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AIBU?

To think i will call my boyfriend my partner if i bloody well want to?

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malificent7 · 23/04/2017 22:10

There is quite a nasty put down on mn which is disguised as a statement of fact.
If a woman is seeing a man but does not live with him she is told " he is not your partner... he is your boyfriend. "

Well my other half/ bit of stuff/ love of my life / darling boyfriend is my partner in crime. He is my rock.
We dont live together and we are very happy with this arrangement.
We dont have kids together, we hacd no plans to marry or have kids just yet/ if ever but we just get each other.

Did i mention that we have only ( shock horror) been together for 18 months? And yet we always introduce each other as partners.

Many people who are married, live together and have kids are not partners if they are not in live.

Aibu to think that no outsiders can tell you what to call your dp?

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juneybean · 23/04/2017 22:10

Yanbu

malificent7 · 23/04/2017 22:11

Id like to also mention that he dosnt complete me as i was complete before i met him and yet we are partners in crime.

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Ginmakesitallok · 23/04/2017 22:11

Call him what you want, can't get worked up about it.

malificent7 · 23/04/2017 22:12

Or just straight foward partners!

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EverythingEverywhere1234 · 23/04/2017 22:13

YABU for referring to him as your partner in crime, as I truly hate that term.

The rest, YANBU. Boyfriend/partner, whats the difference really?

StrawberryJelly00 · 23/04/2017 22:13

Why do you care what MN say you should call him? Lol
Call him what you want to and what feels comfortable to you.

I live with my partner of 3 years he calls me his girlfriend but I prefer partner because it sounds more adult - I am not a girl I am a woman but I don't stop him from using girlfriend if that's what he prefers.

ImperialBlether · 23/04/2017 22:14

Do you share finances?

AtrociousCircumstance · 23/04/2017 22:15

It's absolutely ok to call him your partner - keep doing it.

But 'partner in crime' is very, very cringeworthy.

malificent7 · 23/04/2017 22:15

I get wound up as it is used as a put down on here. As though the person saying is an authority on human relationships.
Often followed by " he's obviously a twunt... ltb! "

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LewisFan · 23/04/2017 22:16

YANBU

I think a grown woman saying that she has a "boyfriend " is weird; I think the word is the reserve of the young and inexperienced tbh.

malificent7 · 23/04/2017 22:16

Ok... partner in crime is a bit cringe... but kind of true!

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BlondeBecky1983 · 23/04/2017 22:17

I hate the word partner, think it's very unromantic and screams old and boring to me but each to their own! He's my fiancé and was previously my boyfriend. We have lived together for 3 years.

malificent7 · 23/04/2017 22:17

What has finances got to do with it? We help each other out when we can but joint accounts for everything are almost as cringe as " partner in crime. "

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Dozer · 23/04/2017 22:17

Yabu: if you have neither joint home or finances he's a bf, and the differences are only usually pointed out on MN when posters are posting negative things about their relationships with bfs.

AtrociousCircumstance · 23/04/2017 22:18

I see. Are you bank robbers? Grin

StrawberryJelly00 · 23/04/2017 22:18

Lol! Yes some responses can be quite harsh but remember people online are strangers who don't know you so cannot make a real judgement on your whole life.

They are making a judgement/giving a view on one aspect - the aspect that you have chosen to share online.

Also their points of view come from their own experiences - LTB etc

Shurleyshummishtake · 23/04/2017 22:18

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malificent7 · 23/04/2017 22:19

Lol! Yes.

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HoneyDragon · 23/04/2017 22:19

Well if it helps until he became husband mine was my boyfriend, and I often got corrected and told I should say partner because I lived with him. Grin

WorraLiberty · 23/04/2017 22:19

I think you might be referring to the comment I made to the OP of another thread?

She's been seeing a guy who lives 150 miles away, just once a fortnight and he hasn't yet built a relationship with her kids, despite the fact she's decided she wants a baby with him.

She referred to him as her partner.

I think he's still very much a boyfriend at this stage.

If that's not what you're talking about, ignore me Grin

EverythingEverywhere1234 · 23/04/2017 22:19

How is it true?? 😂 Have you ever such an exciting story to tell? Or is it something boring?

chickenjalfrezi · 23/04/2017 22:20

Disagree - been together 2 years, expecting baby, both mid thirties and I take great satisfaction in referring to him as my 'boyfriend'. Makes me feel young Grin

I hate the term 'partner'. Reminds me of school - 'grab a partner' shudders

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ArtemisiaGentilleschi · 23/04/2017 22:20

Partner is a really really naff word.
'my paaaaaaartner' usually said in really twee whine.

gabsdot · 23/04/2017 22:21

IMO a partner is someone you have strong ties to, joint finances, a house, children, pets......

I think it's become more normal to call boy/girl friends partners. A friend of mine started dating a guy recently and straight away she called him her partner. I think that's odd.

EverythingEverywhere1234 · 23/04/2017 22:21

Fwiw I live with my boyfriend. He's my boyfriend every time I mention him. That's not to say we haven't got plans and we don't see a real future, I just find partner a bit cringey personally. On here tho, I use DP, for ease of reading.

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