To feel like a mum already?

[Manorbier]

Ever since me and my partner moved in together in Jan, I 've looked after his 4 yr old stepdaughter, felt more and more broody by the day and recently found out I was nearly 3 months pregnant! Today I spent in soft play with LO, suffering from bellyache, sore feet and needing to pee the whole time I was there and now I'm organising LO and running her bath but I can't wait to get to sleep!! Truth is, it feels like hard work, pregnancy 's uncomfortable but I'm loving every minute of family life.
I even love my 'tum' and boobs!! Me and OH have decided we want our babies close together so any advice on the chaotic years to follow would be appreciated!!

[Oysterbabe]

I'd wait and see how you get on with the first one before you get carried away :)

[Manorbier]

Thank you !

[Manorbier]

I'm probably not realising the work involved!!

[Yukbuck]

I'd also wait to see how you get on 😊 so he still has parental rights to his step daughter? How long have him and his ex been separated?

[HomityBabbityPie]

Before I had a baby I wanted 5 kids.

Now I'm sticking at one

[SmileEachDay]

I'd be a bit careful with the being a mum to her thing, assuming she has an actual mum. Apologies if she doesn't. Why isn't her stepdad looking after her, as it's him she is there to have contact with?

[SmokeCloak]

I'd wait until you were about 8months pregnant before you decide you want to get pregnant again.

[Manorbier]

Yes he has parental rights it's just that I have more time I suppose and I'm broody I admit I love looking after her - it's all a novelty to me!!

[Manorbier]

He and his ex been separated 2 yrs

[Lj8893]

This is a strange post.

[SmokeCloak]

You don't usually have a 'tum' with your first at 3months.

[SheSaidHeSaid]

What Lj said

[Oysterbabe]

I am a bit confused, so the little girl is not his but he was married to her mum until she was 2?

[RandomDent]

It's nice you're enjoying it. I liked being pregnant.

[IAmTheWorwax]

Ahh it's all so exciting at the beginning isn't it. It's like starting a new chapter in life.

No advice really, just sleep while you can!

[Shakirasma]

I'm glad you're happy OP and you love looking after your partner's child (stepchild?). But please don't get carried away, you are not her mum and never will be so be careful not to tread on her actual mum's toes.

[Floggingmolly]

Why does he have parental rights to his 4 year old step daughter? Very strange tale indeed...

[SmokeCloak]

Does your DPs DD still see her mum?

[SmokeCloak]

Yes it is strange. Doesn't sit right really.

[StealthPolarBear]

Hmm that is a bit odd. Why does he still have her to stay?

[Oysterbabe]

I saw in another post you refer to her as your step daughter, is that what you mean?

[SmokeCloak]

Oh just saw you referred to her as your DPs stepdaughter?

[SaorAlbaGuBrath]

Not so weird tbf, DP has two DSDs from his marriage (separated 2 years before we met), he's the only dad they've ever known.

[StealthPolarBear]

Yes saor but the op spends all her time looking after the girl, not her stepdaughter.

[StealthPolarBear]

Stupid autocorrect. I typed "stepdad" and it corrected it to "stepdaugher" as I pressed post