I am friends with my best friend's DD on Instagram. She's 13.
She has her main Instagram page, but also another one that I am pretty sure my BF doesn't know about.
It talks about how she is trans/genderfluid and how she wants to cut her hair short and isn't into traditionally girly stuff. It also says her parents are transphobic and judgmental (they really aren't).
I don't think I was supposed to see this page. I found it because she shares it with a schoolfriend of hers who liked a comment of mine using it, so I saw it. Her schoolfriend is gay and 'gender fluid' and hasn't come out to her parents (she calls them homophobic because they won't buy her boyish clothes). I don't know them, so can't tell you how accurate this is.
My BF and her husband are exceptionally chilled people. They wouldn't judge their daughter about anything like this. I'm far more TERFish (not really, but I am gender critical).
It upsets me a bit, because this is a kid I have known since she was born. She's always had a good relationship with her mum. I guess I know teenagers need a space to rebel, but if she is genuinely feeling like her mum won't listen to her, that can't be good.
(I don't believe she is trans for a second BTW. I know this girl almost as well as I know my own DD, she has NEVER wanted to be a boy, she has NEVER expressed any body dysphoria.)
So, do I STFU, or talk to my friend?
(P.S. This isn't another trans thread really, although it does worry me that it seems to be a 'trendy' thing to be and I hate the narrowing of gender norms. But really, I just want some friendship/parenting advice).
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BlueBlueElectricBlue · 11/05/2017 16:50
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