Get her to go to the doctor by perhaps scaring her a little. It could be throat or lung cancer or acid reflux burning her throat. I had a cough for ages and eventually went to the doctor, got fobbed-off with cough mixture, when back again and was diagnosed with sarcoidosis (an incurable autoimmune disease that can destroy your lungs!). My lungs are now damaged permanently.

Tell her all this and you might get her to the doctor!

Pass her this article.

PamplemousseRouge Mon 15-May-17 10:25:08

Oh, I've just seen that she's an 'annoying housemate' - would it be difficult to talk to her about it, or even approach her in the general?

MusicToMyEars800 Mon 15-May-17 10:29:48

Yanbu, I cannot stand coughing it really annoys me, even my own cough pisses me off grin the worst thing about it is I know that people can't help coughing, but something about it just gives me rage.

NavyandWhite Mon 15-May-17 10:31:02

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ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets Mon 15-May-17 10:44:07

You can't do anything about the cough.

She absolutely does not need to go to the GP for a normal cough lasting a week.

But you can tell her to cover her mouth, that's just gross.

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Mon 15-May-17 10:47:08

Pillow over the head at bedtime.
Hers not yours!! grin

QuietNameChange Mon 15-May-17 10:50:44

Not covering her moth? Gross.

But yes, people sometimes get a cough. There's nothing she can do about that...

junebirthdaygirl Mon 15-May-17 10:51:58

Lots of cough medicines in chemist will lessen symptoms at least. Could you treat her to a lemon and honey one from the supermarket. Maybe bring her something else as well so doesnt look too pointed !!

Radishal Mon 15-May-17 10:52:11

I've had a terrible bone shaking cough for several weeks now. A colleague heard they are currently called 100 day coughs.
I have pulled chest muscles with it and now coughing, yawning and breathing hurts like a bastard.
No point going to the docs because it just has to run its course. I do not have a chest infection and would go to the doc if I did.
So I'm sorry this is an inconvenience to you. Also - get over yourself.

Pinkheart5917 Mon 15-May-17 10:53:31

I don't think unless you've and a cough for a good few weeks, you need a doctor really. I wouldn't go to the doctors for a cough

She can't help having a cough, your just have to deal with her coughing unfortunately.

Ear plug?
Confine yourself to your room?
Tell her to cover her mouth when she coughs?

weddingopinionsplease Mon 15-May-17 10:55:05

99% of the time docs can't do anything about a cough so it's a total waste of time going.

Just tell her nicely that she needs to cover her mouth when she coughs and also needs to keep surfaces clean. Other than that there's nothing else she can do. Cough medicine does precisely fuck all in most cases.

pinkcardi Mon 15-May-17 10:55:45

Don't go if you've been coughing a week, but do go if you're coughing for 4 weeks +. I left it 7 weeks and now have infection induced asthma. It isn't going away, it's grim. Dr said I should have come in at the 4 week mark. I too thought that "there isn't anything that they can do for a cough", and "I don't want to waste their time" Turns out I was wrong on both counts.

rogueantimatter Mon 15-May-17 11:03:21

Radishal - you might have mycoplasma, a bacterial lung infection. I had the same as you - my chest muscles are gradually getting better. Still live in fear of sneezing though. It was suspected mycoplasma which is apparently doing the rounds. It's treatable with specific antibiotics.

wickerlampshade Mon 15-May-17 11:03:54

has a cough which she won't go to doctors for

bravo to her, assuming she's had it for a week as per your OP. What exactly is the GP meant to do for her likely viral infection? get her to a pharmacist.

user93852244 Mon 15-May-17 11:05:48

How long has she had the cough for?

BorpBorpBorp Mon 15-May-17 11:05:49

I'm sure it's not the best solution, but I'd be passive-aggressively cleaning everything she touches while glaring at her.

Radishal Mon 15-May-17 11:22:34

Well, rogue, I have taken your suggestion and made a doc appointment for this afternoon- amazed I got a same day appointment, actually.
Even more amazing was the sympathetic receptionist when I mentioned how I was pulling chest muscles all the time.
I have MS, and prefer to tough out trivial stuff like coughs and muscle strains.
There you go, op, tell your annoying housemate that even though a random on Mumsnet thinks you are being insensitive, said random is still going to get the cough checked out.

CoughingForWeeks Mon 15-May-17 11:22:37

There's not much a doctor can do for a cough unless it's turned into a chest infection - even cough medicines only soothe the throat briefly (believe me, I have tried them ALL!) I know it's annoying though, I've apologised profusely to my housemate and upstairs neighbour for my constant barking over the last eight weeks.

The not covering her mouth is more of an issue though and I would probably mention it if I was you. It's one thing having to listen to her coughing, but you don't want to end up doing it yourself.

user8384511 Mon 15-May-17 11:26:00

When to see your GP

There's usually no need to see your GP if you or your child have a mild cough for a week or two

However, you should seek medical advice if you've had a cough for more than three weeks

your cough is particularly severe or is getting worse
you cough up blood or experience shortness of breath, breathing difficulties or chest pain
you have any other worrying symptoms, such as unexplained weight loss, a persistent change in your voice, or lumps or swellings in your neck

A persistent cough may be caused by:

a long-term respiratory tract infection, such as chronic bronchitis
asthma – this also usually causes other symptoms, such as wheezing, chest tightness and shortness of breath
an allergy
smoking – a smoker's cough can also be a symptom of COPD
bronchiectasis – where the airways of the lungs become abnormally widened
postnasal drip – mucus dripping down the throat from the back of the nose, caused by a condition such as rhinitis or sinusitis
gastro-oesophageal reflux disease (GORD) – where the throat becomes irritated by leaking stomach acid
a prescribed medicine, such as an angiotensin-converting enzyme inhibitor (ACE inhibitor), which is used to treat high blood pressure and cardiovascular disease
Rarely, a persistent cough can be a symptom of a more serious condition, such as lung cancer, heart failure, a pulmonary embolism (blood clot on the lung) or tuberculosis.

OnionKnight Mon 15-May-17 11:29:15

The doctor can't do anything for a cough but I do sympathise, my wife has been coughing on and off for a few years, I've asked her to see a doctor but she refuses. Just this weekend she was coughing like mad and at one point was all red faced with tears streaming down her face because it made her choke.

user8384511 Mon 15-May-17 11:31:15

That sounds serious Onion.

I don't understand. Why do you think the doctor cannot do anything? If your wife won't see the doctor, he cannot possibly diagnose or help.

Even the NHS advice is to see the doctor. If there was no point, you can bet they wouldn't be encouraging us to go along and clog up GP waiting rooms.

Your wife could be suffering needlessly.

Do encourage her as best you can. Show her the NHS literature. She's probably afraid of a bad diagnosis.

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