To want to keep DD covered up?

[Callaway22]

We took the kids swimming today. DH decided to whip 3yo DD's swimming costume off her in the shower area so as to rinse it off before packing it away.

I asked him never to do that again and felt very uneasy about her not having clothes on. The shower area is in full view of the pool and DH felt bad once he realised my concerns?

AIBU or in this day and age, when we know where to be so many paedofiles etc, should we be keeping our little ones covered up?

[Cynara]

Really?

[MyOtherNameIsTaken]

[Whosthemummynow]

I think you may be being a tad U

[ThymeLord]

You're being ridiculous.

[Callaway22]

I should add that I suffer from quite severe anxiety so often worry about what ifs and I'm wondering if this is clouding my ordinarily sound judgement.

[BuzzKillington]

Put her in a cupboard, never let her out.

You can't be too careful.

[WorraLiberty]

YABU

It's a swimsuit

Not a cloak of invisibility.

[Pansiesandredrosesandmarigolds]

You do sound over-anxious.

[scottishdiem]

If Earth were the centre of common sense and critical thinking, then on this issue you are somewhere out past the orbit of Pluto.

Very very unreasonable.

[Callaway22]

Okay, I get the message. I didn't have a go at DH by the way, I just asked him if he could keep her costume on her in the showers from now on. Came on here because I was concerned it might be my anxiety getting the better of me. Thank you for your feedback.

[Justmadeperfectflapjacks]

I would have kept my dd clothed too op.

We are entitled to our own parenting preferences. .

[miwelaisjacydo]

Jeepers what a silly thing to say! YABVU

[Cynara]

Yes. Your anxiety is eliminating clouding your judgement.

[Gileswithachainsaw]

You do realise paedos will perv over a child whether they are naked or covered in sheets.

Meanwhile the rest of the population really aren't phased by a naked toddler getting changed.

[ZilphasHatpin]

when we know where to be so many paedofiles etc, should we be keeping our little ones covered up?

The paedophiles exist whether your child is covered or not. What exactly do you think they will be doing that they wouldn't be doing if she has her costume on?

[museumum]

I do this all the time with 3 yr old ds so I can wrap him snugly in his towelling robe without him getting cold. I don't see the problem at all, he certainly doesn't mind.

[User2468]

Analyse logically what harm could come to her being in a shower with her parents?

I have anxiety but have no worries about that, unless DS pees on the floor!

[PeaFaceMcgee]

Yeah, if the shower area is in full view of the pool I wouldn't want my daughter's vulva exposed.

[Callaway22]

Zilphas - looking at her private parts was my concern but I appreciate everyone thinks this is not a concern and I'm being totally OTT.

[youaredeluded]

I actually disagree with you OP... but our local pool has signs up saying all children must remain in their swimming suits in the shower.

[Kittykatmacbill]

Nah, I feel the same as you op. Feels really odd that it's okay to a three year old naked in the shower but not anyone else.

[Trifleorbust]

Meh. I get that it might seem a bit odd but she's only 3. Unless it bothered her it wouldn't bother me.

[Gwenci]

I don't think you're being unreasonable OP.

Though it isn't the paedophile thing that would bother me, more the fact that I wouldn't want to take my swimming costume off in front of a pool full of people so I wouldn't do it to my DC either.

[heyduggeeallday]

My ds is 2 I would never expose him like that

[Ameliablue]

I wouldn't be concerned about a 3 year old with no clothes on in the swimming showers but personally I wouldn't take the costume off as there is no real need to.