I know IABU...but I want some help in how to word something so it doesn't come across like I am!
My MIL loves buying clothes for my DD. She is my only DC and MIL's second grand daughter.
Firstly I would rather she asked if there was anything we needed - DD is five months and has sooooo many clothes people have bought! (Plus I love to buy stuff myself!) I think it's a waste of money and if she wants to do something nice there is always other stuff we need that will actually be enjoyed/of use. Obviously I don't want to ask as that sounds rude and grabby.
For example, I have set up a savings account for DD and have a piggy bank that was a gift in her room. In five months my husband and I have saved a fair bit and hope to keep doing this over the years so she has money aside for uni or a flat. My mum sticks a tenna in there every now as well as often asking if there is anything we need. Other relatives have also put money into this account as a bit towards a nest egg. I think this is so much more worthwhile for DD's future but again I obviously can't ask MIL for money!
Secondly, and this is the part where I know IABU, the clothes she buys are...how do I put this nicely...really not to my taste. I know I am BU but actually I can't stand most of them. They are quite garish (bold motifs, slogans and colours) and often quite bad quality. I'm not adverse to a supermarket or Primark but I think you do have to choose stuff carefully to avoid it looking cheap. It sounds so awful but thy really are bad!! Would upload some photos but scared of outting myself! Much of this stuff I have bagged up for charity.
I really don't want to be rude as I appreciate that she wants to do something nice and don't want to throw it back in her face as I value her a lot. I know we are really lucky to have relatives that want to buy stuff and help us and DD is lucky to be so loved. But she keeps on buying clothes, much of which I dislike and more to the point that DD will never need/wear.
I have tried to be gentle - making jokes about how we all need to stop buying clothes as soon DD will need a walk in wardrobe and generally hinting that she has too much stuff. But it's not working! She keeps showing up with clothes I don't like or want! Have asked DH to have a word and he just says she likes clothes shopping!
I just want to find a way of telling her she can do nice things and stop buying clothes! Again I know IABU and over the top but I worry if I don't stop this now I will have a lifetime of it and a wardrobe filled with tacky clothes but most importantly she will be wasting her money!
Please help me be firm but kind!
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ImMrsBrightside · 27/04/2017 21:37
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