AIBU about my clothes....

[Crowdblundering]

I might BU here am not sure..NOT a third world issue but irritates me.

I am messy in the bedroom but tidy in the rest of the house. We have 3 kids living here who also have messy rooms but I am of the thinking your space it's up to you.

The "communal areas" are always clean and tidy, I work full time and do all the cooking but we split the household stuff fairly evenly.

OH is only here on weekends and is in military (relevant).

Our bedroom isn't horrendous and is clean but when I take off my clothes I put the dirty ones in the wash (I do most of washing as OH does his on base mainly) and tend to dump the clean ones in a pile by my side of the bed (in no ones way) which OH nags about (his bag will sit in the middle of the room all weekend unpacked).

Despite me asking him numerous times not to OH keeps going through the pile of "clean" clothes and smelling each item (which is really fucking odd - obvs no underwear ) and then washing everything he deems smelling unclean (IE of my perfume) in the wash.

Today have come home to the jeans I was going to wear on a day out tomorrow hanging out sopping wet which is really fucking annoying - and also clothes that were clean waiting to be put away have been washed again - and I have certain items that need washing a certain way, shouldn't be over washed or need treating with stain remover.

I am in my 40s shouldn't I be allowed a) a small area where I can be messy and b)to want to be in charge of when my own clothes are being washed?

AIBU?!

[fanfrickintastic]

Yanbu

[MatildaTheCat]

Is he really tidy? If so he's as entitled to a tidy bedroom as you are a messy one. Can you hang your clothes on a chair or simply in the wardrobe to avoid this? He probably sees a heap of worn clothes on the floor and automatically sees them as dirty.

I guess you can tell him to never touch your stuff but that still leaves him feeling uncomfortable in an untidy bedroom. I'm like your dh.

[Crowdblundering]

Sorry that wa a real rant

[user1243]

It's just been drilled into him by the military. Yanbu though.

[Teardropexplodes]

I have a big side of the bed pile too. YANBU. Although if you asked my DH he might say YA.
I'd love a bedroom chair but there isn't room, so floordrobe it is. If he doesn't like it, he'll have to let us buy a bigger house.

[Jupitar]

If my boyfriend started sniffing my clothes I would find that extremely strange regardless of whether they are clean or dirty.
I tend to have the same, a tidy house and an untidy bedroom but I now have to put the clothes away otherwise the dog will make herself a bed out of them, so if I can do it you can put your clothes away as well, leave some dirty clothes there for him to sniff instead 😂😂

[Crowdblundering]

He smells everything - it's really really odd - I take the piss constantly

[GooseFriend]

He needs to stop that. Get a hamper with a lid?

[TupperwareTat]

Im.a clothes sniffer

YABU

[Crowdblundering]

We have a washing basket with a lid in our room - he puts his dirty clothes on top of the lid

[eletralambchop]

Can't you just get a cleaner? Working full time with kids and still need to do household stuff? Surreal

[Crowdblundering]

I don't think a cleaner is going to put my clothes away for me

[Crowdblundering]

... also can't really afford a cleaner ...

[C0untDucku1a]

Can you move ironing and putting away joght feom when ever it is now to thursday evenings?

[Crowdblundering]

Omg I don't iron!!

[C0untDucku1a]

night from not joght feom.

[C0untDucku1a]

If they're not waiting to be ironed, why are they there?

[Crowdblundering]

They have been worn and are waiting to be worn again or clean and waiting to be put away (kids fold clean laundry and put in everyone's bedrooms).

[C0untDucku1a]

Well can the kids move their chores from whatever night they currently fold and
Distrubute to thursdays?

[SheepyFun]

I have an (open) box in our bedroom for my 'in use' clothes (i.e. clothes that I've worn but don't yet need washing). For the record, DH isn't that tidy, but it keeps them slightly safer from being sprayed with vomit when DH/DD is ill.

[Crowdblundering]

It's like an as and when job

[C0untDucku1a]

You know theres a simple solution then?

[lilydaisyrose]

I'm with you Crowdblundering, I have a floordrobe too. I just about manage to put the kids' (x 3) clothes away but can't quite seem to find the time to do mine & the pile of towels/bedding.

[WatchingFromTheWings]

floordrobe

I have one of these. Didn't know it had a name though!

Do you have room for a laundry hamper you can just dump your things in?? I hate putting my washing so tend to do the same as you.

[Dishwashersaurous]

You need a chair or box or something similar that you put them on so he knows not to touch them.

Clothes on the floor drive me mad and I'm definitely not military