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DrizzleHair Fri 28-Apr-17 22:24:19

Just wondering after a chat with someone else - at what age should a child be able to wipe their own bum post poo?

And would you check their bum or just leave them to it and cope with the odd skid?

DrizzleHair Fri 28-Apr-17 22:25:03

Ffs sorry about title! Phone autocorrected from bum to number for some reason.

slkk Fri 28-Apr-17 22:25:34

In time to start school. I'd check until more confident.

AgentOprah Fri 28-Apr-17 22:25:36

4. Most 3 year olds need help ime.

RyanStartedTheFire Fri 28-Apr-17 22:25:40

DD struggles at age 4, but as she's going to school in September I'm just dealing with the skids and focusing on teaching.

NuffSaidSam Fri 28-Apr-17 22:28:36

Around 3/3.5, but I would expect the occasional skid.

Chocolateteabag Fri 28-Apr-17 22:31:57

Ds1 (6.5) is a lazy bum wiper at times and I still occasionally threaten to "check wipe" him as he has occasional skid pants.

DH had friends at uni who didn't bother wiping properly (skiddy kecks by the shared washing machine 🤢) so don't think there is a set "age"

abbsisspartacus Fri 28-Apr-17 22:39:04

Mine is four I went to the nursery the other week to ask there policy apparently they wipe if asked by the child I asked if they could encourage d's to be more independent and they have they won't let him have a dirty bottom but they encourage him to give it a go he is now.more independent at home

TheSnorkMaidenReturns Fri 28-Apr-17 22:41:28

Apparently it's before school. My oldest needed help until he was over six. GP was not concerned at that point just with that piece of information, but he was later diagnosed with severe dyspraxia. So don't let it go if your child really can't do it - there may be an underlying reason.

Another DC had too many skid marks so now uses these. Wipes aren't great for flushing in general but I hope we are OK with one day, or fewer!

MyHairNeedsASnip Fri 28-Apr-17 22:46:48

DD is 5 and still shouts for me to come and do it. She can do it herself very well, but she's a lazy little sod. I'm not getting worked up about it, she does it herself at school and I know she'll stop shouting for me soon enough.

DrizzleHair Fri 28-Apr-17 22:47:21

Thanks for ask the answers hive!
DD is 3.5 and tries to wipe at nursery, but at home she always calls for one of us to wipe her. She's said she's happy to try wiping herself, and generally her bum is pretty squeaky clean after a poo, though about once a week it is messier...

I'll keep encouraging her to wipe herself and see how knickers fare.

Woman in question was talking with horror about a 4yr old asking her (leader at a music event, parent not there for some reason) to wipe her bum and bending over for it. I was somewhat surprised she was horrified at a 4yr old asking for help, and wondered if I needed to get cracking on getting DD self sufficient.

Glad your views seem broadly in line with mine.

khajiit13 Fri 28-Apr-17 22:48:42

Ds can at 3 and 9 months unless it's really messy

khajiit13 Fri 28-Apr-17 22:50:57

Ds doesn't seen to poop at nursery so can't help there

sadsquid Fri 28-Apr-17 22:56:11

DD sometimes wanted me to do a 'last wipe to check' even when she was 5, though sorted herself out perfectly happily at school. I've known heaps of 4 year olds still asking for help. Very normal IME.

tigercub50 Fri 28-Apr-17 23:00:46

My DD is 8 & still has to be reminded to wipe thoroughly ( she has chronic constipation & suffers with soiled pants which is sometimes overflow & sometimes from lack of proper wiping). I was talking to some other Mums recently & one said her 9 year old was still not all that brilliant. I tend to buy wipes for DD as they are moist & better than just paper

MrsTwix Fri 28-Apr-17 23:02:34

If a child isn't old enough to wipe their own bum then they shouldn't be left for a stranger to do it for them. I'd be happy to help my niece or my best friends child if I was babysitting etc etc, but if I was trying to lead an event and a random child presented their bum to me for wiping I'd be rather unimpressed.

LBOCS2 Fri 28-Apr-17 23:04:40

DD1 has started wiping herself in the last couple of weeks, and she's 4.5. She has got the hang of it much faster than we anticipated actually, which was nice! I think she started on primary school allocation day, as I suddenly had an 'oh shit' moment about being able to do it before starting school.

SomewhatIdiosyncratic Fri 28-Apr-17 23:07:50

DS is getting the hang of it at 6. In his defence, following food allergies and intolerances when he was younger, he doesn't have the easiest texture to deal with. Based on the balance of his academic skills, personal care skills and family history, I strongly suspect dyslexia which is supported by an initial screening from school.

sdaisy26 Fri 28-Apr-17 23:10:18

My dd has only started doing it willingly in the past month or so; she's 4y 8mo. She's been able to do it for longer than this though, has just chosen the lazy option!

She started school at just over 4 and I was worried but she coped fine despite still asking me to wipe at home. Yet another disadvantage for summer borns.

sdaisy26 Fri 28-Apr-17 23:13:13

Otoh her younger brother is fairly independent already at just turned 3 (I insist on a final wipe to check but he's usually done a good enough job). Think it's a second child thing that he wants to do everything his big sister does.

Notcontent Fri 28-Apr-17 23:13:36

My dd was quite old - but in her defence she has lots of food intolerances which mean that things are often a bit messy... She uses wipes (but we don't flush them).

RaspberryBeret34 Fri 28-Apr-17 23:13:41

I think ds started soon after turning 4. I found it helped to be there with him while he did it and encourage plenty of wipes and then suggest a "checking one" and if that one was clean, no need for more. I'd go with allowing plenty of loo roll at first.

Honeybee79 Fri 28-Apr-17 23:16:17

DS is 6 and does it buy still asks us to check sometimes.

NotALottaPot Fri 28-Apr-17 23:18:41

Well, DH is nearly 40 and still leaves skid marks in his pants so I'm not having high expectations for DS who is nearly 4.

dontbesillyhenry Fri 28-Apr-17 23:19:58

I'm just here to chuckle at the autocorrect- sorry but as far as they go it's a good one!

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