To ask for your stories about the worst people you've ever dated?(54 Posts)
Sat here bored
not getting on with paperwork having a glass of Cabernet Sauvignon and trying to kill some time. I was thinking about how I've never actually been in a relationship with a decent man. Would love to see if anyone can beat my stories!
Boyfriend 1: Controlling, emotionally and financially abusive arse. Would blank me for days if I refused to shave my body hair and would not introduce me to his family (even though we were cohabiting) because I was 'an embarrassment' and would vet my friends and decide which ones he liked enough for me to continue seeing.
Boyfriend 2: Very funny and witty most of the time, but an alcoholic and addicted to amphetamine. Lived in a mobile home. Couldn't keep a job down. Developed serious jealousy issues later into the relationship if I so much as looked at another man in the street. Convinced I was having an affair with an imaginary person.
Boyfriend 3: Another alcoholic with some sort of undiagnosed personality disorder. Would go missing for weeks on end then rock up again when he needed some money. Never brushed his teeth and had terrible personal hygiene as he was always hungover. Cheated on me. Vanished into dust when I said I might be pregnant.
There's been a few other creeps from dating sites etc, but that's a whole other thread
1st 'proper' boyfriend - was blatantly flirting with my friend from the off, dumped me to shag her. I actually had to listen to it (student days).
Next boyfriend suggested I didn't need to wear make-up anymore since I 'had him' (on the first date!) and started saying 'I love you' three weeks into our relationship. I was very young and had made it clear that I wasn't looking for a very 'serious' relationship at the time, he was a fair few years older than me (and married, though definitely and 100% separated). I lucky realised quickly he was a control freak and ended it quite sharpish.
Had a 'thing' going with one guy, thought he was boyfriend material until he said I couldn't tell anyone or share on Facebook as he had a girlfriend in his hometown.
Gosh, I don't come over to well here, I swear I've grown up myself since!
Aww I'm sorry it's been disastrous op!
First serious boy friend:
Was lovely but SO boring. I mean like, didn't do anything but play computer games for days on end. I came to his house to go out with him once and he told me he was busy on his live game and didn't want to go.
I did not let him live that one down.
We lasted a few years until he cheated and I told him to piss off.
Next one was adorable, gentleman, really lovely, asked if he could kiss me the first time and was clever.
His family were complete and utter racists and proud of it.
I mean I would cringe and try and muffle my shock and I refused to put in public with them. It really put me off, but we broke up shortly after.
Next one was a nightmare. I really do not know why my brain temporarily lost all sense,
He was nasty to me from the off, I met him at work and he would Neg me, call me names and just be a bully to everybody. when he started to get flirty I was seriously flattered that he actually liked me.
Oh boy. What an idiot.
He wanted me to pay all the bills and refused to work more than 12 hours a week, he locked me in the house and wouldnt let me leave without him!
He had a foul attitude towards his mother.
He screamed at me in the street and I was stupid enough to take it!
I only left with help. Best thing that ever happened.
Now with dh,
My favourite so far ;)
1st boyfriend - abusive in every way possible. I was with him from 15-19 he was a disgusting prick.
2nd boyfriend - most loving, sweet eat kindest guy in the world, would do anything to make me happy and probably still would! We were supposed to get married, I found out i couldn't have kids naturally, fell into depression, bought a dog, felt a bit better, started to feel crap again, then ended things because it just wasn't right for me - I must be crazy lol.
3rd boyfriend - whirlwind, amazing everything! Extremely attractive and exciting. He Randomly ended things one day and Then i found a receipt for £150 worth of different butt plugs and anal beads from lovehoney for him... I don't think I was his type 😂
* travelled America for 4 months, came home, hooked a one way ticket to Australia*
CURRENT PARTNER - I told him I was moving to OZ and didn't want anything serious, we started to really like each other, I cancelled OZ and decided to face my fertility issues (basically both tubes were blocked but they didn't know why so wanted to perform keyhole surgery to see cause" so with support of new partner went to hospital app to be booked in for surgery, got a date for the following month (November) THEN found out I was pregnant the next day, couldn't have been more delighted, I now have a beautiful little boy and another baby on the way! My tubes weren't blocked after all it seems 😂
So everything's great apart from feeling like I'm in a 3 way relationship with him and his mum 🙄
That's the short version.
Oh and I once briefly dated a guy who turned out to be married with a wife and 2 kids. I had noooooo idea about this! Safe to say that didn't materialise
Hmm. The famous comedian who liked to angrily tell me during sex that I was a "fucking bitch" - much to my bemusement. Now claims to be fluffy family man.
Cammy so great that something positive happened though, congratulations!
Or the evangelical Christian who kept blaming me for being too sexy, 'sex outside of marriage is a sin', but then coerced me into more - culminating in his staying over the night... Only for him to propose to his (secret) long distance girlfriend 3 weeks later?
And he's now a celebrated "youth pastor" with Jesus in his heart!!
I went out with a guy for about five months. I don't think he vacuumed or changed his bed sheets in that time
In my student days I fell madly in love with an was in a relationship with an older guy who claimed to have 10 children with several women, never ever told me during the 1 year we were together where he lived, pestered me to go on the game with him as my pimp and got me to sell weed for him at uni. Strangely enough, when he turned up at my parents house during the holidays, they weren't that impressed... No idea why!!!
I met a man randomly when walking off the train. I went to his flat where he locked me in and made me iron his shirt. Then had the gall to say it wasn't good enough.
Maybe the one who got drunk and beat up his own mother in the street...
My first serious boyfriend was a lot older than me and married (I was 17) a couple of months after I ended it with him I found out he was sleeping with my mum, messed me up quite a bit that, haven't spoken to either of them in years now though
I had an awful one who I thought I loved at the time...
He used to absolutely shower me with gifts and I was a poor student so I think I was a bit dazzled by him. However, he kept a baseball bat in his car, had terrible road rage, kept a knife under his bed, had professional photos of his naked ex in his house that 'he'd paid for so he wasn't going to chuck them out' and used to
flirt with talk to the women from his office on hands-free in front of me.
He used to smash his hand at the wall next to my head when I was arguing with him but that was ok cos he'd 'never smack a woman'
I think he was probably on steroids too but I never really had the guts to ask him. Thank the lord he broke up with me after 18 months because he'd met 'the love of his life' on a night out. His type was basically vulnerable women and she was going through a hell of a time apparently. I truly hope she is ok and he's a changed man because I believe they're still together and have a baby .
I was gutted for about six months when we broke up but I'm so bloody relieved now, obviously. I haven't spoken to him since the day he dumped me. I suspect he's still an abusive arsehole.
I've never written all that down before and I always thought it was probably partly my fault we broke up. I can now see it was probably mostly his fault
iknow your mum?!
Jesus Mary and all the saints. Are they still, um, together?!
went out for two years with a man who stabbed me in the neck with a fork because 'i was cold and he wanted to see if i had any real emotions'
He also knocked me out with a lamp. Bit a chunk out of my face and sexually assaulted me whilst covered in black paint.... no idea why he was covered in black paint but it was pretty frightening.
He used to hide knives everywhere too. I had a key to the flat and he would take it out of my bag when i was asleep and hide it and then accuse me of loosing it. He would also hide some of his own belongings around and accuse me of stealing them. He also once changed my calender so that my work shifts were wrong and i missed a shift. He slept with two of my friends. He destroyed loads of my stuff. He told everyone we knew i was crazy. I felt like i was crazy. He was obsessed with choking me and every time he was drunk would put his hands round my throat. Total alcoholic and coke head obv.
I tried to leave him a few times but id get panic attacks when i was away from him. For some reason i felt safer around him than i did away from him, when i would think of all the things he did to hurt me.
I actually had to leave the country for while, in the end just to get myself away from him.
I was a mess for ages and 6 years later i still get flashbacks of things that he did.
Two years i was with that man. I thought i loved him. Why?!?!
And i wouldnt seem like someone that would put up with anything like that!
I was a bit of a scumbag magnet until I was 20.
First boyfriend held me down and scratched bitch into my arm with a nail. I was petrified. I avoided him after that. This was a week after I lost my virginity to him.
My next boyfriend cheated on me, and lied about me constantly. I didn't care so much, but then I fell pregnant and had our daughter, all the while he was lying about me, we split up and his lies got worse, by this point his lies were to people like the police, social services and my daughters nursery. He tried to have my daughter taken away and I genuinely believe his sole intention was to ruin me. It took me a little my time to start to recover.
Next one, I was engaged to him, we were trying for a baby. I had his name tattooed on me, before it was healed he was gone. He just ghosted me. He came back into my life, found out he had someone else left at, found out just before he ghosted me. So he was cheating when I had my tattoo done. I fell pregnant.,we split up. On the surface it didn't sound like much, but I loved him so much. Seven years on, I'm as over it as I will ever be!
My next boyfriends were, one man who told me that he really,really liked me but couldn't get past that I was fat, at the time I was 11 1/2 stone. Not huge! I dread to think what he would say about me now!
I then went out with a man for 6 months who had his house raided for drugs, I then found out he had been dealing cocaine and weed. He was lovely, but couldn't get past that!
now I have my husband. In all fairness he's quite amazing!
Ha ha - no they didn't really last long after I found out, fortunately I had good friends and they looked after me. One of them offered for me to go and live with her and I moved out of home very quickly thankfully.
One boyfriend tried to make me go Dutch on condoms "because you enjoy it as much as me"
Another appeared almost OK, except when he started bringing his weird sidekick along with him on dates.
Yet another was so close to his mother that he never ventured an opinion on anything without consulting her first.
It's a wonder I didn't give up on men....
gobshite husband was very jealous. I was not allowed to work as that would mean I would have to talk to men. He would send me flowers then deny sending them and accuse me of having an affair. He left me (I did not have the confidence to leave) for another woman who knew he was married. He also lacked in the personal hygiene department.
I learnt to stand on my own two feet and never again will be manipulated or put down by any man.
Nice seeming guy, very young, maybe 21, doing his accountancy qualifications who I met when I was 17. Went on a few dates, spent time at his home (parents house) until I realised hardly any of his stuff was there. I asked him "do you actually live here?" And it all came out. He was married with a young baby but it hasn't been planned so his parents had approved him getting his kicks elsewhere because he should have been young and carefree...
Classic one, I was the wrong religion, he was ashamed to tell his parents, but obviously good enough to shag. It ended very bitterly, he wouldn't talk to me, bit awkward given his room was next to mine in a shared student house.
Another classic, the one who went off with my best mate. Marvellous! He got in touch many years later, no idea why or how he found a locked down profile on FB. Within a couple of days, he posted 'in a relationship' status with someone else (I was, still am, happily married.) Mid-life crisis, maybe?
Also rock band guy, treated me like a groupie most of the time. He was gorgeous and women used to literally come up and offer themselves to him in front of me. Not good for self esteem. He acted like i should be grateful for the time he spent alone with me. He was fucking awesome in bed though. Never had anything like it before or since.
I was twenty seven, my Dad had just died and I had recently separated frim my husband.
I met a forty five year old man on a night out and began dating him although we lived forty miles apart.
He very insidiously began to erode my confidence.
It culminated in us being in a club with his friends, he was off with his friends whilst I was attempting to evade the token wierdo who was following me around the club.
Becomune exasperated I sdked my BF if he wouldn't mind staying by my side to see off the wierdo.
BF said to me " you know why hes following you around dont you?"
" No, not really. Hes just really pissed and annoying me"
" he's following you because you're the best looking woman in here. Of course that wont be the case in ten years. So enjoy it whilst it lasts"
Other gems he came out with were that middle aged women were the loneliest creatures on earth.
I was apparently better looking than ninety percenty of all women by his estimation
I also discovered his predilection for barely legal porn as he tried to convince me that only an older man wouldn't leave me for a younger woman the minute I hit thirty five.
He also had a serious case of death grip but blamed it on me (two kids by c section. Ahem)
Long story short, I dumped him for a twenty year old who is my present DH.
Best thing I ever did. It makes me wither a bit inside to even think of him.
Oh where to start... The unfaithful, the married but very good at keeping it secret, the incredibly boring with hobbies. The one who had me yanked out of bed early one morning when the police busted him. Many (many) years later he turned out to be OK and is sat at the other end of the sofa!
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