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Gatecrashing social event

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MuffinMaiden Sun 23-Apr-17 18:26:50

I'm not crazy am I? I arrived at a social event, where I was looking forward to seeing my friends, and having my DS play with my friend's DD, and am informed by BIL that Nana is on the way to look after my DS. Without asking me or DP. When as far as I'm aware she has no intention on joining in the event.

I came home because my laid back afternoon with friends was no longer that.

I'm not U to think that if you want to see your DGS, you ask, not just gatecrash a fun afternoon!

pipsqueak25 Sun 23-Apr-17 19:23:43

bit cheeky isn't it ? no doubt she thought she was missing out on something good.

BackforGood Sun 23-Apr-17 19:28:57

You need to explain better.
Was it a public event (fete? Dog show? Sports match?) you went to?
Was it something that someone was hosting (say a BBQ)?

Who made the arrangements ?
Had the Nana been asked if she would babysit so the parents could have a child free afternoon? or was she just tagging along?

Your OP is all a bit unclear.

MuffinMaiden Sun 23-Apr-17 19:45:59

Event was D&D, (I'm a bit of a nerd), a few friends, including mummy friends, hosted by BIL. No mention of Nana being there, I have never once asked her (or anyone else) to babysit. She never asked. I don't believe she intended to play D&D, she just wanted to snuggle and play with DS.

twattymctwatterson Sun 23-Apr-17 19:51:50

An event hosted by BIL, so her son? And she wanted to look after your DC so you could play? Presumably it's easier to play D&D when you're not fully focused on a small child? I'm assuming there's a back story here but from your op and your update YABU

steff13 Sun 23-Apr-17 19:57:48

A grandmother wanting to play with and snuggle with her grandchild?! Shocking!

If your son wasn't playing, then certainly it would be easier for you to play of his grandmother was occupying him.

WinBigly Sun 23-Apr-17 19:59:13

Unless there's a massive drip-feed/backstory en route, I really don't get why this bothers you. She wanted to spend some time with her grandchild and presumably nobody else was upset by her presence confused

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 23-Apr-17 20:00:56

You left the event because you were miffed that your kid was being looked after by his Nan?

grannytomine Sun 23-Apr-17 20:01:52

How was she gatecrashing? It was her son's house and he knew she was attending. I guess if you don't like who invites you don't have to go.

rollonthesummer Sun 23-Apr-17 20:05:24

Who were the friends' children going to be playing with once your DS had left?

MuffinMaiden Sun 23-Apr-17 20:06:14

My DS was set to play with my friend's DD, I was more looking forward to hanging out with my mummy friend and watching our kids play than the D&D. If she had asked, I would have said no. She just presumes she's needed.

SaucyJack Sun 23-Apr-17 20:09:25

Does Nana ever get a look-in elsewhere?

WinBigly Sun 23-Apr-17 20:09:53

I don't believe she intended to play D&D, she just wanted to snuggle and play with DS

I was more looking forward to hanging out with my mummy friend and watching our kids play than the D&D

Double standards going on here.

steff13 Sun 23-Apr-17 20:10:56

Your son could still have played with your friend's daughter with his grandmother there, though, and you could have still hung out with your friends. I'm still not getting the issue, I'm afraid.

MuffinMaiden Sun 23-Apr-17 20:12:12

It wasn't at her sons house. It was at my DP's workplace, but BIL organised it. If I had known beforehand she'd be there I wouldn't have gone. I just didn't want to deal with her for once and actually get to see my friends. It was only a couple of hours and my mummy friend was going whether I was or not. I do think I was U for storming out, but this was the first time in a long time I was meant to have Nana free socialising time!

Iamastonished Sun 23-Apr-17 20:12:38

What is D & D?

WilburIsSomePig Sun 23-Apr-17 20:13:04

Sorry, what's D & D?

What was the problem with her being there? I don't understand how it affected you very much, other than the fact that you clearly don't like the woman.

WilburIsSomePig Sun 23-Apr-17 20:13:59

Is your 'mummy' friend different from just a normal friend?

ProseccoBitch Sun 23-Apr-17 20:15:10

What on earth is D&D?

YABU for saying 'mummy friend' hmm

Hassled Sun 23-Apr-17 20:15:22

If you were there and your DS, and your BIL were there, then it was a family gathering more than a social event really, wasn't it? She probably thought she was being kind and helpful - I can't imagine playing D&D while keeping a vague eye on a child is very doable. Cut her some slack - sounds like a well-meaning misunderstanding more than anything else.

steff13 Sun 23-Apr-17 20:15:24

Dungeons and Dragons.

If she was there to see your son, how did that stop you socializing with your friends?

Hassled Sun 23-Apr-17 20:15:40

Dungeons & Dragons.

GotToGetMyFingerOut Sun 23-Apr-17 20:15:46


ProseccoBitch Sun 23-Apr-17 20:16:11

I'm now saying 'mummy friend' in my head a la the Inbetweeners 'car friend' grin

Iamastonished Sun 23-Apr-17 20:16:21

I don't understand why her being there was such a big deal either.

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