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To take potty training DD to playgroup today??

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FusionChefGeoff Fri 12-May-17 07:49:38

We're on Day 6, she's definitely improving but still has 1/2 accidents and I have to watch her like a hawk.

She's also never managed a poo in the potty.

So, do I go out this morning and risk having to deal with a poo accident whilst we're there?

If I go, do I take the portable potty or not? Loos are a bit of a walk from the main hall.

GoingplaceZ Fri 12-May-17 07:53:51

No you dont take her potty so she can piss/shit in the hall with everyone there....take her to the toilet like you're going to have to in the future?

Acunningruse Fri 12-May-17 07:54:29

Day 6? Yes I think I would. Assuming you will be able to watch her like a hawk (no younger siblings etc). Yes I would take portable potty and have a chat on the way there about "what do we do if we need a wee". 3 changes clothes and a reward biscuit if she manages to do anything in it.

Acunningruse Fri 12-May-17 07:55:35

It's a playgroup full of toddlers probably all going through the exact same thing not the ritz...

JustMumNowNotMe Fri 12-May-17 07:56:01

I genuinely don't understand potties. Why do it twice?! confused Just put them straight on the toilet and be done with it!

Crumbs1 Fri 12-May-17 07:57:44

Yes take her to the lavatory on arrival. Then at intervals.

GoingplaceZ Fri 12-May-17 07:59:23

Yeah but why whip out a potty in the middle of the room so they can go? Actually take them to the toilet ffs...

Hedgeh0g Fri 12-May-17 08:00:53


Because potty training toddlers often can't wait long enough to make it to the toilet when they are a little way away, as the OP says they are in this case.

Also, because toilets are designed for adults and small toddlers feel very insecure on them, which discourages them from using them, which is precisely what you don't need when you are potty/toilet training.

Oh, and because some public toilets are just disgusting, and a toddler does not have the option of hovering the way an adult does.

MummyPigIsLost Fri 12-May-17 08:04:04

I run a toddler group, yes take her, I've had plenty of mum's bring pottys in the first week or 2 of training, better than a puddle on the floor.

Shedmicehugh Fri 12-May-17 08:04:42

On day 6 and frequent accidents I used to put mine in pull ups when going out.

MrsGB2225 Fri 12-May-17 08:05:13

I wouldn't bat an eyelid if a child was in the corner on their potty at a playgroup.

FusionChefGeoff Fri 12-May-17 08:05:22

Thanks everyone - yes, the potty would be about speed. I have about 3 nanoseconds to get her on the potty before she wets herself and it's a big confidence boost for her if she manages it - I don't want her to have an accident when she's trying.

It's a playgroup full of toddlers probably all going through the exact same thing not the ritz... grin

Right, I'm going to risk it and will take a supply of biscuits - good idea!

Hedgeh0g Fri 12-May-17 08:07:06

OP, my son is a few weeks in, and I've always taken the potty but taken him to the toilet if possible to use it. He doesn't like using toilets without a toddler seat on them hence the travel potty. Has your dd any experience of using toilets without a toddler insert? If not definitely take the potty or she might refuse to use the toilet.

Take her when you get there and at intervals as a previous poster said.

Bearfrills Fri 12-May-17 08:16:08

I recently potty trained DC3 and for the first few days of leaving the house (after three days at home with him refusing to wear underpants or trousers) I took a potty out with us in a carrier bag on the bottom of the pram. I had no plans to whip it out in the middle of the supermarket but I knew if he did need the toilet he would struggle to sit on a big seat without being scared he'd fall in. When he did need the loo we took him into the toilets with the potty, it also meant we didn't have to wait and risk an accident if there was a huge queue. Meanwhile when we were at home we practiced using the big toilet and now he's happy to use a proper toilet everywhere, can hold it in until he reaches a toilet and we don't have to take the potty out with us.

I wouldn't have an issue with a child using a potty in the corner at playgroup that was then immediately emptied. It's better than them having an accident on the floor and in terms of smell is no worse than one of the other kids shitting in their nappy. Toddler groups aren't exactly the last bastion of hygiene and every parent their has either been through potty training before, is currently going through potty training, or will be going through potty training soon.

Robinkitty Fri 12-May-17 08:24:08

It wouldn't bother me if someone got out a potty in fact I'd probably say to my dd " look at x what a clever girl using the potty" but that's because I'm going to start potty training my dd asap.

JustMumNowNotMe Fri 12-May-17 08:27:47

Oh, maybe ive just been lucky then and found using the toilet straight off for both DDs fine. You can get portable toddler seats too btw.

carrotcakecupcake Fri 12-May-17 08:31:47

We're about two weeks into potty training and I've decided to put my big girl pants on (no pun intended) and venture out with DS on my own today (and DD who is 2 mos)! To be fair he's pretty good and we've had minimal accidents (bit of a late starter) but I am planning on taking his potty to use in the toilets. We went out last weekend and he refused to use the big toilet so we aren't quite there yet, but he's been fine on outings with the childminder so I just need to get on and do it myself.

Floggingmolly Fri 12-May-17 08:32:20

Why would you sit her on a potty in the middle of the playgroup hall?? I've done playgroups with three children and I've never seen this even once confused
Take her to the toilet or put her in pull-ups.

Bearfrills Fri 12-May-17 08:34:21

I think the depends on the child justmum. DS1 was happy to go directly onto the toilet so long as he had a step to climb on or a grown up to lift him. DD was absolutely titchy and the toilet must have seemed huge when she sat her little bum on it because she tried to once and then flat out refused to try again for fear of falling in, getting her out of nappies was the main goal so she used a potty at home and a portable toilet seat when out (after about a month of being trained she was happy to use toilets when out, still stuck to the potty at home though). DS2 was as described above, he's been potty trained for about four weeks now. I'm hoping DD2 will go directly onto the toilet once old enough but we'll see.

Mrsglitterfairy Fri 12-May-17 08:43:22

Yes do it. Just be prepared for a busier time than usual as you should really take her off to the toilet every 15 mins or so so she can try. Hard work but will be worth it

BillyButtfuck Fri 12-May-17 08:55:17

So if she needed to go whilst there, are you saying the toilets are too far to walk to with the potty so you would whip it out there and then to use, or that the toilets would be an annoying walk with the potty, but you'd take DD to the toilets and use the potty in there?

Screwinthetuna Fri 12-May-17 08:57:49

Day 6 I'd put a pull up on and take her the toilet before, mid and after. Pooing in her pants or weeing all over the floor will only set her back

peppatax Fri 12-May-17 09:06:58

Really screw? I'd argue putting a pull up on has more potential for setting back than a poo in the pants.

I also don't get the potty thing. Have a toilet seat adaptor at home to practise on and use lots of encouragement when out and using a big toilet.

FusionChefGeoff Fri 12-May-17 16:26:28

Well, it was a very successful morning! I did take the potty just in case but in the end we had 3 pre-emptive trips to the loo - 2 of which resulted in wees so that was great.

personally, I don't mind children going to the potty in these kind of situations and it is a bit of a mission to trek to the one toilet - so if someone was in there and DD was desperate, there would have been an accident definitely.

I try to get them on the toilet wherever possible but we don't have a downstairs loo and she needs help on and off the toilet so it's quicker and easier to have the potty downstairs otherwise I have to keep dropping everything to grab her and leg it upstairs. With the potty easy accessible, she even went for a poo on her own this afternoon.

BillyButtfuck Fri 12-May-17 16:35:57

Glad it went well.

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