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AIBU?

To consider calling in sick tomorrow

37 replies

Bigblug · 14/05/2017 19:53

I am just so so low right now. I have a history of depression but for the most part I've had it under control. I haven't taken time off work for my mental health in nearly 3 years. I've been at work today but honestly I just want to crawl into my bed and never leave. I don't know what's happened to me to feel this way but I can't face work tomorrow.

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harderandharder2breathe · 14/05/2017 20:02

Call in sick then call your GP for an emergency appointment

MarklahMarklah · 14/05/2017 20:02

Call in sick, get a GP appointment and get the help you need. Perhaps things have been building up for a while? Either way, you wouldn't go in if you had a broken leg or D&V so treat this the same way.
Hope you get things back on a more even keel soon.

OnlyaBitStressed · 14/05/2017 20:03

You'll feel worse. Go to work - it will distract you. Wallowing the the worst fucking thing you can do :-(

Good luck

PurpleDaisies · 14/05/2017 20:05

That's not necessarily true only. If the op can get a gp appointment tomorrow that's going to help her get her mental health back on track and is absolutely worth the day off.

gottachangethename1 · 14/05/2017 20:05

Agree with taking day off and booking a gp appointment, don't suffer in silence. Thinking of you op

Parmaviolets13 · 14/05/2017 20:07

How did you feel at work today op? Did you feel better and distracted, or did you feel like you just wanted to go home?
I suffer from the same so know how you feel re getting up or not getting out of bed, but I definitely recommend a GP appointment asap.
Hope you're okay

LockedOutOfMN · 14/05/2017 20:08

Yes, call in sick and see your GP. You ARE an emergency so don't let any mean receptionists fob you off...if you are too sick to go into work then you need an emergency GP appointment.

Is there anyone you can meet up with for a coffee so that you have something/someone to get up and dressed for? Or have them pop over to your house or vice versa if you're worried about being seen by a colleague.

WhataHexIgotinto · 14/05/2017 20:08

Only you can decide OP. When I feel like that, I KNOW that if I don't literally force myself to work then I'll be at home for weeks on end. I still make an appt with my doctor though, but I have to leave the house, or it snowballs for me. That's not to say it would be the same for you and either way, you need to see your GP.

Elphaba99 · 14/05/2017 20:09

I disagree that the OP taking a day off to go to the GP is "wallowing", Onlyabitstressed

Plus stuffing feelings down and pretending the depression is not there can be a very bad idea. The feelings will come out at some point - in rage, a panic attack, or a full-on breakdown.

Op, the fact that you're recognising that you're struggling is actually really positive - phone in sick tomorrow and do make an emergency appt with your GP to start/restart/increase antidepressants and/or therapy. Be kind to yourself ❤️❤️💐

Bigblug · 14/05/2017 20:09

I've just been crying on/off today. A few days ago I was absolutely fine, I really don't know what's happened to me! Nothing's triggered it. It's been a gradual decline since Thursday but today I woke up, went to work, and it's descended into I wish I had some rope for my walk through the woods on my way home. I most likely will go into work tomorrow as I hate letting my team down and it'll make my mood worse. I hate feeling like I'm being dramatic!

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PurpleDaisies · 14/05/2017 20:10

When you had depression before, shag helped?

PurpleDaisies · 14/05/2017 20:11

Oh bollocks. That's supposed to say "what" helped?

Elphaba99 · 14/05/2017 20:12

Purpledaisies that typo was brilliant 😂😂

PurpleDaisies · 14/05/2017 20:13

I honestly have no idea what my phone did there. I don't even use the word "shag" very often (if ever!).

CarbonMint · 14/05/2017 20:13

Please go for an emergency appointment at the Doctor's. Your health is more important.

SlB09 · 14/05/2017 20:13

Depression sufferer here.......honestly, I would go in and when you get to work speak to your manager or someone you can trust and explain whats going on. Let them know if there is anything they can do to help ie adjust work hours, light duties, regular breaks, quiet room etc. Having gone through this just to know that someone is aware your not 100% atm really really helps.
The structure of work can be incredibly helpful in getting you through these times as long as someone is aware and can support you. You might end up needing to be off in the end, but I would urge you to try tomorrow. Avoidance only feeds your negative emotions.
See the GP, self refer for therapy if poss or go through work if thats an option. You will get through this I promise xxxx

B19M · 14/05/2017 20:14

Make sure you go to the GP tomorrow-emergency appointment.
Do not go to work -call in sick - you must get yourself sorted out. Don't be worrying about work

Elphaba99 · 14/05/2017 20:14

Love it 😂😂

OP your MH comes before your team and your job. xx

Rinkydinkypink · 14/05/2017 20:14

Your not being dramatic. I'm struggling in my own way at the moment. Can you be kind to yourself tonight? Go the bed. Wrap yourself up and do what you need/can do.

Tomorrow is another day. If you wake up feeling like you really can't face work at all then gp and phone in sick.

One step at a time op. Be kind to yourself and do what you need to keep yourself safe . Mental health is such a complete arse.

Bigblug · 14/05/2017 20:14

purple a shag definitely won't help but thanks for the smile

Nothing really. I'm terrible for looking after my mental health, and try not to acknowledge it until it's really bad. I've gone to my gp, had a good cry, adjusted my meds, vow to lose weight and tackle my debts and then the cycle starts again. I am most definitely my own worst enemy because I feel embarrassed talking about it.

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CheesyChristie · 14/05/2017 20:15

Hopefully purpledaisies offering you a shag has made you smile a bit OP!

Seriously though, take the day off. See your GP. - its crap feeling like that.

Elphaba99 · 14/05/2017 20:15

Sorry, x post - the laughing faces were at Purpledaisies, not the OP or the good advice. 🙊

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Elphaba99 · 14/05/2017 20:17

OP have you been on your current meds for a while? Might be worth either asking for counselling in conjuction with meds, or even changing to a different one.

PurpleDaisies · 14/05/2017 20:19

I am glad to have provided some giggles. Sometimes I think my phone hates me. My last good typo was "people should not wank in the fast lane of the pool" which should have been "walk". Doh.

Op it's really hard to open up about how you're really feeling but it'll be so much better if you can. Good luck.

OnlyaBitStressed · 14/05/2017 21:41

I didn't mean wallowing in a derogatory or negative way. Just that when you feel like this being busy is actually much better (distracting!)

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