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AIBU regarding DD birthday?

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HopeSpringsEternal2017 Tue 25-Apr-17 21:29:10

DD will be turning 12. She wants to have some friends over to go swimming then home for food. AIBU to let them swim unsupervised at the local council pool?

PurpleDaisies Tue 25-Apr-17 21:29:58

What's your pool's rule about unaccompanied children?

HopeSpringsEternal2017 Tue 25-Apr-17 21:33:16

Any over 8's can swim unsupervised

bigchris Tue 25-Apr-17 21:34:17

As long as you follow the pools rules it's fine

PurpleDaisies Tue 25-Apr-17 21:34:57

It's fine then. smile

Sleepdeprivedredhead Tue 25-Apr-17 21:35:20

That sounds fine. Do you have particular concerns about your daughter/ her froend's ability to swim?

Wolfiefan Tue 25-Apr-17 21:36:34

I was going to ask if they can all swim!
Leave your mobile number at reception and stay close (ish) in case of emergency? (Unlikely but bumped heads or nosebleeds etc are possible!)

feathermucker Tue 25-Apr-17 21:38:16

My son is 10 and goes with his friends regularly. They are all good swimmers.

SaucyJack Tue 25-Apr-17 21:40:33

What are you calling unsupervised? Will you be in the building?

I wouldn't. I try and be extra careful with other people's DC. It'd be a bit awkward having to explain that their kid was face down at the bottom of the pool when their Mum came to pick them up later.

bigchris Tue 25-Apr-17 21:49:20

Saucyjack that would never happen, pools have life guards !

PurpleDaisies Tue 25-Apr-17 21:49:27

Presumably there'll be a lifeguard there?

purplecollar Tue 25-Apr-17 21:54:16

My dd is 11 and three quarters. No way would I let her go swimming on her own with friends. If I were responsible for her friends? Even worse. I'd have to supervise. Might be just me though. Here they don't walk down to the post box on their own yet.

The lifeguards at our pool are 16 years old and rarely looking at the pool.

HopeSpringsEternal2017 Tue 25-Apr-17 21:59:38

She's just started a new school so I don't know any of there parents to ask which is why I think I'm worrying. Her previous friends I'd have no problem with as they are all sensible and swim like fishes. I only live 2 minutes from the pool and DD swims 6 times a week so all the lifeguards and staff know her very well.

ThouShallNotPass Tue 25-Apr-17 22:13:52

My 10 year old and her friends from class take themselves off swimming at the local pool every week on the free under 18's evening. There are staff to ensure they're safe in the water. If they misbehave then they get chucked out and possibly even banned. (They could even phone the parents because it's a small town and all the local kids have school swimming there)
I've never thought to be concerned about her going (well, I can't say I wasn't a little nervous when she went for the first time as a 9 year old). 12 is definitely old enough in my book.

Crispbutty Tue 25-Apr-17 22:28:42

I was going swimming with friends without parents from the age of 9. I can't see any problem with this.

halcyondays Tue 25-Apr-17 22:34:33

My 10 year old and all her friends go on their own.

CMOTDibbler Tue 25-Apr-17 22:34:48

My 10 year old goes with his friends - in fact they cycle there on the road together.

Leeds2 Tue 25-Apr-17 22:37:50

I would have no problem with what you propose, but I think you should at the pool as a spectator.

HeddaGarbled Tue 25-Apr-17 22:54:54

Maybe make it explicit in the invitations that they will be unsupervised except for the swimming pool staff. Then the parents can make their own decisions about whether that's OK for their children.

FrancisCrawford Tue 25-Apr-17 23:26:46

At 12 I can't see a problem. Perfectly normal thing to do.

rainbowunicorn Wed 26-Apr-17 00:02:44

My kids have been meeting with friends to go swimming unsupervised by parents since they were around 9. I find it strange that people would not be comfortable with 12 years olds doing this.

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