I'm sorry to swear in the title - I do it very rarely but really is what I want to shout at everyone!! and I'm sorry I know some people are facing real problems, so please don't think I don't realise how lucky I am, I really do, just need to vent somewhere safe!
My life:
- I have a high profile job, in an industry hugely affected by Brexit, 5 members of my team have already received redundancy and the expectation is put up and shut up. So whilst worrying about my job (I am the main earner in our family) I am also being pressured into working 60 hours + a week in an extremely hostile environment. My manager is a bully, I do well at my job but constantly bullied into taking on more and doing more. If you say no the threats of job security are quickly applied.
- I have 2 young boys, they feel completely out of control at the moment. They never listen, seem to not care about consequences. I try to positive parent, but am exhausted! My youngest especially is constantly defiant at home and nursery, and extremely sensitive and high maintenance. He is almost 4 and has not slept through ever, we're up 4 or 5 times every night and I'm exhausted.
- We seem to be absolutely skint, we've worked hard to never have credit cards etc, but barely make ends meet each month. We are not extravagant but we can't seem to make income match outgoings. We both work hard (DH is self employed and this can be very on and off) but I'm not sure where else to strip back. All our core costs have gone up but our income hasn't.
- I have someone close to me getting married soon and I am
a bridesmaid - this appears to have come with the expectation that a) I will lose weight to 'fit in' with the other bridesmaids (this has been expressed very blatantly - I am a size 16) and b) that I'll spend a stupid amount of money on the hen do, dress, make up, hair etc. Whenever we're together I'm made to feel fat, useless and like I don't fit. Backing out will cause a huge uproar but I'm so tempted to tell them where to stick it.
I don't stop, if I'm not parenting I'm working and what for when we can barely keep heads above water. I am being a crap parent and a crap wife. DH does more than his share and is really supportive but I feel I am on the verge of breaking - I feel on the verge of tears all the time, I'm exhausted, my chest is constantly tight, even when ds2 is sleeping I can't sleep. I want to check out, I want to tell everyone to f* off and I want some space, just to stop and breathe would be a fine start!!