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To feel like a mum already?

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Manorbier Sun 30-Apr-17 17:56:35

Ever since me and my partner moved in together in Jan, I 've looked after his 4 yr old stepdaughter, felt more and more broody by the day and recently found out I was nearly 3 months pregnant! Today I spent in soft play with LO, suffering from bellyache, sore feet and needing to pee the whole time I was there and now I'm organising LO and running her bath but I can't wait to get to sleep!! Truth is, it feels like hard work, pregnancy 's uncomfortable but I'm loving every minute of family life.
I even love my 'tum' and boobs!! Me and OH have decided we want our babies close together so any advice on the chaotic years to follow would be appreciated!!

Oysterbabe Sun 30-Apr-17 17:59:10

I'd wait and see how you get on with the first one before you get carried away smile

Manorbier Sun 30-Apr-17 18:02:27

Thank you !

Manorbier Sun 30-Apr-17 18:03:02

I'm probably not realising the work involved!!

Yukbuck Sun 30-Apr-17 18:03:20

I'd also wait to see how you get on 😊 so he still has parental rights to his step daughter? How long have him and his ex been separated?

HomityBabbityPie Sun 30-Apr-17 18:04:37

Before I had a baby I wanted 5 kids.

Now I'm sticking at one grin

SmileEachDay Sun 30-Apr-17 18:05:55

I'd be a bit careful with the being a mum to her thing, assuming she has an actual mum. Apologies if she doesn't. Why isn't her stepdad looking after her, as it's him she is there to have contact with?

SmokeCloak Sun 30-Apr-17 18:06:56

I'd wait until you were about 8months pregnant before you decide you want to get pregnant again.

Manorbier Sun 30-Apr-17 18:07:50

Yes he has parental rights it's just that I have more time I suppose and I'm broody I admit I love looking after her - it's all a novelty to me!!

Manorbier Sun 30-Apr-17 18:08:13

He and his ex been separated 2 yrs

Lj8893 Sun 30-Apr-17 18:08:35

This is a strange post.

SmokeCloak Sun 30-Apr-17 18:09:55

You don't usually have a 'tum' with your first at 3months.

SheSaidHeSaid Sun 30-Apr-17 18:10:01

What Lj said

Oysterbabe Sun 30-Apr-17 18:10:07

I am a bit confused, so the little girl is not his but he was married to her mum until she was 2?

RandomDent Sun 30-Apr-17 18:10:11

It's nice you're enjoying it. I liked being pregnant.

IAmTheWorwax Sun 30-Apr-17 18:12:31

Ahh it's all so exciting at the beginning isn't it. It's like starting a new chapter in life.

No advice really, just sleep while you can!

Shakirasma Sun 30-Apr-17 18:13:22

I'm glad you're happy OP and you love looking after your partner's child (stepchild?). But please don't get carried away, you are not her mum and never will be so be careful not to tread on her actual mum's toes.

Floggingmolly Sun 30-Apr-17 18:14:53

Why does he have parental rights to his 4 year old step daughter? Very strange tale indeed... hmm

SmokeCloak Sun 30-Apr-17 18:15:15

Does your DPs DD still see her mum?

SmokeCloak Sun 30-Apr-17 18:15:55

Yes it is strange. Doesn't sit right really.

StealthPolarBear Sun 30-Apr-17 18:16:22

Hmm that is a bit odd. Why does he still have her to stay?

Oysterbabe Sun 30-Apr-17 18:18:17

I saw in another post you refer to her as your step daughter, is that what you mean?

SmokeCloak Sun 30-Apr-17 18:20:03

Oh just saw you referred to her as your DPs stepdaughter?

SaorAlbaGuBrath Sun 30-Apr-17 18:21:50

Not so weird tbf, DP has two DSDs from his marriage (separated 2 years before we met), he's the only dad they've ever known.

StealthPolarBear Sun 30-Apr-17 18:24:02

Yes saor but the op spends all her time looking after the girl, not her stepdaughter.

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