Hello
My mum and I have always had a tricky relationship. She is a very hard lady, not at all tactile and could often say very hurtful things to me throughout my childhood about being fat, too shy, too loud etc etc. She's recently had a stroke but has made a good recovery. In the past, conversations with her would be very tense and she would go out of her way to disagree with me. I used to try and try to get her acceptance and would try and build some sort of 'normal' mother/daughter relationship but as I got older I realised the only person I was hurting was myself but trying to do this. Since her stroke, if I ever disagree with her or dare to try and justify my thoughts and behaviours she tells me that having the conversation with me is making her ill again. I basically have the threat that I either go along with what she says or if I disagree/argue/confront then I'm at risk of her having another stroke. I understand having a stroke can change people but she was like this before. My father and sister enable this behaviour but she doesn't say anything like this to them. Just to me. Aibu for wanting to distance myself? How can I protect myself around her as for various reasons (inc I love the rest of my family) I can't go NC
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Nonky · 30/04/2017 23:18
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