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AIBU?

To contact the police

30 replies

CrockedPot · 29/04/2017 02:48

DS1 is in year 7 and was walking to school this morning when some older boys started throwing mud. He ignored them and carried in and one of them picked up a stone and threw it at him. The first I knew was when the school phoned to tell me he had been hurt and had been given first aid but was now ok and back in class. When he came home I saw the bruise and I am furious. Despite having a jumper and thick winter coat on, he is black and blue and I dread to think what would have happened had he been hit in the eye. I plan to go in to school on Tuesday and find out what has happened to the year 11 boy that threw it - he has been identified, but also feel he should get a police caution for what in my mind constitutes assault. AIBU?

To contact the police

OP posts:

Report

KoalaDownUnder · 29/04/2017 02:54

A year 11 did that to a kid 4 years younger? Shame!

Little arsehole.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 29/04/2017 02:56

AYBU. Good God definitely not.
The shit head deserves more than a caution. Year 11 he's practically an adult.
He should be charged with assault.
Your poor little one. I fucking detest bullies.
Give him a massive ((((((((())))))))) from me and all of mumsnet.

HMWelsch · 29/04/2017 02:57

The school are unlikely to / shouldn't tell you what has happened to the other boy.

Yes, I would contact the police.

CrimsonKing · 29/04/2017 02:58

I would also contact the police. I have no tolerance for bullying. The bully should not be protected. Report asap.

highinthesky · 29/04/2017 03:05

Straight to the police, don't wait for the evidence to fade over the BH.

The school hasn't appreciated how serious this is: what the head of year needs to know is the police incident number.

user1491572121 · 29/04/2017 03:51

Poor DS! Those litlte shits! Definitely police.

Bluntness100 · 29/04/2017 04:05

Go to the police. This sort of thing needs to be stopped in its tracks and it's the only thing that will scare the bullies. Just telling the school will simply escalate it. And I hope he's ok, that must have been horrid for him,😔

DoctorTwo · 29/04/2017 04:19

Agree with everybody, go to the police. The boy that threw the stone needs to learn that actions have consequences.

Anchovies12 · 29/04/2017 04:34

To be fair it's quite possible that school have contacted the police, I know my school would have but we wouldn't necessarily tell the parents of the hurt Child until it had been fully investigated. I would just ring to speak to your ds's head of year on Tuesday and ask what action has been taken. If they haven't rang the police you can then ask why not.

RiversrunWoodville · 29/04/2017 04:41

Oh poor boy, police definitely and don't wait until after bank holiday. School may already have contacted them but somehow this is unlikely

sailorcherries · 29/04/2017 06:03

Go to the police. Where I work the schools have no power over such things if they happen outwith general school times and school grounds, such as the walk to and from school.

The school may not actually be able to do anything other than identify him and let you know.

Areyoufree · 29/04/2017 06:07

That's not bullying, that's assault. I would definitely go to the police. It's important to send the message that this kind of violence is unacceptable. Your poor son - how awful!

tetherended · 29/04/2017 06:10

Yes, def. go to the police.

sparkleandsunshine · 29/04/2017 06:12

Police all the way! Year 11 is practically an adult!! This child should no better! And getting away with it will just strengthen them as a bully! Stop this arsehole!

AwaywiththePixies27 · 29/04/2017 06:20

Straight to the police with that.

Too many scrotes are getting away with this because 'theyre still a kid and it wouldn't be fair for them to start off with a caution/ criminal record'.

If you don't want a caution / criminal record then don't throw fucking rocks at year 7s! Hope your DS is okay OP.
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SheSparkles · 29/04/2017 06:25

With the school's encouragement and support I reported a non injury assault on my son to police. The lads responsible were charged and received a senior officer's warning for their troubles. Report, all the way....as much as anything your DS will know you have his back

Gwilt160981 · 29/04/2017 06:27

Get the police involved. When I got bullied I spotted one of them in the street my mom got out her car and roasted one of them in front of his mates. He tried to pass the blame (like they do) and went up his own arse. Even though went to the school to make complaint I got a bollocking off their form teacher over my mom. So me mom went up school and roasted her saying "have you got kids??? Do you know what it's like to have ya kid bullied" teacher told mom she wouldn't answer that cos it wasn't her business. But it did get resolved. This teacher stuck up for them all because I told them where to go after they tried to racially verbally abuse me. ( I was born with tight curly hair and they thought my parents were black.. I'm white. Parents are white.) They never come near me again. I hope you get things sorted and hope your lad is OK too.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 29/04/2017 06:33

That's not strictly true about it being out of school grounds. If they're in uniform they are representing the school.

I had an incident last year, I stopped a fight on the way home and two days later when walking with my 7yo, I had my whole path blocked by a gang of year 10s and got told 'i needed fucking up' for what I did. I know, wonderful little catholic school too!

The school couldn't have been more helpful, the HOY met me the same night I'd rang them to ID the right students, they were all hauled into the office and given a dressing down the next morning. I certainly wasn't told they can't do anything about it because it happened off school grounds.

Police first OP. Then the school. If you go to the school first they'll probably discourage you from going to the police because they dont like the bad rep. They can solve that by making sure year 11s dont assault year 7s on the way home!

Goingtobeawesome · 29/04/2017 06:41

My son was assaulted by a same aged child in year six. School were embarrassingly useless. The police were called, ABH, the bully read the riot act with other agencies involved. Definitely call the police. I'd only phoned them for advice and they took control.

jarhead123 · 29/04/2017 07:14

How awful :( YANBU. Call the police. x

Supermagicsmile · 29/04/2017 07:42

Yanbu. Go to the police. Today.

ChasedByBees · 29/04/2017 07:48

Yes, police.

Dawndonnaagain · 29/04/2017 08:04

Dd went to a mainstream school. When she was tipped out of her wheelchair school were useless, despite it being on premises. Police sorted it though and were brilliant. Never happened again.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 29/04/2017 08:05

Dawndonnaagain that's awful. Bless your DD!

AnswerNeeded · 29/04/2017 08:22

Yep, contact police. For your son and for the next victim, because there'll always be a next victim if the perpetrator gets away with this.

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