A month ago I suffered a missed miscarriage and my MIL offered to come down. When my husband went to pick her up(an hour a way) she made excuses that she had to go back the next day but as my husband had work he wasn't able to do this so she didn't end up coming.
That is the last time we have spoken to her. In the meantime I suffered a haemorrhage and an emergency D&C and I was on my own in A&E as my husband was with the children as we have no one to have them.
I feel so angry, hurt and upset that she had not bothered with us but I have come to the point that I don't want I act with her now anyway as this was just one of a long list of things.
My husband on the other hand and rightly so I suppose is struggling but my issue is he is so miserable and grumpy that it is affecting the mood in the house and affecting me and I'm feeling angry and resentful. I lost my mom last year and I suppose I saw my MIL as a mum figure as I used to call her all of the time for a chat so I thought we got on well. I'm feeling a combination of upset over losing my mom and baby and MIL not giving a damn but my husband constantly thinking about it all and I think wanting to be in touch with his mum.
I know I'm unreasonable about it really but because of all the feelings I'm feeling I'm not thinking rationally. MIL has said some awful things about my eldest son when he was a baby saying he would grow up to be a 'gay boy'. This comment is enough for me. It makes no odds to me if he loves a man or a woman I would just want him to be happy and hope he could confuse in me. This was in response to another arguement. I want to go no contact, I think she is toxic. My husband is at the point of saying things won't be the same but she is my mom.
Don't know where to proceed from here really. I feel emotionally drained and anxious.
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Freddofrog1983 · 25/04/2017 08:36
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