It's DS's 11th birthday coming up. He has a variety of issues stemming from early childhood which mean he struggles to make and keep friendships. He has always therefore just been happy to have a day out somewhere nice for his birthday with me, DP and DSS (who is here every other weekend). This year he does have s couple of friends (one in particular who he is closer to) and would ideally like to do something with his friend and not DSS. DSS is much more sociable than my DS and we have found it doesn't tend to work when my DS's friends are brought into the mix with them both as DS's social issues come to the door and he ends up being sidelined again so DP and I have ageees it's probably for the best to keep the school friends separate from family events etc. I've explained to DS it's not really fair to exclude DSS and so he is happy to do the same as usual and have a nice day out on the weekend closest to his birthday with us as a family.
On his actual birthday though he would like to do a little something with a friend or a couple of friends (tea out, trampoline park type thing maybe). As this is a day when DSS wouldn't usually be here anyway I thought this would be ok. DP however usually spends this evening taking DSS to football training. He agrees he should be here for DS's birthday to celebrate with him but says he'll have to bring DSS as it's his usual night with him and he can't tell him he can't take him training but he also isn't invited to the celebrations. What do you all think? To put it in context, DSS always has a party at his mum's with his friends and not my DS and then we have a family day out together when he's here to celebrate too. I can't help but feel my DS is missing out on having the little celebration with his friends which he would like, but can see DP's point too.
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JustWhat · 23/04/2017 09:06
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