OH and I have been together about three years, lived together for two. He travels for work every week, and I commute. I recently changed jobs to the other side of London so cannot commute from where we are so we are looking to move.
We had agreed a location (let's call it X) based on the properties around there. Earlier this week I expressed my concern that 1) would he be happy there as I know he wasn't keen on the move anyway and 2) money. He makes more than me, we split household costs down the middle (which I am fine with) but I can't always afford to do xyz and don't have as much disposable cash. I have taken a pay cut in my current job for longer term prospects. I told him I was really concerned about money and being able to know that he would be there if I needed him as otherwise I didn't feel it would work. He told me that if I didn't think he would I didn't know him at all etc etc. BUT there have been instances in the past which have led me to think he might be like this.
Anyway, he has now said to me that he doesn't want to live in X because of my "behaviour" and he thinks it is too remote (it's zone 4) and he must be closer to his friends for when he sees them once a month. I suggested place Y which was somewhere we liked and looked at to start but Y is out of our price range and it is only 10 minutes away from X!
There have been times in the past where I have thought about leaving. I've stayed because I have wanted it to work and we want the same things long term. AIBU to be pissed off? Should I just go?
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boffin9207 · 29/04/2017 08:32
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