Bit of a complicated situation so I'll try and be brief:
MIL has recently been upset that she doesn't see enough of DD. She lives a long way away, won't use public transport and won't drive to our house by herself.
It's a massive cliche but she has previously been very prickly with me and I've turned to the good people of Mumsnet for advice in the past.
Because DH is a legend and I wanted to make him happy, and for DD to have a relationship with her grandma, we spent a fortune on furniture for the spare room and took annual leave to spruce it up so she would have somewhere nice to stay if she wanted to come stay with us.
I said we could drive to collect her (600 mile round trip and takes about 6 hours each way), she could stay with us for a week and then we could take her back. This entails 24 hours travelling in total, taking annual leave, cost of petrol, food while she's here, cooking cleaning etc, but I want to do it so she can feel welcome and so she might be friendlier with me and nicer to DD. For context DD still hasn't had her Christmas or birthday presents because she won't pay postage for them.
I am ok with all of the above. DH is great and has supported me through periods of ill health lately.
BUT... he has arranged the week for MIL to be here to clash with my birthday.
I know it's pathetic to stamp my feet about my birthday at my age but FFS it's going to be shit now as I'll be cleaning, cooking and generally playing hand maid to MIL. I'm just really hurt he's had little regard for my birthday but then I'm aware I sound like a 4 year old when I say that.
Would you raise this with DH, or just suck it up?
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AIBU?
Is this a dick move or AIBU?
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BeverlyGoldberg · 30/04/2017 16:34
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