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To kill a man and dump his body in the chiller section

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debska Tue 25-Apr-17 14:11:21

Lots and lots of major shit in my life at the moment and the stress is showing in my face. Today has been horrific especially. Popped to supermarket. A delightful man decided to tell me to cheer up as it might never happen. Shouted ' you don't know what is going on my life , he told me to shut up as he walked away. He was obviously thinking his kind work as a Samaritan had done the trick. I told ( shouted) him to shut up too. Had to vent so told a lovely lady who worked there. There was nothing she could do but I did have a fantasy of him being hauled out by security lol. So would I have been unreasonable to have throttled him and shoved him in with the other frozen pork products .

Dawndonnaagain Tue 25-Apr-17 14:14:07

Not at all and I admire your patience for not having done so. FFS what gives blokes the right to do this. I have never, nor has any woman I know said this to a total stranger. He was obviously a twat who expects women to kow-tow.
Hope things improve for you. flowers

happydays2017 Tue 25-Apr-17 14:16:29

Blimey! I am sure he didn't mean to upset you, did it really warrant that ?

Headinthedraw Tue 25-Apr-17 14:17:18

I used to get this all the time when I was younger.Or "Cheer up love -it might never happen".I wouldn't advise killing anyone but you have my sympathies.

NoncommittalToSparkleMotion Tue 25-Apr-17 14:18:13

What a dick he was.

People can be so ignorant.

Maybe the next person will do your bidding.

FlyingElbows Tue 25-Apr-17 14:21:00

A bloke once said that to my mother is a shop. By the time she'd finished with him he really really wished he'd kept his mouth shut! Yanbu.

Krimbler Tue 25-Apr-17 14:21:02

If only he'd said 'turn that frown upside down'.

Then you could have replied 'no, but I'm going to turn that clown upside down...........into the petit pois'.

It's not random violence if it rhymes.

Whatsername17 Tue 25-Apr-17 14:22:46

Yanbu. I hate it when people do this. I had dd1 off school a couple of weeks ago after being up all night being sick. Dd2 was 6 weeks so I'd not slept. Dh missed the delivery of a very important package so I bundled both kids into the car with the intention of leaving them in the car whilst I popped in and got the package. When I got to the depot, the line was huge so I decided I couldn't leave them and took them with me. Baby was fractous, dd1 a bit wobbly and the line moving so slowly. This was the point some cockwomble decided to look at dd1 and say 'shouldn't she be in school'. I said that she was poorly and he followed it up with 'she looks alright to me' angry. I curtly replied that she'd been being sick all night and his response was 'well the teachers want them in school.' He then felt very aggrieved when I told him that I am a fucking teacher and I'm quite capable of deciding when my own kid is too sick to go to school so back the fuck off. Lack of sleep is not good for my patience with fucking idiots.

Armadillostoes Tue 25-Apr-17 14:23:40

YANBU OP. I am amazed by people like this. In answer to Happy Days-yes the comment did warrant that response. It was a horrible and tactless thing to say to somebody who might have just been bereaved or diagnosed with a life changing illness. Somebody once said something similar to me in a hospital car park at an awful moment in my life. I have never forgotten it.

PeaFaceMcgee Tue 25-Apr-17 14:24:14

Don't you know that as a meek mild woman you're meant to have a gracious beatific smile on your pretty little face - to uplift everyone around you?

How dare you scowl around the shops, minding your own business.

Funnyface1 Tue 25-Apr-17 14:25:11

Well done you, i don't why people think it's ok to do this. It was actually very rude of him, what reply did he expect?

lizzieoak Tue 25-Apr-17 14:27:10

Ooh, I used to get this all the time when I was younger (pretty women with bitchy resting face seem to really bother men).

I finally had my fill of it and said very fiercely to one "you should not say that to strangers, you have no idea what is going on in my life". And it stopped! Word got round, they put in their Bossy Gits newsletter, they mentioned it at their club meetings.

I hope your interaction has the same result! A few men cannot bear for women to be looking like they have thoughts which do not involve being receptive to passing strangers.

Changingagain Tue 25-Apr-17 14:30:22

I have a grumpy face (resting bitch face it seems to be called) and used to get told that a lot when I was younger. A few days after my Dad's death I replied to a middle aged man " My Dad just died". He looked at me like I'd insulted him, no remorse at all. So no, YANBU.

ExplodedCloud Tue 25-Apr-17 14:31:51

A manager did that to me at work. I was concentrating very hard on something very complex. It was also a very important and sad anniversary to me and I was at the end of a long day.
Twat.
I don't think they'll ever do it again mind...

BrandMombie Tue 25-Apr-17 14:34:21

Had a sleazy workman sitting in his work van one afternoon, having lunch. Wasn't in the best mood, had an awful morning with DS, and was very eager to just get home. He shouted out his window 'smile', whilst obviously looking at me up and down perving. I stopped, and did a sarcastic smile. He smiled proudly, and I stuck my finger up at him. I then walked off, and didn't hear another peep from him. Sometimes they just need telling!

SantinoRice Tue 25-Apr-17 14:35:58

Does make you wonder, if they'd ever say that to a bloke.

I'm going to stop and ask the next one that says it to me. I'll report back ;)

UnbornMortificado Tue 25-Apr-17 14:38:34

YANBU if he does it again I'll give you an alibi, does my head in and yes I've never heard anyone say it to a man before.

GoatsFeet Tue 25-Apr-17 14:39:30

Why do men think they have the right to go around saying these sorts of things to women?

Maybe we should pick a day when women all over the country shout out to random men who aren't smiling, and tell them to "Cheer up, love, and give us a smile."

We could have one day when we act as though men's faces, bodies & emotions are ours to police and control.

MsMims Tue 25-Apr-17 14:39:37

YANBU. Funny how it's always men directing this sort of comment at women. Like Armadillo I once had the same just outside the hospital doors. So tactless and rude.

MrsGideon Tue 25-Apr-17 14:39:37

This is one of my biggest pet peeves.

I had the classic of one bloke telling me to cheer up when I'd just found out my dad had been diagnosed with cancer. I told him as much and he just looked a bit awkward and walked off

Nonibaloni Tue 25-Apr-17 14:39:56

Dumping him in the freezer would have been wrong. Leaving his mangled body propped comically in a trolley would make much more sense.

It's right up there with mansplaining, in fact, it's a form of mansplaining I reckon. I fantasise about punching people in the throats when they do it me.

PeaFaceMcgee Tue 25-Apr-17 14:41:06

Has anyone ever been told to smile in this way by a woman? It does seem to be something about being there for men to look at...

AnnieAnoniMouse Tue 25-Apr-17 14:42:17

I got a lot of this after my Dad died. I tolerated it pretty well for a while figuring, most people mean well. But I reached breaking point and just looked people right in the eye and said 'It already did, my Dad just died' and then waited for them to back down first.

Some people do mean well when they say it. Others just need throwing in the nearest freezer or under the nearest bus.

PeaFaceMcgee Tue 25-Apr-17 14:42:21

Ha, x-post with everyone!

upperlimit Tue 25-Apr-17 14:45:16

On the few occasions I've been told to smile I have just flicked the bird. It's old fashioned of me, I know, but while it still has meaning it's easier than having to to actually yell "fuck off".

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