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Morgani97 Sat 06-May-17 08:55:07

Desperate for some advice police,Long backstory to this. My 13 yro dd has been bullied at school for over a year,reported this to the school almost on a weekly basis yet nothing had been done. Cut a long story short dd began self harming last summer,her attitude was vile which i totally understand. However ive met a new partner who is lovely very patient and tolerant and gets on well with dd, She asked him to come along to parents evening which he did.After this there was an incident at school which resulted in dd being sent to isolation. The following day i decided to keep dd off school as she was upset about the day before. I rang the school twice and informed them she wasnt coming in and arranged a meeting for the following monday. I then went to a course i was enrolled in. I got a call from my partner telling me a teacher from the school along with a police officer and a cpso and had taken my daughter back to school. When i got home my partner informed me he had been questioned (not under caution) the police officer was offensive in his manner of questioning. I went to the school and picked my dd up she was extremely upset as she had heard everything that had been said. I put a complaint in to the school as was unsure why she had been taken back to school.Then yesterday the same police officer turned up at my home with two women who wanted to read out claires law to me ( i know all about my partners past and have no concerns) The day before a letter was delivered by hand to the school to the chairman of govenors which seems a bit of a coincidence .Again the people that turned up at our home were offensive and were asked to leave 7 times what the hell can i do w are all so upset about this which has stemmed from bullying. I should add that the bullying has been done by ten asian youths not that the creed or colour matters but obviously the school picked up on this .Sorry for the long post i just wanted to get all points across.

blueistheonlycolourwefeel Sat 06-May-17 08:57:13

The police don't turn up and read Claire's law for nothing.......I would be listening to them and asking about their concerns.

Ikillallplants Sat 06-May-17 08:57:31

What info did you get under Claire's law?

Smellbellina Sat 06-May-17 08:59:04

I think if the police are trying to share information with you under Claire's Law then you should be concerned.

PoliticalBiscuit Sat 06-May-17 08:59:34

I could have totally the wrong end of the stick but your partner has a past relevant to Claire's Law, you left your daughter home alone with your partner, the police thought this was inappropriate and took her to school so she wasnt left alone with him. They have tried again to explain about his past but you think it's not a problem.

You are concerned about your daughter being bullied. Do you think the police are missing the point? They probably think you are.

LedaP Sat 06-May-17 08:59:53

What did your dd that put her in isolation?

Why did you keep her off?

If they came to you with Claire's law, it serious.

It doesnt sound like they are harrasing you. It sounds like they are all concerned about your dps past.

Boulshired Sat 06-May-17 09:00:27

Police harassment would be the least of my concerns at the moment.

MagentaRocks Sat 06-May-17 09:01:44

The police do not disclose under Claire law unless there is something of concern. They will have been alerted by someone who is concerned about you/their child and will have then looked at all the information and decided if it is appropriate to disclose information to someone they consider may be at risk. They are trying to safeguard you and your family.

DoItTooJulia Sat 06-May-17 09:01:48

What past does your dp have?

DontBuyANewMumCashmere Sat 06-May-17 09:02:24

I am a police officer. Start worrying; not about them harassing you but why they're trying to warn you about your DP.

Something isn't right here. Police officers don't harass people by taking their children to school.

FrancisCrawford Sat 06-May-17 09:02:49

So is there something in your partners past that prompted this?

Why was your DD sent to isolation? Was she sent there to get away from the bullies?

Serowe72 Sat 06-May-17 09:05:54

Instead of complaining to the school, i would be finding out why others are so concerned about your partner. You should be listening very carefully, in order to safeguard your family.

Morgani97 Sat 06-May-17 09:06:23

He was in prison over 15 years ago for assaulting a police officer.dd was put into isolation because of her response to the bullys

myoriginal3 Sat 06-May-17 09:06:26

'Tis only a matter of time until all will be revealed.

Elphaba99 Sat 06-May-17 09:08:35

This is not Police Harassment.

It sounds as if the Police have your dd's safety at heart. I would start listening to them instead of accusing them.

LedaP Sat 06-May-17 09:09:14

I thought clares law was to do with history of domestic violence?

I may be wrong.

My dada has been in the police for 30 years and assaulted a few times. To get a prison sentance for it means it was really bad or not the only thing that has happened.

MaudGonneMad Sat 06-May-17 09:10:28

Claire's Law isn't about assaulting a police officer. Your partner is lying to you.

Rubberduckies Sat 06-May-17 09:12:31

Someone else may know better than me, but I don't think a Claire's law disclosure would be made for assaulting a police officer 15 years ago....

Unless you are a police woman who looks uncannily Iike his previous victim, I would suggest he has more in his history, probably domestic violence and I suspect something that could potentially put your child at risk due to their reaction of finding her alone with him.

I think you should hear what the police have to say....

Crispsheets Sat 06-May-17 09:14:04

"i know all about his past"
No you don't

LornaD40 Sat 06-May-17 09:14:24

Claire's Law isn't about assaulting a police officer. Your partner is lying to you.
This.

Did the officers give you information, or approach you about you requesting more information? It isn't clear.

What have the school actually said about the bullying issues? Does your dd have other friends and what has been happening?

Rubberduckies Sat 06-May-17 09:16:10

From dorset police "Commonly known as Clare’s Law, the Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme (DVDS) is named after Clare Wood who was murdered in 2009 by her boyfriend."

"Anybody can make an enquiry, but information is only given to someone at risk or a person who is in a position to safeguard the victim."

They obviously think you and your daughter could be potential victims. This is not harassment.

Elphaba99 Sat 06-May-17 09:16:20

This may help: www.gmp.police.uk/content/WebAttachments/88A190F67550078780257A71002E5DC8/$File/claire's%20law%20other%20people%20booklet.pdf

AtticusCactus Sat 06-May-17 09:16:24

Yourself and especially your DD sound like you are pretty vunerable right now.
I would listen to the police rather than accusing them of harassment. You need their guidance as it sounds like your DP hasn't quite disclosed everything to you.

Empireoftheclouds Sat 06-May-17 09:17:07

He was in prison over 15 years ago for assaulting a police officer. no he was not. It may have formed one of several charges but no way on earth given what you have told us was he in prison simply for that.

Please listen, protect yourself and protect your DD

DontBuyANewMumCashmere Sat 06-May-17 09:18:03

Can you tell us what the officers said to you?
This isn't adding up and I'm obviously tending towards the police.

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