Advice on dick of a partner

[pinkrosebuds69]

Dp has a temper and flares up a lot . Last night dp told me my mum had told Dp that I was " very manipulative ". For context my mother and I have just become close after a a decade apart .

I believe this is a lie and my mother wouldnt bad mouth me toDp.Should I ask my mother - trouble is it will sever family relations 😞 feeling very sad right now

[Velvetbee]

Ditch DP, tread carefully with DM. You don't need a volatile partner who shit stirs/lies. You deserve better.

[Damia]

Get them both in a room and say that you have heard things off dp and would like to know if it's true. If both are there you should end up knowing who is lying.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

You've already said he's a dick and he's a shit stirrer too.

How long have you been together?

[Devorak]

Only you know but, before calls for LTB arrive, you are guessing he is lying. He might have your back.

Imagine the thread where someone's complaining that their estranged (recently together) mother had been bad-mouthing them and their DP hadn't stood up for them. "Leave the man-child" I suspect and "lack of loyalty is a red flag for me."

[Iwasjustabouttosaythat]

You just described your partner as a dick. This whole DM thing is irrelevant. Dump him and meet someone you actually like.

[AlternativeTentacle]

You just described your partner as a dick. This whole DM thing is irrelevant. Dump him and meet someone you actually like.

^ This.

[sparkleandsunshine]

You just described your partner as a dick. This whole DM thing is irrelevant. Dump him and meet someone you actually like.

^ This.

^what they said

[SemiNormal]

I don't know who is lying obviously BUT my ex did this to me to mess with my head. He told me that a 'family member' (he refused to say which one) had gone into is work and said they had concerns about me as a parent! He refused to say who. The next few weeks I was a nervous wreck, I was upset and emotional and I distanced myself from my family. I eyed everyone with suspicion. When I raised it again, a few weeks later, with my ex, he says he was only "joking". It clearly wasn't a joke, he knew full well what he was doing. That incident was the tip of a very big iceberg!

[QuiteLikely5]

He won't change. He feels threatened by your relationships with others.