I've nc, regular on here and pretty sure the person I'm about to talk about is on here too hence the nc.
I had a friend who I had been friends with for around 8 years, there's been a few issues over the last few years that has made me question our friendship.
Recently my mum passed away and throughout we have been in a group message with a few others. All knew about mum and her illness, she found out she was expecting (lovely news) this was around the time mum was diagnosed as terminal.
Fast forward to mums last few days, I had been in contact with friends and all knew that I was at the hospital from very early am until late pm with mum. The day before mum died whilst I was sat holding her hand talking to my now unresponsive mum my phone pings, friend had sent me a photo of a baby scan and lots of how exciting look at my baby messages.
I found this very insensitive and nicely asked if they could set up a new group message without me in it as my phone was inundated and I couldn't remove myself. Friend replied 'no problem'
From the day my mum passed she wasn't there for me and I get that to a point, she was 12 weeks pregnant and excited and I would never have wanted to dampen her happiness, however her mum had died and out of all my friends I thought she would get it.
She never called me, she sent me a Facebook message to say call me when you're ready to meet up. Nothing asking how I was, nothing.
There is a back story which is long but mainly to do with her being an unreliable friend and treating me as if I were something on the bottom of her shoe whilst in company. I decided to cut all ties with her, a mutual friend of ours has sent me a really horrible message because I have decided I no longer want to be in touch with our friend .
My mum was my everything and I am struggling with her death, the last thing I need is this shit it all just seems so petty and meaningless. WIBU?
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alicethroughtheginglass · 13/05/2017 19:51
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