My father has remarried again in the past year. Whilst my DM was alive they rarely saw or wanted to see or spend time with my children, always making excuses that we lived too far away (20 mins drive), or my mum was unwell (suffered with anxiety) etc. I got used to this, never had the expectation that they would help with the children at all and we did it all ourselves.
DC's are now late teens, since my father remarried in private and without us being there (8 months) he's not seen them at all, I suspect this is at the instigation of his new wife who has a large family of their own. If I made arrangements to visit him he would make sure he was out, change plans at the last minute etc. All invitations to come to us were declined. Contact has become very sporadic as I took the attitude that I'd wait to see how it would be before he thought to pick the phone up to me and he hasn't. This is how he seems to want it, and I suspect its partly manipulation from the wife, whenever we have met she's been very cold and unwelcoming.
Christmas he sent a card with £10 each for the DC's. No other contact. The DC's text to thank him and he replied 'no problem'.
I now find out from extended family that him and his wife have been taking her grandchildren (babies) on short holidays, been looking after them for her daughter to work etc.
I feel like I've been kicked in the belly, really hurt and upset. My kids actually couldn't care less but I do. I know If i have it out with him it wont change anything and my kids don't actually want to see him anyway so there's no point. On the other hand its gnawing at me and I'll love to clear the air once and for all and give him a piece of my mind. WIBU to do this?
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To feel hurt that my DC's have been forgotten about.
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Eyerolling · 12/05/2017 10:08
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