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To be fucked off with my friend wearing my shoes?

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SmhShakingMyHead Fri 12-May-17 18:18:13

I lent friend a pair of trainers I'd never worn, it was a one off due to her only having heels at that point.

We met up for dinner a week later and she was wearing my trainers again,

I lent her them as a one off to wear that day, not to wear them when she pleases aibu?

GallopingMom Fri 12-May-17 18:19:30

Did you make it very clear to her when you gave her the trainers? I think YANBU in that case but it really isn't worth expending a lot of emotional energy on. Just ask for the shoes back.

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Fri 12-May-17 18:20:21

I had a 'mate' do that with a sweater I leant her.

She was just one of those people who didn't really have boundaries. Everything on the planet was hers to use.

TheHodgeoftheHedge Fri 12-May-17 18:22:44

Did you ask why she was wearing them and when you would get them back?

Crowdblundering Fri 12-May-17 18:23:41

An ex friend never ever gave back anything she borrowed - books, CDs everything - DD my head in.

Whocansay Fri 12-May-17 18:24:05

Weird behaviour! What did you say?

Earlybird Fri 12-May-17 18:27:09

I wonder how many other times she's worn them when you didn't know it. Clearly she is not trying to hide the fact that she's worn them multiple times!

Ask her if she'd like to buy them off you, as it is clear she really likes them. I'm not sure I'd want them back at this point.

MickeyRooney Fri 12-May-17 18:42:07

Ask for them back!!

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Fri 12-May-17 18:45:42

I had a pair of black silk pj's years ago. My neighbour often asked to borrow them -
Some people are just entitled!!

BlahBlahBlahEtc Fri 12-May-17 18:48:44

Borrow your pjs?!? That's so creepy!

SweetLuck Fri 12-May-17 18:50:33

Borrow your PJs LOL

justkeepswimmingg Fri 12-May-17 18:52:16

How odd. Maybe she took it as you giving them to her, rather than lending. It's strange she's wearing them around you, if the plan was to never return them. Text her to make plans to meet up for a day/night out, and ask her to bring your trainers with her. If you need to give her an excuse.. You can't go to the gym or work out until you get them back. You might get a text back explaining why she's not returned them yet.
I had a friend who borrowed my stuff all the time (bags, scarfs, tops). When she'd return them, she would then go out and buy them herself. We weren't best friends, just colleagues who meet on occasional weekends. One day we wore the same coat, trousers, top, shoes and bag. Even the same bloody perfume! Safe to say I don't miss her (I moved town, and changed jobs - not because of her).

Carriecakes80 Fri 12-May-17 18:53:39

Lmao at borrowing your jim-jams!

Lol as for the trainers, I would laughingly say "Ohh thats where they went, would you be able to pop them back!"

Mainly because I am a huge Pus...Wuss, and wouldn't just be able to be outright cross and say "Give me back me flipping shoes you Shoe Whore!" grin

milliemolliemou Fri 12-May-17 18:54:02

Just ask her for them back. Why didn't you?

redshoeblueshoe Fri 12-May-17 19:04:00

Just - was your neighbour male or female ?

redshoeblueshoe Fri 12-May-17 19:05:01

Whoops - sorry OP
Why didn't you just ask for them back ?

TheFirstMrsDV Fri 12-May-17 19:06:28

I once lived with a girl who helped herself to everything. She was a right princess, slumming it with the plebs me
I was sat opposite her on the tube once. I looked at her and realised she was wearing my brand new stripy teeshirt. Then I realised that she had ripped the bottom half off (it was the 80s).
She told me she didn't like it the way it was before shock

I also had a flatmate for years who would take stuff out of my room. She would take stuff straight out of the shopping bags I had bought them home in!
But she became my oldest, dear friend so I can look back on it and laugh now. She died two years ago and I now have a lot of her clothes given to me by her sister. That makes me smile.

Mummyoflittledragon Fri 12-May-17 19:07:00

It appears she wants them. I'd ask her to reimburse you.

Goldfishjane Fri 12-May-17 19:10:22

did you not say to her at dinner, why the fuck are you wearing the shoes you were meant to return today?

MyKingdomForBrie Fri 12-May-17 19:11:11

I think I'd light heartedly say 'as you like them so much you'd better get me a new pair!'

BusterGonad Fri 12-May-17 19:11:35

I'm baffled as to why you've not asked for the back, and your friends a cheeky cow.

expatinscotland Fri 12-May-17 19:17:12

So why on Earth didn't you say something?! And why were you not telling her to give them back the next day? I'll never understand people who allow others to just rip the piss out of them and say FA. 'Those are my shoes. I loaned them to you. I'll have them back. More fool you for giving them to her when you'd never worn them. Her painful heels are her own fucking fault. Have you got them back yet?

I had flatmates that thought the world was theirs to take. I put a padlock on my door. Fuck them. I had to work my arse off for everything I had, the hell I was going to hand it over to some pisstaking twats.

sobeyondthehills Fri 12-May-17 19:22:26

Everytime I see a thread like that, I just think of Mexican House thief

That is entitled

Ask for the shoes back and then make a mental note never to lend her anything again

Touchmybum Fri 12-May-17 19:24:10

My friend borrowed a pair of my knickers once. I didn't want them back... I'd have gone commando rather than borrow knickers; they weren't new either...!

I wouldn't lend shoes to anyone, personally, but seeing as you have, I'd suggest to her that she just keeps your trainers as she has worn them into the shape of her feet, and she can buy you a new pair in lieu. You might see how good a friend she is...

expatinscotland Fri 12-May-17 19:25:38

Don't ask her, tell her. I'm coming over there tomorrow to get my shoes. Don't lend her anything ever again.

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