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NC for this as DH knows my username and I really don't want to upset anyone. I'm just really needing some advice to see if I'm being U.
We are going abroad for Christmas next year to spend it with DH family. He immigrated to the UK 13 years ago.
Taking DS with us, he will have just turned 2 by then.
MIL is very excited about having a grandchild and so far she has visited for 3 weeks when he was born and we Skype regularly. I also send her pictures and videos of him via what's app.
I suggested we buy her a surprise plane ticket for her birthday this year to come over for DS first birthday as I want both sets of grandparents to be there.
She is asking that myself and DH leave him with her for a week when we visit on Christmas and go off and have "a break".
Now I'm grateful for the offer and perhaps a romantic 1 overnight stay somewhere would be lovely for us but I don't want to leave my 2 year old son for a whole week.
It will be new surroundings for him in a new country, being left with someone he doesn't know very well.
When she suggested it, my husband immediately said, maybe 1 or 2 days will be lovely. But she's insisting on a week.
I adored both sets of my grandparents and they passed away when I was quite young. I want DS to know both sets of grandparents and have a wonderful relationship with them like I did mine.
AIBU when I say no to a whole week? I know she's overseas and rarely sees him. I know that the distance is difficult for her and she loves DS so much. But I don't consider a week away from my son "a break". To me it would be hell on earth, especially at Christmas time.
Plus it will be unsettling for him, he will have only ever have seen them on Skype and his first birthday prior to this visit.
Some advice on whether I'm BU and if not, how to deal with this without upsetting anyone would be greatly appreciated.
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RibenaMonsoon · 15/05/2017 08:04
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