This is really mundane, but it's been troubling me since it happened.
My dc is taking part in a school show, as part of a group (4 children).
They needed to practise during the holidays (logistics of different dc being away on ho,iday at different times means all practices were scheduled for this week/weekend), and so we parents divided up the practices. I have an older disabled dc, so I asked if my turn could be at a time when she is at school, as simpler for everyone. All fine.
My turn to host a practice was Friday (yesterday). I have a younger dc who was ill all week, and so on Thursday I emailed asking whether anyone else could step in and have the dc over, as I didn't want my younger child passing the bug on.
Another parent (A) stepped in, happy to host, all well and good.
Then this morning I got a text from A asking how dc3 is, and whether I wanted her to host tomorrow's practice too. I thought she had me muddled with parent B (same name, different spelling), and said so, as I was never scheduled to host tomorrow's practice. I didn't hear back from A.
I then dropped dc2 round to friend B's house (not practice related, just playing), and mentioned the texts to B, who reminded me that she wasn't hosting tomorrow's practice, A was. Which left me as A had asked if I wanted her to step in again.
B then pointed out that maybe, since A had stepped in and taken over yesterday, she was hinting that I should do the same tomorrow?
This honestly hadn't occurred to me at all.
My AIBU is: should it have occurred to me? A has been a bit funny with me since (saw her this afternoon). Is it weird it didn't occur to me? My reasons for not having the dc at the weekend still stand (disabled dd1, who everyone knows, who is having a hard time currently, and frankly, having extra people over when she is around is just not an option), but even without that, would anyone actually expect (without saying so initially) that when they step up to help someone out - by taking on my practice when dc3 was ill - that it instantly meant we had actually swapped practice times? I have been very much left feeling that I am in the wrong, A was very much 'oh, no, not to worry' whilst also implying it was a big deal.
(For full disclosure, the dc involved are 10, know what they are doing so no huge parental input needed for the practices, and the practices have all been scheduled for non-meal times, literally a quick drop round for an hour to make sure they know what they are doing, rather than full on all-day with a house full of kids and hands on coaching/catering etc)
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nonstopholiday · 22/04/2017 20:37
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