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AIBU about my clothes....

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Crowdblundering Fri 12-May-17 17:32:30

I might BU here am not sure..NOT a third world issue but irritates me.

I am messy in the bedroom but tidy in the rest of the house. We have 3 kids living here who also have messy rooms but I am of the thinking your space it's up to you.

The "communal areas" are always clean and tidy, I work full time and do all the cooking but we split the household stuff fairly evenly.

OH is only here on weekends and is in military (relevant).

Our bedroom isn't horrendous and is clean but when I take off my clothes I put the dirty ones in the wash (I do most of washing as OH does his on base mainly) and tend to dump the clean ones in a pile by my side of the bed (in no ones way) which OH nags about (his bag will sit in the middle of the room all weekend unpacked).

Despite me asking him numerous times not to OH keeps going through the pile of "clean" clothes and smelling each item (which is really fucking odd - obvs no underwear hmm) and then washing everything he deems smelling unclean (IE of my perfume) in the wash.

Today have come home to the jeans I was going to wear on a day out tomorrow hanging out sopping wet which is really fucking annoying - and also clothes that were clean waiting to be put away have been washed again - and I have certain items that need washing a certain way, shouldn't be over washed or need treating with stain remover.

I am in my 40s shouldn't I be allowed a) a small area where I can be messy and b)to want to be in charge of when my own clothes are being washed?


fanfrickintastic Fri 12-May-17 17:43:57


MatildaTheCat Fri 12-May-17 17:45:32

Is he really tidy? If so he's as entitled to a tidy bedroom as you are a messy one. Can you hang your clothes on a chair or simply in the wardrobe to avoid this? He probably sees a heap of worn clothes on the floor and automatically sees them as dirty.

I guess you can tell him to never touch your stuff but that still leaves him feeling uncomfortable in an untidy bedroom. I'm like your dh.

Crowdblundering Fri 12-May-17 17:45:47

Sorry that wa a real rant blush

user1243 Fri 12-May-17 17:48:54

It's just been drilled into him by the military. Yanbu though.

Teardropexplodes Fri 12-May-17 17:49:50

I have a big side of the bed pile too. YANBU. Although if you asked my DH he might say YA.
I'd love a bedroom chair but there isn't room, so floordrobe it is. If he doesn't like it, he'll have to let us buy a bigger house.

Jupitar Fri 12-May-17 17:51:48

If my boyfriend started sniffing my clothes I would find that extremely strange regardless of whether they are clean or dirty.
I tend to have the same, a tidy house and an untidy bedroom but I now have to put the clothes away otherwise the dog will make herself a bed out of them, so if I can do it you can put your clothes away as well, leave some dirty clothes there for him to sniff instead 😂😂

Crowdblundering Fri 12-May-17 17:53:02

He smells everything - it's really really odd - I take the piss constantly grin

GooseFriend Fri 12-May-17 17:54:16

He needs to stop that. Get a hamper with a lid?

TupperwareTat Fri 12-May-17 17:54:22

Im.a clothes sniffer



Crowdblundering Fri 12-May-17 17:55:10

We have a washing basket with a lid in our room - he puts his dirty clothes on top of the lid angry

eletralambchop Fri 12-May-17 18:16:32

Can't you just get a cleaner? Working full time with kids and still need to do household stuff? Surreal

Crowdblundering Fri 12-May-17 18:19:15

I don't think a cleaner is going to put my clothes away for me grin

Crowdblundering Fri 12-May-17 18:22:10

... also can't really afford a cleaner ...

C0untDucku1a Fri 12-May-17 18:24:04

Can you move ironing and putting away joght feom when ever it is now to thursday evenings?

Crowdblundering Fri 12-May-17 18:25:31

Omg I don't iron!! grinshock

C0untDucku1a Fri 12-May-17 18:25:54

night from not joght feom. confused

C0untDucku1a Fri 12-May-17 18:26:32

If they're not waiting to be ironed, why are they there?

Crowdblundering Fri 12-May-17 18:27:52

They have been worn and are waiting to be worn again or clean and waiting to be put away (kids fold clean laundry and put in everyone's bedrooms).

C0untDucku1a Fri 12-May-17 18:29:23

Well can the kids move their chores from whatever night they currently fold and
Distrubute to thursdays?

SheepyFun Fri 12-May-17 18:30:43

I have an (open) box in our bedroom for my 'in use' clothes (i.e. clothes that I've worn but don't yet need washing). For the record, DH isn't that tidy, but it keeps them slightly safer from being sprayed with vomit when DH/DD is ill.

Crowdblundering Fri 12-May-17 18:31:31

It's like an as and when job grin

C0untDucku1a Fri 12-May-17 18:33:48

You know theres a simple solution then?

lilydaisyrose Fri 12-May-17 18:38:49

I'm with you Crowdblundering, I have a floordrobe too. I just about manage to put the kids' (x 3) clothes away but can't quite seem to find the time to do mine & the pile of towels/bedding.

WatchingFromTheWings Fri 12-May-17 18:46:05


I have one of these. Didn't know it had a name though! wink

Do you have room for a laundry hamper you can just dump your things in?? I hate putting my washing so tend to do the same as you.

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