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Happyhappyveggie Mon 24-Apr-17 06:40:10

My DH is ex forces but left a long time ago and really didn't enjoy it. And yet he keeps almost promoting it to my DS 9 as something that seems glamorous and exciting. It's causing a lot of rows as I don't want the armed forces portrayed as some glamorous career option when really it isn't- the reality is likely to mean war and violence, especially in the world we live in now. DH doesn't portray the reality to DS.
Aibu in my views?
It's not that I don't appreciate what the armed forces do- I just don't want to encourage it with my kids. DH always felt that he was recruited at a young age and yet he still persists with discussing it with DS

TaliDiNozzo Mon 24-Apr-17 06:46:19

Yanbu I don't think but I'm not sure whether you will ever get your DH to agree with your stance. Your DS will make his own mind up over time.

Mrsknackered Mon 24-Apr-17 06:55:31

YANBU.
DS has a long time to find out for himself/be educated.
He will always care what dad thinks but fortunately, things like the army are not sugar coated in TV/films/schools/etc.

Renaissance2017 Mon 24-Apr-17 07:03:17

I'm ex army, and loved it. However it's not for everyone,my son included. Your son will make up his own mind.

Be careful though that it's not like the line from Easy. Everyone wants me to be what they wanted to be. Your husband can't live his life like through his son. If he feels he didn't accomplish what he wanted to in the army, maybe he should join the reserves.

scaryteacher Mon 24-Apr-17 09:50:53

My ds and my Dh's kids are Forces kids, as were my dh and his db, and my db and I. None of the kids wants to join the RN, despite their Dads having successful and fulfilling careers, as they have other interests. The one that has joined the RN is bils son, and bil was never in the Forces.

My dh has got to play with pieces of kit that as an engineer you wouldn't get to deal with in civilian life; he has travelled a lot, gained academic and sports qualifications via the RN, the social life can be glamorous, and the work exciting professionally.

Your ds will find his own way.

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