AIBU to still be annoyed by this "psychic"?
I'm not sure of all the correct terminology or
bollocks whatever, and i have seen one or two myself for a girls night out. But this one psychic in particular really annoys me.
7 years ago When I fell pregnant with my son my DPs mother had a reading from a family friend who claims to be a psychic.
The lady told my DPs mother that the baby I was carrying is a little girl, she was going to be born early but healthy... and that "even though the baby isn't your sons you will all raise it as though it is..."
Now DPM and his sister who was there laughed this off but when they told me I felt sick, I was absolutely raging I thought how dare someone say something so evil and untrue.
Backstory is that I was in my late teens, I fell pregnant the first time we had sex in the first month of dating (this is not the debate so no flaming or shaming for that please). So the pregnancy was a huge surprise to my family and my DPs.
I wound myself up so much my mother had to calm me down for the sake of my child (if that makes sense I was less than 12 weeks pregnant)
The build up to my 20 week scan was looming and I was so worried that if they say I'm having a girl that the family are going to believe this "psychic"and also the worry that she said my baby was going to be premature.
I found out and fast forward I had a little boy, over due, healthy, absolute image of his dad no debate about it.
Now the reason I am bringing this up is because there is a family do coming up this summer and this women will be there DPs family still laugh it off but I am still rather angry.
The same women last year sent my DPs sister a message
over Facebook telling her she is going to fall pregnant with twins that year, she was over the moon and rather excited. Unfortunately DPs sister and her husband have fertility issues and are under going IVF with two failed attempts and has not fallen pregnant since she received the message.
I just think this women is pure evil and doesn't deserve to "practise" being a psychic or call herself one or anything of the sort. I really want to say something to her but everyone (DP and his family and even some members of mine) are telling me to leave it and let it go.
Sorry for the long post but didn't want to drip feed!! Well done if you made it so far but WWUD?
All pyshics are assholes preying on vulnerable people. I would go and point out that she has yet to make a single prediction that came true and ask why she insists on tormenting people and lying to them still.
But then I loathe "psychics" and am somewhat of a cow.
She's utterly revolting. I would go but not speak to her and if she approached me I would quietly but firmly tell her to get the fuck away from me.
YADNBU. I'd have been livid! Quite apart from the validity or not of the psychic bollocks, which really isn't worth getting in to, no-one has the right to say things like that because they are really just upsetting and nothing to do with her, both instances. I would have found it very hard to forget and I'm not a bit surprised you don't want to bump into her, she sounds like an interfering busybody of the worst kind. The idea that you'd tell someone who's having IVF that they'll fall pregnant with twins - can she not realise how she could contribute to a vulnerable person's heartbreak by saying something like that?
Are you worried that you're going to VERY tempted to say something rude to her at this event, because I would be, and I think you're right to be thinking about it and preparing yourself, TBH.
I would personally suspect my MIL of making that up. What's she like in general OP?
I would march straight to to the "psychic" and say: So, you were wrong then, about x,y and z!
Same as Lynette, I'd loudly denounce any and all of her so-called predictions and make her look like the charlatan she is.
I feel like this lady needs telling, she ruined what was meant to be a special time for me and our family's and even more so my DPS, I see the heartbreak and pain when they have been told the IVF hasn't worked or when she has come on her period it is awful so for someone who claims to be family to make such shit up makes me just as mad and think how can someone get away with it?
This family gathering is meant to be a happy event and not about me so I do not want to cause a scene (best to lay off the alcohol then...) I really want to go too so I don't see why I should make up some cock and bull about why I can't go, but again the build up fills me with dread and that horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach.
I'm also annoyed that no one from his family has not yet told her she is out of line.
Fortunetly (or unfortunetly) DPS won't be at the event as she will be away due to work commitments.
I don't think DPM made it up and DPS was also there who I trust completely I have a great relationship with them both, which could be why they "laughed" it off rather than ask me or anything like that.
Ha, I would just have to introduce her to my little boy who she predicted would be a girl! With a sweet smile on my face of course
But seriously, it sounds like this woman is awful, and could have done real damage to relationships had your DP/MIL not laughed it off. People like this are absolute charlatans - know personally of someone who was deeply upset by something a so-called psychic told her.
If family members are taking her predictions seriously, then I think a few gentle conversations need to happen before the event, about not taking this stupid woman's 'psychic' predictions to heart.
I feel like this lady needs telling
You could call / write / talk to her, to tell her about the impact of her "predictions" - but her comeback will probably be well rehearsed and just as infuriating. Likely to be:
"Oh well Spirit is never wrong, these things may well be for the future"
Fucking spiteful cowbag.
She's a real shitstirrer using her supposed 'psychic powers' to mess with other people's lives. Toxic.
Again...I would suspect your MIL made this up.
Why on earth would any reasonable person REPEAT this to a pregnant woman?
Seems fishy to me.
It has never crossed my mind for a second it was made up by MIL, like I said I have a great relationship with them, she was the 2nd person I told was pregnant, DP 1st obviously. I am closer to DP family than my own. Also she didn't go "mad" either when the same women told her daughter she was going to fall pregnant just shrugged it off and I said to her in private "Family member
cuntyface should not be telling her things like that and getting her hopes up" and she replied well you know what she's like just ignore it.
Also if MIL had made it up I think she would be putting up more of a fighting making sure I don't get a chance to confront this woman rather than just telling me to let it go she doesn't seem that bothered if I do or don't say something, then again she might have a word when she sees her in private?
I wonder if she will predict me punching her in the face?
Maybe she'd LIKE you to punch her in the face? I think the 'you know what she's like' comment speaks volumes! Sounds like she's put up with her for years and can't be arsed to challenge her, but is not averse to her being challenged?
well she should not have told you at all! Who does that??
I think maybe they would like someone to say something, the "psychic woman" is seen as quite matriarchal and also much older than myself. So I agree that maybe my DPs family might just put up with it as they are use to her so no one says anything. Where as I would, but like I said I don't want to cause a scene at someone else's special event, I believe even if it was done discreetly the tension and uncomfortableness (if that's even a word!) would be picked up on. I don't want to look like "the bad one" for picking on or targeting this "vulnerable" old lady... IYSWIM.
Even if this psychic woman had actually said this, I'd say it was shit stirring and quite bitchy of your mother in law to tell you what's she'd said.
In my opinion, "psychics" tend to be meddlers and con artists.
One (I hadn't asked for a "prediction") told me that I would have an extra marital affair that year.
Bitch. I didn't have an affair, btw
At the end of the day, if the family have known her years and still believe this bullshit, thats their issue.
She sounds awful. But you knew the child was Dps. So if the baby was a girl or not.....you knew the truth. Why let it ruin it? You knew she was wrong.
They have invited to their party. They are clearly happy to put up with her shit. Confronting her at the party would not be a good idea. And dont speak for your sil.
KateDaniels2 Oh yes I knew 100% my DC was my partners I was just worried that if I was told I was having a girl then his family would think the psychic was right. They didn't believe her and i was never questioned or asked if there could be a posibility they literally just seemed to shrug it off and wasn't really mentioned again until she messaged SIL and when the invite come for this family event.
The do hasn't been arranged by DPs close family but a cousin who is related to DP and Mystic fucking Meg.
Paws I'm sorry but that did make me laugh. I don't know how people come up with such shite!
Your DPs family are taking the high road with her and they're probably right to encourage you to do the same. I think you need to let it go tbh.
I think I would simply insist that she is excluded. That's a strong enough message and more dignified than having it put in public in anyway. It is reasonable enough to exclude her in the basis that "she told MIL that my child was not DPs" and repeat this. Don't get into all the psychic bullshit explanations. It's nonsense, don't engage with that. The bottom line is that ^ is what she said.
I agree with Birthday
Take out the "psychic" element and this women is a particularly nasty brand of shit stiring gossip monger.
I have no idea why people - even in jest - entertain these con artists who prey on the vulnerable and cause untold amounts of harm and anxiety.
Personally my line would be "if she is in attendance at this event then I won't be - I'm shocked that you would continue to pander to her extremely unpleasant behaviour".
The op can not insist this woman is excluded from a party her dhs cousin is having.
Op take the high road. She isnt a nice person. And your ils would be bonkers to take anything she says to heart. But you can't do anything about that.
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